Advice on 40 yr old women dating younger guys.

[brat-buster]

Just as i thought...........the b!tch called.

gave me the "sob story" oooohhhhhh I thougth you hated me and never wanted to talk to me again from what your friends told me. "they were soooooo mean she say's."

She goes on and on about how she misses me and this and that. I told her if she really missed me she would have been with me not her ex and I was pissed that she wasn't direct and up front about things. Told her i didn't appreciate finding out she went back to her ex from my friends (not her) and that I was dating someone else now anyways.

She asked if she could still call me and i said why? what is the point, do you want to Fvck now? She says no cuz she doesn't date/fvck more than one guy ata time....I said whatever....gotta go and good luck gettin your life together...I'm not a therapist.

 

[al77]

Originally posted by brat-buster
Just as i thought...........the b!tch called.

She asked if she could still call me and i said why? what is the point, do you want to Fvck now? She says no cuz she doesn't date/fvck more than one guy ata time...

Very good move.
I also think confidence is a turn off and when you show her that you are ticked off about her behavior it is not going to turn her on.
Moreover it seems it was the last time you spoke and she got that impression that you were cranky sort of.

Probably, it would be a bit better to just to invite her to your place, let her know you will get some wine and tell her "sure we will discuss thing and play". Dont explain mouch to her why you are angry with her: women tend not to follow any logic.
Now her move.

It woudl be perfectly clear to her what you want. If she agrees to come over to you place - wine, some light convo (dont discuss relationship... she wants just to talk anyway) and some kino miht lead to something even more enoyable...
If she like "What are you doing...???!!!"... just be cool, apply more wine, re-group and go for more kino...most important: be cool, show her you are confident. Show that you re not going to discuss bad moments, that you are focus on wine and fun.
This is by itself a huge turn on for women.

Of course realistcly speaking it is like 70% that she will decline your invitation to come over (and have sex). But still - you will explore the rest 30% of chances, you will feel good and confident.

I recrenty have some somewhat similar experiences: some women came back to me saying "I am sorry... I behave like a brat... you are so good blah blah".

 

[brat-buster]

Probably, it would be a bit better to just to invite her to your place, let her know you will get some wine and tell her "sure we will discuss thing and play". Dont explain mouch to her why you are angry with her: women tend not to follow any logic.

I can appreciate that move but I really don't want to get in the middle of her confusion/undecisiveness surronuding her ex b/f. she told me she still doesn't know what she's doing or what she wants in terms of her ex boyfriend who's she's still seing or whatever. Sounds to me like a wishy washy chick who will always be that way. Do I like her ....? yes, but is it worth the bullshyt? I'm thinking not.

I get the impression that if she has gone back and forth with this loser for 7 years, what's going to stop her now? A good fvck session with me?? I don't think so, no matter how many mind blowing orgasms I give her. I think ignoring her is the best for now. If she calls, maybe I'll answer if I'm not buzy with someone else. If she initiates fine, but i'm done pushing for any dates with her.........she pretty much blew her chances with me by going back to her ex.

 

[brat-buster]

This chick is still calling. Things have already gone sideways with her ex B/F and she wants me.

I told her I'm seeing someone and she says in a depressed voice says well maybe you should see how it develops.

Actually I have 3 fukk buddies right now aside from her (we have never actually fukked). So I tell her I'm not sure, but I might let her tryout for the team one more time........if she doesn't blow her chances with me again. I get her laughing and she says she misses me. I said Of course you did....... "what's there not to miss".

I then tell her I'll call you when i get back from Put-in Bay (where I got laid by a hott HB8).

called her about 6 hours after I got home, she calls back while I'm fukking fukk buddy # 1, I haven't called her back yet. Funny how her IL not only rises with the demise of her and ex B/F but moreso when other F/B's are in the picture.

Later

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Originally posted by brat-buster
This chick is still calling. Things have already gone sideways with her ex B/F and she wants me.

I told her I'm seeing someone and she says in a depressed voice says well maybe you should see how it develops.

Actually I have 3 fukk buddies right now aside from her (we have never actually fukked). So I tell her I'm not sure, but I might let her tryout for the team one more time........if she doesn't blow her chances with me again. I get her laughing and she says she misses me. I said Of course you did....... "what's there not to miss".

I then tell her I'll call you when i get back from Put-in Bay (where I got laid by a hott HB8).

called her about 6 hours after I got home, she calls back while I'm fukking fukk buddy # 1, I haven't called her back yet. Funny how her IL not only rises with the demise of her and ex B/F but moreso when other F/B's are in the picture.

Later

Sounds like prime FB material to me. Ever think of spreading out your rotation so that you are even less available to them?

 

[brat-buster]

Sounds like prime FB material to me. Ever think of spreading out your rotation so that you are even less available to them?

That happens already, natrually cuz I AM busy and have a life so natrually they get spread out. It's great when you can give them the gift of missing you. They fukk so much better after that.

Thanks for you take Francisco