Advice on Sex

[playerone]

I can hold out pretty well, but not like a porn-star yet. The thing is, when i fvck her harder and faster, i go for like 10 seconds and i'll cvm. Any advice on this, like going full speed for 5 seconds then back to normal to prevent cvmming too soon, etc?

Do you continue fvcking her after you cvmmed? And how many times would you cvm in a session.

 

[Captain]

Some people will tell you to distract yourself by thinking about something non-sexual, but I think that's stupid. I mean, you're having sex, you should be enjoying it.

Kegel exercises are very very good. I've been doing them for 30 minutes a day for 5 months and I can go for as long as I want and as many times as I want.

 

[playerone]

Yeah, i'm doing kegels like everyday, everywhere. But how many times do you cvm and still continue fvcking? For now, i'm just fvcking her for a good 30 minutes, cvm, and no more.

 

[Allurre]

Use my visualization technique.

Don't think about her when you're ****ing her.

Think of yourself as the king in bed, and that there's no way you'll come before she does.

It works.

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[Bible_Belt]

I can hold out pretty well, but not like a porn-star yet... Any advice on this?


Think of your Mom.

 

[Captain]

Yeah, i'm doing kegels like everyday, everywhere. But how many times do you cvm and still continue fvcking? For now, i'm just fvcking her for a good 30 minutes, cvm, and no more.

30 minutes is pretty good, even by the standards of most experienced men.

Make sure you do a lot of foreplay and oral on her (15-30 minutes.) I think you said in your other thread that she has usually had sex with inexperienced guys, so lots of foreplay and oral will set you apart.

I normally go until we've both cvm twice or so.

 

[Evzone]

Yeah definitely do what they were talking about as far as Kegels go. That will help you get it up again for round two.

Honestly, I gotta disagree with people who say try to hold back or try not to think about her as much. Sex is supposed to be enjoyable; don't make it stressful. If you bust soon, it's all good. Eat her out, make out with her, finger her, and then when you're hard again put on a new condom and start having sex again.

 

[frisco]

I always try to work in about three or four positions, when i do feel like cumming i always pull out hold back while still teasing her ***** with my head. then start all over again do this a couple times and youll get to the point were it feels good but you dont feel a strong need to ***. Also try multiple positions, if your like me I can never *** when i girl rides me just the whole shes dominating me calms my pulse down and ****.

 

[DJinTraining06]

30 minutes is pretty good, even by the standards of most experienced men.

Make sure you do a lot of foreplay and oral on her (15-30 minutes.) I think you said in your other thread that she has usually had sex with inexperienced guys, so lots of foreplay and oral will set you apart.

I normally go until we've both cvm twice or so.

Question. My girl never goes down on me. She did the first few months when she had her period then it became every coupel months, then every 3-5 months, now never. Haven't had one since September.

Should i not go down on her before sex anymore? I prefer not to since she doesnt go down on me but then again i dont last that long so i feel like the oral at leeast makes my not lasting very long a lil beter. Plus she's not naturally a girl who gets very wet so sometimes she it helps. I been doin kegels for 5 days now i hope to get to where i never feel like i should have to go down on her since she dont reciprocate with me.

I suppose its not quite the same since when i do it i dont have to swallow cvm at the end but still.

 

[The Logical Player]

Question. My girl never goes down on me. She did the first few months when she had her period then it became every coupel months, then every 3-5 months, now never. Haven't had one since September.

Should i not go down on her before sex anymore? I prefer not to since she doesnt go down on me but then again i dont last that long so i feel like the oral at leeast makes my not lasting very long a lil beter. Plus she's not naturally a girl who gets very wet so sometimes she it helps. I been doin kegels for 5 days now i hope to get to where i never feel like i should have to go down on her since she dont reciprocate with me.

I suppose its not quite the same since when i do it i dont have to swallow cvm at the end but still.

dump her you absolute total LOSER

 

[Captain]

Question. My girl never goes down on me. She did the first few months when she had her period then it became every coupel months, then every 3-5 months, now never. Haven't had one since September.

Should i not go down on her before sex anymore? I prefer not to since she doesnt go down on me but then again i dont last that long so i feel like the oral at leeast makes my not lasting very long a lil beter. Plus she's not naturally a girl who gets very wet so sometimes she it helps. I been doing kegels for 5 days now i hope to get to where i never feel like i should have to go down on her since she dont reciprocate with me.

Keep going down on her.

Make sure you are nice and clean, showered, trimmed, etc.

Next time you have sex, go down on her, and then ask her to reciprocate.



EDIT: If I remember correctly, you had a another thread about the lack of sex in your relationship with this woman.

None of my advice in this post will work if you don't fix the relationship first.

In the other thread, I gave some good advice. Follow that first.



You're in a relationship. She has lost interest in you (particularly sexual interest), you need to go back to the attraction stage of the relationship (or end the relationship.) Act as if she is a girl you've only dated a couple of times. You are the prize, she should be qualifying herself to be with you. If she doesn't make the cut, you shouldn't be dating her.



EDIT (Again): I just hit the 10 post limit, so I'll answer in this post:

im always clean and trimmed so that aint it. And it's been 7 months since I had a BJ. Maybe its just me but I could care less if a girl goes down on me before sex for a few mins. To me a BJ means u cvm at the end. And no she doesnt do it before sex either. U think i shouild still go down on her

Yes - you can just try asking her flat out to give you a blow job if you want. What I suggested will give you the greatest chance of success if she has some kind of block. Again, read what I said above. You need to fix cause of the problem (the relationship) rather than fixing the symptoms. You need to build attraction or break up.

