Enigma2517
Don Juan
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Alright I won't bore u with the details just give u the basic story.
This one cute girl in my psychology class that just started talking to me one day. She maintained a lot of interest in me and we even worked on a project one weekend. While she was over at my house we got to hang out for a good amount of time and I got to know her pretty well. By now I was pretty interested too
So of course, I'm just throwing in the usual DJ moves...the C and F, kino, whatever. The entire next school week this girl and me flirt like mad. Finally, Friday rolls around and we end up going to the back to school dance as dates. So of course I call my boys up, we roll around and hit the bong for a bit, and then I show up at this dance.
One hour...ever so fashionably late. I think the anticipatition killed her before I even got there. Hug here and some whispering in the ear there, pretty soon we're all over each other. This all happened in like the first 5 minutes I was there! I was astounded...your site truely does something to change a man drastically.
Things calm down after awhile and we just dance and hangout. After one hour there us and this other couple leave the dance and go out to the baseball fields. We just chase each other around and makeout on the bleachers. Before long, its time to go and I leave for the night.
Realizing my first mistake as I'm writing this....I called the chick the DAY AFTER that. Ridiculous. But maybe not entirely....I did have to work out something important...our next psychology project. We had to meet on sunday so I called her up to confirm times and ****. Other than that I just hung out and had a blast partying until sunday. So I wake up sunday, feeling refreshed, social, and most of all anticipating her arrival. Well she calls about 2 hours prior and tells me she can't get a ride there or back. Sounds likely, knowing her parents. I act like its not big deal and just go do something else.
Now the weird **** starts...I go to school on monday and everything just seems so different. I try not to give her too much attention but still try to maintain the vibe that i'm into her. I talk to her and everything seems to be going ok...shes just a bit shy and reserved. Its ok I think I feel like that too I'm just really trying not to show it. But then again on tuesday a similiar dilmena. Once again, we can hold a conversation but it just doesn't seem the same...she kinda stopped smiling at me as much and beginning to avoid eye contact. I also asked her about trying to meet up again on thursday to do the project. Half as enthusiastically as before she replies...I'll ask my parents.
Wednesday rolls around, shes really tired and probably in not the greatest mood. I approach her and once again exchange some empty conversation. Of course by now even i can see the obvious. She will barely even look at me anymore. On our way out I ask her about the project. Cutting out the unimportant logistics she basically tells me she can come but she really doesn't want to. Nervous, I try to fix the situation even more. I kinda tangled myself up. I was giving myself the "now or never you gotta take some chances" speech over the "shes in a bad mood and/or not interested in you at all right now just step off" speech. But yeah...I see her at lunch, approach her, awkwardly stand by while she chats with her friendly once again barely acknowledging me and then I ask her if friday night was for real (like not a rebound or something). She says it wasn't but thats about all she says before she quickly retreats back to her friends.
I can't believe I was actually approaching her thinking I was going to ask her out. But at least now I know for sure that shes really not into me anymore.
I thought I'd feel like ****...but surprisingly enough, (partial) rejection really didn't feel that bad. At least the feeling of uncertainty was gone.
Now I'm here...Wednesday night...no project tomorrow...probably awkward time in class on friday.
I'm doing exactly what I think most of you would. Just forget about her, occupy myself with other things, go pimp out some other chicks, and then maybe...sometime in the not too distant future when we get rid of all these bad vibes she might start getting into me again. Or not...who knows. But I figure just leaving her alone right now would be much better then trying to talk to her and "fix it" (hard to do when somebody doesn't even look at u when they're talking).
But thats why I'm here...to get more specific advise from the masters. Where did I go wrong? How do I fix my problem? What would be the best way to end on a good note while on the same time politely "nexting" her? Is it even worth a shot to come back in the (near) future? If so, whats the best way to go about doing this.
My possible failures (any combination of these):
1. At the start shes the one who paid all the attention to me. By the end I was the puppy dog following her around. More balance needed?
2. We built up a lot of momentum in the first week....the making out was pretty fun...should I have just asked her out then before she lost interest?
Now I know all of you will laugh because deep down inside of me still lingers the ugly AFC. But I can't help it. I really couldn't stop thinking about this girl since that one friday night. But I'm really just trying to get this thing figured out so I won't screw something up like this again.
