Advice on Jealous GF

[Safari]

I'm an American living in China dating a Chinese girl. She's VERY beautiful by any standard, and I've DJed my way into a relationship with this girl where many men have failed and continue to do so.

Our dates are always fun, but every time we are out, at some point I get an earful about my "Russian girlfriend" who doesn't actually exist. I did date a Russian for a while, but I broke it off a while back as I sensed too many games being played.

I had been looking at her insecurities as a sign of continuing high IL, so I didn't really concern myself with it. Plus, I've filled her in on what those dates were like, and that I hadn't slept with her. Yes, I did not have to tell her any of this, but I wanted to put her mind at ease. Didn't work. Plus she has trust issues from a previous ex-boyfriend.

So I'm sleeping with her the other night. The sex is good, I even hold back and get her off a record four times. We stopped for a minute, and I prepared to finish the job, but she's said that she was tired now and to go "fvck my Russian girlfriend."

I was not amused, so I got dressed and prepared to leave. She apologizes, and we go back and forth a minute and I stay. Now, by staying I'm wondering if I've lost her respect thinking she got away with this, or does my raising a stink about it mean she won't do it again, or should I bail?

 

[b's nuts]

what a b*tch. be wary of repeat attitude like this, could be tainted goods. her insecurities about all of this should be her problem to work out, not yours. what a b*tch.

 

[Safari]

bump

On the trust issue, her previous ex-boyfriend had lied about his marriage status for over a year. He told her he was divorced when in actuality he was separated.

Any more insights?

 

[JohnJones]

That's not a bad reason for why she does what she does, but after you call her on it, explain that that was him and not you, and that her residual concerns are starting to get in the way of your relationship, she should (1) drop it expressly and (2) be more comfortable anyway.

If you sense she's still got these residual feelings and can bring them up in this context, it does not speak well of the future.

 

[romeo203]

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Geez,
Looks like the AFC phenomenon is moving overseas fast. In most asian regions, any girl that said that would have been smacked in the face.

And you're only compounding it my albino asian brother. What you should have done was not take any **** and leave.

But the power of the Hole got to you and you stayed. You're not a man. A man would put his foot down and say screw this while leaving.

You lost respect, you lost her trust, and you will eventually lose her unless you and I mean you break up with her first before she has a chance. Doing this will redeem yourself and your manhood. Don't worry, she'll come back and that's when you take her back in slowly.

*** AFCs are taking over, fight your inner AFC ***

 

[Safari]

That's definitely the DJ way to handle it. Next time, I'll just lay an open hand across her face. Then when the Chinese authorities arrive, I'll just explain that it would have been AFC to do nothing. Of course, I don't speak Chinese, but I'll point them to this site and enlighten them. Then they'll understand. Unfortunately, I can't find the article on DJ abuse rationale in the bible, but I know it must be there somewhere. So anyway, then when I lose the ultimate DJ job as a traveling musician and get deported or imprisoned, I can always know that my mind is free, and that I am a true DJ.

Right.

I did call her to task on it when it happened, and she apologized. Fair enough, we'll see if it happens again. As far as trust goes, read my previous post a second time. It's no fault of mine. If she can't deal with the issue, I have no shortage of opportunities.

Being a former television model, she gets hit on by countless AFCs from a wide range of countries EVERY time I hit the stage. Strange that they would wait for this supposed AFC to become absent before approaching.

She showed up at my show last night. But, since among the alternatives she came home with me...again, I'll assume her respect and IL is intact. Typical results for an AFC, right???