Advice on a girl trying to "reconnect"

Hoe Whisperer

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Hi All,

Just discovered the forum recently and it has been very helpful. I would say I am an intermediate when it comes to game and women, but was presented with a situation I have not been in before and need some advice on how to play it to get the outcome I want.

Background- I was FWB with this girl for a little over a year. Eventually, she wanted a "normal" relationship that I was not interested in so we went our separate ways. She quickly found a guy who suspiciously looks like a fat boring version of me and they have been together since. We hooked up twice in the first few months of their relationship, but have not been in contact for almost 2 years since. Fast forward to today when I get the following text:

I know this is out of the blue. I am sorry. But, truthfully, I've been thinking about you a lot. I know I have no right, but I really want to know how you are.
This year has been hard on everyone and I just wanted to see how you are holding up. I hope you are good. The virus has me worried about you
Anyways,, just wanted you to now I was thinking out you.

I was surprised since it had been so long and looking at her instagram she is still seemingly happy with the BF. I need advice on how to play this to hopefully get her back in my rotation. I have to go slow though because of COVID I take care of my susceptible family member so I can't really be trying to see her for until spring/summer.

On the one hand if I say things are awesome for me we won't really have anything to talk about and it could just fizzle, but if I tell her a sob story then she might want to keep talking, but not be as attracted. The truth is somewhere in the middle I am assuming that since before we really only got together to do one thing, on some level with her reaching out she wants that again. IDK as I said new situation and looking for advice.
 

Hoe Whisperer

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Thanks for the food for thought. To answer your second question, from my brief research girls coming back is a pretty common occurrence for guys who have a lot more experience then me. There is one guru type called black dragon who is obsessed with spreadsheets and has charted an over 90% return rate for girls he has been with. IDK if this is true, but it certainly seems like a good dynamic to understand for my future so I don't always have to be getting new girls and instead have a mix.
 

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You have found a woman that truly digs you, she will always want you unless you treat her like crap. But if you do get back with her she's eventually going to want to get in a relationship with you again.
 

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I'd text her back and ask her if she butt-dialed you. <<For a joke. She might have been drunk calling.
 

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You're overcomplicating it. If she wants to come fuuck you she'll make an excuse with pretty much anything you say.

My personal approach is always one of effortlessness. "Life's been good to me. Nice to hear you miss me so much ;) what's new with you?"

No serving myself up on a silver platter, no bragging, no jumping to sexual shiit, no compliments, just subtle teasing veiled in small talk.

Always be qualifying and let her make it sexual. I don't pull the trigger on calling her over or making any real plans until she's made it very clear that she'll jump on me the first chance she gets.

Some guys like to put in lots of work and bend over backwards for some pusssy. I personally don't. If she loses interest then I've saved my precious time.
 

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I know this is out of the blue. I am sorry. But, truthfully, I've been thinking about you a lot. I know I have no right, but I really want to know how you are.
This year has been hard on everyone and I just wanted to see how you are holding up. I hope you are good. The virus has me worried about you
Anyways,, just wanted you to now I was thinking out you.
scenario 1 shes an AW checking you still desire her.

scenario 2 you alpha widowed her, you will emotionally imprint a woman at some point. Ive seen the most pathetic guys capable of this and ive seen the most masculine do it.

How to handle, 2-3 days of short messages to re-build comfort then make cemented plans......any wishy washy behaviour on her part...you vanish, and report on here
 

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Just meet up with her but don't be too eager. Show her that you're still focused on you but wouldn't mind seeing her. I would experiment with sending sexually charged texts bc maybe she's craving that alpha D
 
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