Advice.. greatly appreciated

[BuckwildSantos]

Hey guys, my first post in sosuave.. but not new though

anyway lets get it on

it all started a year ago.. my best friend got a girlfriend, we decided to go hang out with a friend of hers.. my friend me and herself

now when i first saw the girl i was stunned, i had low standards but at that time i'd rate her a hb 11 p)

now those 2 broke up, but i remained having contact with the hb 11

though i met another fine dime.. which became my girlfriend later on, but as I couldnt resist.. i went out with the hb11 several times, and we had great fun

now me and my girlfriend broke up last friday, and i told this 11.. and she went omgodddd i feel so sorry for you bla bla

but the first second after she asked me if we could date again.. so i was like yeah okay (I would now rate her a 8.7 or so)

now we decided to go out today, but we couldnt find a proper thing to do
I asked how she felt about a nice walk.. an icecream and stuff

she was like okay, but i first have to bring something back to a store (but im not gonna carry it on all day) next she asks me.. wanna come over to my house to pick it up?

and i thought, **** bro you're in! but not really, the next second she said.. But don't expect you're gonna see my room! (Dangg) Though you'd probably meet my mother (yess, good first impression is half the work)

but yeah.. today we're going to hang out together.. but i have NO idea what to do, i wonder if she really likes me? She always tells me she loves me and tells me everything, but at the same time she tells me im not really gonna get with her? And no, i have not been a nice guy.. in fact ive been a ****y ***** in a joking form ofcourse.. and we got a real strong bond some way.. and she told me she wanted to get to know me better

so im kinda out of ideas what to do

advice on how to handle this case..?

 

[Dustin]

First off this women does not love you. If she loved you then you would be at least getting a little action. She is just teasing you. If you are asking about how to get up her shirt down her pants...it's nto that hard, When you guys are alone you make the moves. Not to difficult she will rather pull your hads away or say no....Or she will just pretend nothing is happening even when she knows something is happening...If she wants to get to know you better talk about your life alot but be sure you show you care about her life as well. It is not as sifficult as it sounds. You jsut have be willing ot make the move.

 

[pooparu]

Stop trying to get laid.

That's the secret and why 99% of guys fail. Stop trying to get laid.

I could write more but I'll let this sink in first and let you analyze this.

 

[BuckwildSantos]

im not tryin to get laid actually, im looking for a nice girl to fool around with you know

but hey, date's over.. we kissed, had fun and are now closer then before

 

[WC2]

Stop trying to get laid.

That's the secret and why 99% of guys fail. Stop trying to get laid.

I could write more but I'll let this sink in first and let you analyze this.

I'm sorry but I've never heard a more inaccurate statement. 99% of the reason guys fail is because they are too afraid to make the move and show their advancements. They're too stuck out there waiting for the woman to make the move. If 99% of the guys on this board went into dates with the intention of getting laid, they'd be doing much better than they are now.

 

[itishe]

I'm sorry but I've never heard a more inaccurate statement. 99% of the reason guys fail is because they are too afraid to make the move and show their advancements. They're too stuck out there waiting for the woman to make the move. If 99% of the guys on this board went into dates with the intention of getting laid, they'd be doing much better than they are now.

This is true. I'm not one to spread the rules of the land, but now I'm a firm believer in "use your balls and make a move". Read my thread "Advancing things with girl that is leaving" for why I do believe it.

 

[Michele l'Arcangelo]

I'm sorry but I've never heard a more inaccurate statement. 99% of the reason guys fail is because they are too afraid to make the move and show their advancements. They're too stuck out there waiting for the woman to make the move. If 99% of the guys on this board went into dates with the intention of getting laid, they'd be doing much better than they are now.

This is true. I'm not one to spread the rules of the land, but now I'm a firm believer in "use your balls and make a move". Read my thread "Advancing things with girl that is leaving" for why I do believe it.

You're ALL wrong (EXCEPT about the part getting the balls to do something... That's true). The secret is not to strategize so much. You all are strategizing too much. You need to go out PERIOD. If you go out expecting to get laid/ get a girlfriend/ etc. you will try TOO HARD to achieve it.

Go out and at expect everyone AT LEAST wants to get to know you. If you see any IOIs from any of those people you're interested in... then work from there.

And the other secret is... get out of your comfort zone... and do something you'd NEVER expect yourself to do... AKA "GET SOME BALLS"

F.ck the rules. And QUIT taking the "Bible" 100% literally. All of us are NOT the same... we all do NOT have the exact same personality. Read the Bible... but don't change yourself... just fit it into YOUR OWN personality.

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Anyways my advice on your particular situation is... get to know her, let her get to know you. Of course, the "mysterious" comes into play... so don't reveal yourself in one long conversation... keep distance between you two. You're not allowed in her room she says? Who care's dude, you didn't ask to. As in... quit trying to win the chance to do what she doesn't let you. She's supposed to win rights to what you don't let her.

Whatever you do... don't read into her actions too much.

And whenever you two are talking... just it back and chill... people here will tell you to listen and make sure everything is 100% perfect... "blah blah... you better do the "30% talk, 70% listen" convo rule... or she'll think you're a friend"... well f.ck that. No one normal will consciencely think the bible (unless they are fake... and can't do it on their own). DO WHAT YOU DO.

Be creative on your 'dates'... In my words... picking your date shows what kind of person you are, and what your personality is. Don't ask people here for idea's for dates... most of them come up with lame dates they read from the bible anyway.

Alright then bro. Do what you do. Just hangout and expect to make a friend.

(Don't even bother replying saying "the bible says being a friend means LJBF!"... because you are wrong. A guy and a girl can be friends and she could have him in the 'potential BF' category. What relationship doesn't start out as a friendship? You need the friendship to get to know the person until a certain point, then you can "take it to the next level".)

