This whole situation started after my cousins and u stayed at a shore house for a week. My cousins friend came over and i thought she was kind of cute so i would talk to her, crack jokes and she responded well by laughing at anything i did non stop. She thought i hated her the first 4 days for some reason (she even asked one of my cousins if i did but he told her we dident know eachother that well yet) i dont know why i guess the way i flirted with her. After the shore trip she was going away for college then at break-feast my cousin got a text from her saying she missed me already. She then gave me her phone number without me asking for it. But through facebook in an conversation that lasted from 11:30 to 1:15 it felt like she was trying to know me better it seemed by asking a lot of hard life questions. She told me any girl would be lucky to be with me and stuff then asked me if i would ever go out with a girl like her. I told her yes then she said "good lucking finding a girl like me" and i said "i dont think i need to" (i think that was smooth on my part). Then it got silent and i went to bed. She is visiting in new jersey soon and wants me to go see her but i am thinking she may see me more as a friend because we do text a lot. Should i try flirting a little harder when she visits and see her response? or just accept this girl as a friend and move on.
Advice on what I should do.
- Thread starter Sh00k
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ok, well first off, your texting her toooooo much.
your spoiling all of your "in person" conversation,
your finding out alot of information about her that you need to find out in person.
when you do meet up your going to want to have a good conversation with her and your destroying that by getting to know her too early on.
what are you going to say to her when you do meet up?? your going to talk about her trip ...then NOTHING ELSE.
you already found out all the info about her through texting with her,
REMEMBER: you want to keep her interest...soooooo....act like you have a life even if you dont... tell her your busy rock climbing or hiking out in the woods where you dont get service.lol i mean anything will really work.
or better yet, actually get out and do something that you two can have a conversation about when you two meet up.
just quit texting her..not completely ,just dont spark up convo over text or phone.. she'll WANNNT to get to know you...if she DOESNT KNOW YOU. understand what im sayin??
REMEMBER: women want what they cant or dont have.
your spoiling all of your "in person" conversation,
your finding out alot of information about her that you need to find out in person.
when you do meet up your going to want to have a good conversation with her and your destroying that by getting to know her too early on.
what are you going to say to her when you do meet up?? your going to talk about her trip ...then NOTHING ELSE.
you already found out all the info about her through texting with her,
REMEMBER: you want to keep her interest...soooooo....act like you have a life even if you dont... tell her your busy rock climbing or hiking out in the woods where you dont get service.lol i mean anything will really work.
or better yet, actually get out and do something that you two can have a conversation about when you two meet up.
just quit texting her..not completely ,just dont spark up convo over text or phone.. she'll WANNNT to get to know you...if she DOESNT KNOW YOU. understand what im sayin??
REMEMBER: women want what they cant or dont have.
Gangster Of Love
Master Don Juan
Sh00k said:thanks thats some good advice. I knew i started texting her too much and i had to take a step back and chill. I'm still debating over a long distance relationship or not.
Wrong frame already.
While most of the damage might have already been done by texting too much, you do need to stop giving her direct answers. She is testing/tooling you by asking stuff like if you would like to be with a girl like her, and you are failing by being predictable and giving her direct answers, specially telling her "YES".
Long distance relationship? What are her qualifications, besides being cute? In order to attempt somewhat of a comeback, you need to throw some qualifying questions her way. Get creative and have some good questions and answers to the stuff she says.
"Are you gonna come see me?"
"Do You like me?
"Do you think I'm cute?"
"Am I your type?"
"Would you like to find a girl like me for a relationship?"
You don't tell how old she is, so I am guessing she is in the 18-20 range, so she is asking that type of stuff just to get attention and to getting an ego boost. If she was older, I'd say she is testing you for THE WAY you respond, even more than WHAT you respond.
Have clever answers to her questions, and throw some to make her qualify herself to you.
Keep us posted on this one.