Zunder said:
So I am maybe meeting up with this woman at my local pub today, but I said I wasn't sure I could make it as i might be going sailing today....but told if the sailing is cancelled then I will go (she is a semi regular at the pub, and is an 8.5 on the looks scale).
Hey Zunder..how's things in the Shaky Isles ?
OK back to your question.
Telling a new prospect that you 'might' show up if your other activity is canceled can work against you. Women have massive egos and they expect to be automatically promoted to the top of the ladder in your thoughts after a ten minute convo over one drink.
When she heard that you will turn up at the pub ONLY if your sailing is called off, she thinks, " He is treating me already as his second choice, I expect to be #1. "
Every time in the past when I have been in your position I noticed that she NEVER showed up.
They also protect their egos even further ....They will never put themselves in a position of turning up and waiting for you in case you do not show up. Remember that she has NO investment in you at this stage .
Women will often flake on arrangements with men , cancel dates at the last moment, make all manner of excuses, but they fiercely protect themselves from the ego hit of these things ever happening to them.
THis is what I would do in your situation. Tell her that you are going sailing, no if's or but's, then get her email, and her digits, with a little C&F and then leave.
Contact her two days later and set up another meet. IF she has given you her # then she has at least moderate IL.
General tips - Never wait for a new woman at the bar. Never expect that a LOOSE arrangement with her will come true, and always control the thread of connection.