So you guys think u could help me out?
This one cute girl in my psychology class that just started talking to me one day. She maintained a lot of interest in me and we even worked on a project one weekend. While she was over at my house we got to hang out for a good amount of time and I got to know her pretty well. By now I was pretty interested too
So of course, I'm just throwing in the usual DJ moves...the C and F, kino, whatever. The entire next school week this girl and me flirt like mad. Finally, Friday rolls around and we end up going to the back to school dance as dates. So of course I call my boys up, we roll around and hit the bong for a bit, and then I show up at this dance.
One hour...ever so fashionably late. I think the anticipatition killed her before I even got there. Hug here and some whispering in the ear there, pretty soon we're all over each other. This all happened in like the first 5 minutes I was there! I was astounded...your site truely does something to change a man drastically.
Things calm down after awhile and we just dance and hangout. After one hour there us and this other couple leave the dance and go out to the baseball fields. We just chase each other around and makeout on the bleachers. Before long, its time to go and I leave for the night.
Realizing my first mistake as I'm writing this....I called the chick the DAY AFTER that. Ridiculous. But maybe not entirely....I did have to work out something important...our next psychology project. We had to meet on sunday so I called her up to confirm times and ****. Other than that I just hung out and had a blast partying until sunday. So I wake up sunday, feeling refreshed, social, and most of all anticipating her arrival. Well she calls about 2 hours prior and tells me she can't get a ride there or back. Sounds likely, knowing her parents. I act like its not big deal and just go do something else.
Now the weird **** starts...I go to school on monday and everything just seems so different. I try not to give her too much attention but still try to maintain the vibe that i'm into her. I talk to her and everything seems to be going ok...shes just a bit shy and reserved. Its ok I think I feel like that too I'm just really trying not to show it. But then again on tuesday a similiar dilmena. Once again, we can hold a conversation but it just doesn't seem the same...she kinda stopped smiling at me as much and beginning to avoid eye contact. I also asked her about trying to meet up again on thursday to do the project. Half as enthusiastically as before she replies...I'll ask my parents.
Wednesday rolls around, shes really tired and probably in not the greatest mood. I approach her and once again exchange some empty conversation. Of course by now even i can see the obvious. She will barely even look at me anymore. On our way out I ask her about the project. Cutting out the unimportant logistics she basically tells me she can come but she really doesn't want to. Nervous, I try to fix the situation even more. I kinda tangled myself up. I was giving myself the "now or never you gotta take some chances" speech over the "shes in a bad mood and/or not interested in you at all right now just step off" speech. But yeah...I see her at lunch, approach her, awkwardly stand by while she chats with her friendly once again barely acknowledging me and then I ask her if friday night was for real (like not a rebound or something). She says it wasn't but thats about all she says before she quickly retreats back to her friends.
I can't believe I was actually approaching her thinking I was going to ask her out. But at least now I know for sure that shes really not into me anymore.
I thought I'd feel like ****...but surprisingly enough, (partial) rejection really didn't feel that bad. At least the feeling of uncertainty was gone.
Now I'm here...Wednesday night...no project tomorrow...probably awkward time in class on friday.
I'm doing exactly what I think most of you would. Just forget about her, occupy myself with other things, go pimp out some other chicks, and then maybe...sometime in the not too distant future when we get rid of all these bad vibes she might start getting into me again. Or not...who knows. But I figure just leaving her alone right now would be much better then trying to talk to her and "fix it" (hard to do when somebody doesn't even look at u when they're talking).
But thats why I'm here...to get more specific advise from the masters. Where did I go wrong? How do I fix my problem? What would be the best way to end on a good note while on the same time politely "nexting" her? Is it even worth a shot to come back in the (near) future? If so, whats the best way to go about doing this.
My possible failures (any combination of these):
1. At the start shes the one who paid all the attention to me. By the end I was the puppy dog following her around. More balance needed?
2. We built up a lot of momentum in the first week....the making out was pretty fun...should I have just asked her out then before she lost interest?
Now I know all of you will laugh because deep down inside of me still lingers the ugly AFC. But I can't help it. I really couldn't stop thinking about this girl since that one friday night. But I'm really just trying to get this thing figured out so I won't screw something up like this again.
So you guys think u could help me out?