 

[DJinTraining06]

dump her you absolute total LOSER

So even though I love her I should dump her cuz she doesn't blow me?

 

[DJinTraining06]

Keep going down on her.

She's being selfish at the moment, for whatever reason. Make sure you are nice and clean, showered, trimmed, etc.

Next time you have sex, go down on her, and then ask her to reciprocate.

im always clean and trimmed so that aint it. And it's been 7 months since I had a BJ. Maybe its just me but I could care less if a girl goes down on me before sex for a few mins. To me a BJ means u cvm at the end. And no she doesnt do it before sex either. U think i shouild still go down on her

 

[The Logical Player]

So even though I love her I should dump her cuz she doesn't blow me?

of course not, that is not what i meant buddy.

You dump her because her not going down on you is one of DOZENS of things that she is not doing to make you happy.

She does not SHOW you that she loves you.....you have no business loving this girl

 

[DJinTraining06]

of course not, that is not what i meant buddy.

You dump her because her not going down on you is one of DOZENS of things that she is not doing to make you happy.

She does not SHOW you that she loves you.....you have no business loving this girl

Well she texted me when i was at work to tell me she bought part of my birthday gift today. She spends time with my family even tho its boring. She does alot of stuff that in my min d show me she loves me. i just really dislike that she thinks sex once a week is ok now. SO theres my dielmma. i dont know where ur gettin this that theres a dozen things. the only other thing i mentioned is that she goes to bed early alot.

 

[playerone]

Hmm, DJinTraining06, what you can do is turn up her sexual interest. You can do this by joking and teasing her sexually. Make her emotions overrule her logical theories.

I stimulated her ****, fingered her, and she said I did really well on the ****. My fingering could improve, though. Lol. Well, it's my 1st time doing both. She cvmmed a little while i was working on her ****. I guess i'll just add in the foreplay before sex, since that is just as important as putting my bone in her.

Before I fingered her, she was saying, "Let's not use the condoms (that i've just bought)." I teased her by telling her I won't have unprotected sex, and she said she meant she doesn't want to have sex. Well, after I let my hands go, she's telling me how we haven't tried other sex positions. And that's when I know her emotional side has taken over her logical side.

Good luck to you, DJinTraining06.

 

[sharkbeat]

Well she texted me when i was at work to tell me she bought part of my birthday gift today. She spends time with my family even tho its boring. She does alot of stuff that in my min d show me she loves me. i just really dislike that she thinks sex once a week is ok now. SO theres my dielmma. i dont know where ur gettin this that theres a dozen things. the only other thing i mentioned is that she goes to bed early alot.

You NEED to show her that sex is great. Then she'll be begging for more.

 

[DJinTraining06]

You NEED to show her that sex is great. Then she'll be begging for more.

ya know when we first started going out i used to last a long time not sure wat on earth has changed. Granted it was a new relationship and girls tend to have alot more sex in the beginning but still I cant help but wonder if thats why she aint into it as much now.
I remember her loving it so much, she used to initiate constantly, i didnt even want to sometimes cuz we had just done it a few hrs earlier. I mean dont get me wrong i like doing it twice but still sometimes ur just not horny after u just did a an hr or 2 ago. And then little by little im not sure why but I just stopped lasting long and eventually i dunno if it got to my head or its physical but i just cannot stop from cvming to soon. And now its like sex is the furthest thing from her mind. It almost seems liek a chore for her. Im also not as thin and in shape as i was 2 yrs ago when we met, i havent had time to work out and gained about 10-15 lbs, but im not fat or anything, just a lil softer than i used to be. If thats her reason for not being attracted to me anyhmore then she sucks cuz she has gained weight too and doesnt look nearly as good either. Id say every 1 out of 3 times i last long enuff and she cvms, sometimes twice so i mean i know that nots great for her, but i would think shed still take her chances and hope for one of those good one out of 3's? maybe eventhat 1 out of 3 sux too i dunno.

i cannot wait to see if these kegels start working cuz if they do i wanna last a long ass time and make her cvm like 3 times and then see if shes still not into sex. I bet she starts intitiating it again. If she doesnt and still doesnt wanna do it, im gonna have to make a decision cuz thats just weird and not right. You don't sell someone a mercedes and then give them a corolla when u move in with them. If she wasnt that sexual to begin with i wouldnt be on this board complaining cuz hey i havenmt slept with alot of women in my life and I woulda just been happy with wat i got. but she was extremely sexual when i met her. It did calm down along the way which is natural but then when we moved in it was like a light switch to not caring bout sex at all. And thats not cool.

 

[DJinTraining06]

Some people will tell you to distract yourself by thinking about something non-sexual, but I think that's stupid. I mean, you're having sex, you should be enjoying it.

Kegel exercises are very very good. I've been doing them for 30 minutes a day for 5 months and I can go for as long as I want and as many times as I want.

Just curious do u mix up the exercises in that 30 mins or is it the same kind every day? Do u have to be sitting down?

 

[playerone]

You can do kegel exercises anywhere. Standing up, sitting down, lying down, doesn't matter.

I just realised, yesterday, I was going out in the day, and did a few sets of kegels than usual. I don't know if i overdid it, i felt the PC muscle burn and go weak, and later that night she asked me what happened to me. I was cvmming after a bl0wjob and like 2 minutes of fvcking.

~_~ Wtf happened.