(advice needed) Alpha to beta to alpha winning this **** back

[Lolapo]

Hey guys new here, just wanted to know how other people think about this.

Trying to say this short, i met a girl added her on FB (2 months ago) we clicked i was alpha, said the right things, she was clearly interested. we went on a date and everything was superpositive, body language flirting etc, i told myself i'd kiss her on the next date.

I dropped out of school before i met her and had some tough time figuring what to do so unknowingly i got so beta and gave her way to much attention and got oneitis. Now she's lost interest BUT there is some left.

I realised i was being a fckin tard and not being a man and 2 days ago i manned the fck up so after not hearing her for 4 days, i sent her a text this thursday to go out this weekend or if she was just going to be boring like always, in a teasy but leading way.

She said she was maybe going away on a trip but wasn't sure yet and she'd let me know. Today she texted me she wasn't going on the trip, nothing more nothing less. (monday and tuesday are holiday here so thats why she only sent it today)

I didn't respond till 5 hours later:
her: Btw i'm not going on the trip
Me(5hours later): how boring of u
Her: u know meeeee

my question is: i have 2 options, OR i take the lead and TELL her to go to the movies (original date plans)
Example:
ME: Ok so i'll pick you up tomorrow at ... so you don't have to take the bus, without you refusing!
Or i just go no contact but read the message so she sees i read it.

I was going to do option 2 BUT my IRL game is very strong and im 100% sure if i'd meet her again she'll be hooked for sure, and i can easily turn my betaness around, because she was after the 1st date but then i got beta. BUT even if i take the lead and TELL her i'll pick her up and not ask, there's still a chance i'll come over as needy.

i've just been a fckin phaggot on facebook chat this last month bc i had nothing to do and got oneitis

 

[Rival]

I'd say something like

"well instead of being boring, we are going to the movies, I'll pick ya up around 8?"

if she flakes again, I'd write her off for awhile.

 

[Lolapo]

I'd say something like

"well instead of being boring, we are going to the movies, I'll pick ya up around 8?"

if she flakes again, I'd write her off for awhile.

Beautiful, well said i'll keep this updated.
ME: So instead of being boring, we're going to the movies n i'll pick you up so you don't have to take a bus
HER: I can drive myself ayeeee

Playing it tough haha

 

[LMFAO]

Taking a girl to the cinema isn't usually the best idea as a first or second date. You'll both be sitting quietly for 2 hours in front of a screen, less opportunity for both of you to connect. Would just take her to a local bar and have a couple of drink, simple enough.

Whatever you do just make sure you kiss her this time.

 

[Lolapo]

Taking a girl to the cinema isn't usually the best idea as a first or second date. You'll both be sitting quietly for 2 hours in front of a screen, less opportunity for both of you to connect. Would just take her to a local bar and have a couple of drink, simple enough.

Whatever you do just make sure you kiss her this time.

Was planning to do that.
Conversation just went like this could use some tips as i'm still unsure how to handle this.

ME: So instead of being boring, we're going to the movies n i'll pick you up so you don't have to take a bus
HER: I can drive myself ayeeee
ME: have fun on your bike (she can't drive yet, 17yo)
HER: funnyman..

 

[Lolapo]

Edit

 

[BraddH]

What in the ****ing hell is this kids game?

 

[Lolapo]

What in the ****ing hell is this kids game?

I reread it and you're right tbh my bad.

just wanted to keep this updated maybe for others to see who could be in the same situation.
I'd like to know if this is just a ****test or whatever this is. i think i sparked some interest again bc she tried to reschedule and asked me herself when i wanted to go or did i fail and she's still losing interest.

HER: Btw i'm not going on the trip
ME5hours later): how boring of u
HER: u know meeeee
ME: So instead of being boring, we're going to the movies n i'll pick you up so you don't have to take a bus
HER: I can drive myself ayeeee
ME: have fun on your bike (she can't drive yet, 17yo)
HER: funnyman..
HER: when do you want to go?
ME: Tomorrownight 8o clock tuesday is holiday anyway
HER: I have a dinner tomorrownight..
ME: okaay np
HER: Is the movietheatre open tuesday?
ME: think so
HER: Hmm if i can manage to cancel my work tuesday, i'd be able to go then
(i was very inclined to say ok tuesday it is but there was a possibility she wouldn't be able to cancel and then i'd be toyed with again)
ME: I can only go in the evening btw, can't go during the day so dunno
HER: ooh i cant go in the evening..
ME: To bad other time then
HER: indeed..
HER: anyway how are you doing lately?
ME: good, surviving winter
HER: haha good

 

[Lolapo]

I think best thing to do now is go NC for 1 week minimum or untill she initiates,
I'm skeptical over our conversation, is she just flaking or did she really want to meet because she tried to reschedule.

It's her 'anyway how are you doing lately?' that im not sure about

 

[LMFAO]

This is why it's usually better to say something like "so what are your plans for the week?", especially with a girl like that. If she has any interest she would then say "I'm free Tuesday night". Go NC for 4 days, and try that next week if she does initiate contact. If that doesn't work don't speak to her again, ever.

Only thing to take from that conversation is she has low interest.

 

[Lolapo]

This is why it's usually better to say something like "so what are your plans for the week?", especially with a girl like that. If she has any interest she would then say "I'm free Tuesday night". Go NC for 4 days, and try that next week if she does initiate contact. If that doesn't work don't speak to her again, ever.

Only thing to take from that conversation is she has low interest.

Thanks for the advice.

Well i had her fully interested but then i became the guy she would want to have and not the guy i was. so I lost her interest but i do think i can still save this because i can sense there is still some interest do you agree?

I was going to go NC like you said and in the meantime i'm back being myself and we only connect through facebook or text, but mainly facebook so i'm back posting stuff and being who i was so i think by doing this (doing this for myself and NOT her) she'll see i don't need her and i'm doing my stuff like a man which will make me more attractive again and show her i don't need her like she thought i DID. And by going NC she'll start thinking this even more. Thats what i assume, correct me if i'm wrong.

Thanks