Advice on this dilemma

[Ulex]

I’m 29. This is my dilemma: I have this girlfriend from about a year now; I always knew she wasn’t my “life” girl, although she sees me that way. I have kept things going... Well, now I’ve meet this blonde where exist a strong mutual attraction and we started something, we see after hours, kisses and one time sex, but she doesn’t want to be “the second one”. I really see in this girl LTR material and I’m interested on that possibility.
Now, to be with this girl I have to finish the relationship with my current girlfriend, who is nuts for me and psychological dependent on me. Any advice how to act? And how to finish my relationship without much hurt to her?

Ulex

 

[Sp1kez]

Is having a couple good nigths with the blodne chick worth risking your relationship with the other one?

Make sure that the blonde will stay with you after you break up with the other one, coz if she leaves you then you wont have either of them

 

[Qualtran]

Originally posted by Sp1kez
Is having a couple good nigths with the blodne chick worth risking your relationship with the other one?

Make sure that the blonde will stay with you after you break up with the other one, coz if she leaves you then you wont have either of them

Dont listen to this crap.


The best thing you can possibly do right now is break things off with your girl of 1 year! Yes it will be hard for her since she is so into you, but its a lot better to do it now than 10 years down the road when you have 2 kids! Also, if you have already cheated on her, then by all means you owe it to her to break things off.

I speak from experience when I say that you should NEVER stay with a girl because you feel like you owe it to her. Breaking up with her will be the best thing you could ever do for her even if she doesn't ever realize it. You are saving her and yourself from something horrible.

 

[JonJack]

Qualtran's right. Don't listen to the other dude.

Your question of how to end it without much hurt is one that cannot be answered. No one can guarantee you that there is a way to break it off without causing hurt. Frankly speaking, just break it off, and if she gets hurt, she'll have to deal with it and you just leave and avoid her. Do let her know the reasons why you want to break it off. And the reason is not the other girl. The reason is you and how you feel. Let her know that.

She'll probably freak and break down, but it seems unavoidable. I believe you know that too. So whip out that iron will of yours and take control of your life.