Advice NEEDED ASAP

[blind_one]

I'll try to be as short and precise as possible.

Some time ago me and my GF decided to go to hiking in the mountainside with a group of acquaintances, during long weekend off work/school. So I started saving up for the rent ( we rented a 6 room cottage ), the food+booze, transportation and so on.

We're supposed to get there ( ~ 600 KM/ 372.8 Miles ) by car with her older brother (driver) and his fiancée. I heard we were to throw in some money for the gas, which is fine and understandable. That was supposed to be 40* and now she tells me its 100.

Didn't say anything stupid but was really surprised as we exchanged messages on skype. Now she sensed I had mixed feelings about it. She kept asking if im fine with the fuel**** being 100. I didn' answer right away ( bad move right ? ) I said I need some time to consider.

She asked to consider what, agreeing or going by train for ~70 ( It would be more expensive but I have -50% off since im a student) also both ways in sleeping wagon.

100 is half my monthly ''income''

I might seem like really stingy but I feel bad by overpaying if I can help it.

It's also not a nice move to change plans decide 5 days before departure.

She said she'd go by train with me, I met her brother like 4-5 times, met their parents.

My blood boils when I post this simpish whining but I need your moral advice.

 

[faeyt]

Do you really want to go? I think that if you're concerned about the overpaying, then your desire to go might not actually be that strong. I'd say you should just apologize and say "Sorry, I don't have enough money to finance that right now". You can also just mention "I might've been if I had more notice ahead of time."

 

[HeadLightsOn]

Don't feel bad. You are allowed to change your mind if the circumstances change. Your GF just won't want to look stupid in front of her brother.

If you are on a tight budget - and you are - then you have the absolute right to speak your mind to your GF. However the MANNER in which you do that is key.

I would just say that due to the additional cost, how about we both (you and GF) have a romantic train trip, with our own quaters and privacy. Or something similar.

it takes the heat off you, and gives her and out.

Also as a note - if her older brother and fiance then dont/cant do the trip without your funds - that says a lot about why they wanted you along for the ride

Feel free to Rep me :->

 

[HeadLightsOn]

But dont Rep me on my horrid typing skills...

 

[foreverAFC]

just tell her you thought it was going to be 40, and you are embarrassed to say that paying 100 would create a financial burden for you since its half your monthly wage, she should understand

 

[blind_one]

Thank you for all your responses !!

After all I've decided to agree since we'd actually have to take a bus too and the cost would be around 85 + we'd be !@#$ tired after the train as much as with the car-trip anyway and wouldn't do much productive on that day. Major factor was that We would be arriving around 1pm and would be able to get in the cottage around 6 pm since thats the time the guys who rented the house arrive and get the keys.

She said something about " Nonetheless I'll remember the ''not nice'' situation two days before we go on the trip " .

I nearly laughed about that one, not to mention that its not the first time she ''bends time'' which I don't argue about because its pointless.

Thanks again