Advice please: awesome dates, started turning into wussy, can I unwussyfy?

[Dee Wet]

Hey dudes, I have gone out on three dates and done a lot of things right and some things wrong. Going out with this girl is like pulling teeth. But I have realized when I say "let's do something fun tomorrow" that usually locks in the date. When I text her "what are u doing tonight, maybe we can meet up" that doesn't seem to work. I feel that texting makes me seem like a wuss and it takes hours to get a text back. When I call she almost never answers. But I'm not a stalker creep. I let days go by before I call/ text. Maybe she just doesn't like me, but I feel like when I'm hanging out w her she has a great time.

The last time I hung out w her it was great. Then I waited about 4 days and texted her about meeting up if she goes out w her friends. She responded after a few hrs that she was just going to stay in. Now it's been about 5 days and I have come to the conclusion that Im not going to contact her til she contacts me-if she does. Since I got shut down last, is this the right move???

Things that I have done right: decisive date planning, good eye contact, charming conversation, listening to what she talks about and referencing it at later times seriously or jokingly, trying to leave some mystery about myself, waited til 3rd date for kiss

Things that I have done wrong: kiss was kinda wussy on the 3rd date, payed for all of the dates, might have been "too nice"

In any event, I feel like I was falling into the wuss zone and I want to know if I can come back stronger than ever? Do u think i should wait to hear from her before I initiate contact? It seems like I'm the first to initiate contact every time. Haven't gone on a lot of dates but glad my buddy told me about this site. Let me know what to do fellas...thanks

 

[kenpiffyjr]

If you've paid and taken this chick out three times and she doesn't initiate contact at all....its time to dead the broad. Don't call or text. You've already showed your hand that you like her too much so you gotta do whatever it takes (if u still want her) to think you've moved on.

 

[Brownrice]

Over-analyzing everything, acting robotic, trying to follow someone else's script is never a good thing. It will make you unsuccessful in life in general. Now, there are some good dating tips out there but you should never you should never follow advice you read in a dating book to T. You should just incorporate the good tips into your own way of doing things.

To answer your question: I don't think this girl is interested in you enough for you to pursue her. She's just enjoying the attention you're giving her. Stop blaming yourself.
If a girl is likes you, she will show interest even if you mess up. she might not respect you as much as a guy who's more alpha but she will show interest.

What the dating coaches don't tell you is that girls have types they usually go for( white, black, thugs, classy, etc), it doesn't matter how great you are, some women won't be interested if you're not their type.

Men who are successful with women have mastered the art of finding out if a girl is interested so that they don't waste time on girls who aren't mutually interested in them.

There are girls out there who would be excited to take you out, go find them. Life is too short to be wasting time on people who don't share the feelings you have for them.