Peace out bro.

 

[WC2]

You're ALL wrong. The secret is not to strategize so much. You all are strategizing too much. You need to go out PERIOD. If you go out expecting to get laid/ get a girlfriend/ etc. you will try TOO HARD to achieve it.

Go out and at expect everyone AT LEAST wants to get to know you. If you see any IOIs from any of those people you're interested in... then work from there.

And the other secret is... get out of your comfort zone... and do something you'd NEVER expect yourself to do... AKA "GET SOME BALLS"

F.ck the rules. And QUIT taking the "Bible" 100% literally. All of us are NOT the same... we all do NOT have the exact same personality. Read the Bible... but don't change yourself... just fit it into YOUR OWN personality.

-------

Anyways my advice on your particular situation is... get to know her, let her get to know you. Of course, the "mysterious" comes into play... so don't reveal yourself in one long conversation... keep distance between you two. You're not allowed in her room she says? Who care's dude, you didn't ask to. As in... quit trying to win the chance to do what she doesn't let you. She's supposed to win rights to what you don't let her.

Whatever you do... don't read into her actions too much.

And whenever you two are talking... just it back and chill... people here will tell you to listen and make sure everything is 100% perfect... "blah blah... you better do the "30% talk, 70% listen" convo rule... or she'll think you're a friend"... well f.ck that. No one normal will consciencely think the bible (unless they are fake... and can't do it on their own). DO WHAT YOU DO.

Be creative on your 'dates'... In my words... picking your date shows what kind of person you are, and what your personality is. Don't ask people here for idea's for dates... most of them come up with lame dates they read from the bible anyway.

Alright then bro. Do what you do. Just hangout and expect to make a friend.

(Don't even bother replying saying "the bible says being a friend means LJBF!"... because you are wrong. A guy and a girl can be friends and she could have him in the 'potential BF' category. What relationship doesn't start out as a friendship? You need the friendship to get to know the person until a certain point, then you can "take it to the next level".)

Peace out bro.

Sure, all this is correct. The point is that most the men on these forums have more of a problem showing sexual interest, as opposed to not showing it. In other words, grow some balls!

 

[BuckwildSantos]

Thanks for the replies all.. but now this thread is actually gettin looked at.. i wanna get to the next point.. if i handled any good?

I met her at the library (yes i know its stupid but she sugested it) because she had to return some books.. sadly enough it was closed, so we had to go over to her house to bring the books back

we arrived at her house.. and there was her mother, loading groceries out of the car, so i jump off my bike.. and help her and she's like: oh my god that is so kind of you thank you! and she introduced herself to me..

we went to this other village, where we wud get some ice cream.. we were both thinking about getting the same 2 icecreams.. so SHE said, hey you pick that one.. and i pick the other one so we can eat em together (yay.. this is good) and there were our icecreams.. we ate the first.. playin around a bit, then we got the second which had these strawberries.. which ofcourse i fed to her

after talkin about 2 hours.. and eating icecream ofcourse.. we decided to go home.. but quickly enough it started to rain and we stopped at this bus stop which had 2 biGGGGG ass benches.. but they were all dirty except for 2 places (1 bench was entirely clean but there were other peopl).. so i sat down there, and she came next to me and we started joking around (i used this moment to try KINO, and she happilly returned it.. to the next level straight away) but the other people left since they put on their rain protecting clothes

and she went like.. oh lets go sit there(this is where i thought I lost it.. because she wanted to get a bigger space you know) but hell no, she told me to sit down next to her and she put her hand on my leg.. so i was like wohoo i win (thinking ofc), and then she layed down.. with her head on my crotch 0_o.. and at that point i had no place to put my arm.. so i was like, yeah thank you *****(joking tone) now i can tput my arm anywhere.. and she goes like.. put it here.. and she put my arm on her belly

after sitting there for a while..we decided to cycle on because it wasnt raining anymore

then stopped again.. cus it was rainign AGAIN.. and this is the part where it got good ^^

first she started talkin about my ex girlfriend.. and i was like HOOOO stop it right now, no negative influence in this great day. and she laughed.. but **** it.. it started to rain even harder.. but the bench only had a little bit of shelter so i went to this big ass tree to stand there and be covered from the rain.. and she ran and came with me.. ofcourse bumping into me and putting both her hands on my chest.. but then she stood next to me

i told my dad id be home early.. so i sent him a message with my phone id be back a lil later.. but when i sent it.. she took my phone, and i asked.. can i have it back please? and all she said was: kiss (with a commanding voice)

so first i thought, ill give her a kiss on the cheek.. then i realised what id miss if i didnt take the chance.. so i kissed her on the mouth, it became all quiet and ****.. and i thought, **** i messed up.. but hell no, she pulled me back and we started kissing.. after the short kissing it stopped raining and we were like quiet 80% of the way back home.. and i dont know we were both too shocked to say something i guess

then when we got home.. i got this message: That kiss felt good.

thats my story

now i need a good thing to do on our next date, but as Michele Dárcasodiajsoidj angelo (lol) said.. i shouldnt ask here so i wont.

 

[Michele l'Arcangelo]

see dude, good ****. it was a refreshing story for once.

you inspired me... really... i look up to you now.

i really liked how it went.

and the silence at the end wasnt bad. thats normal.

ive been here for one year. this was defintely the best thing ive heard for a whole year, no doubt.

peace bro. good ****.

 

[BuckwildSantos]

lol.. man are you serious? i thought i was some kind of semi-AFC, never been that active on the ladies as i am since the break up wtih my girlfriend to be honest..

btw i think i forgot the part of the massage ;o

but hey, thanks for the compliment.. you convinced me to post more stories int he future lol

 

[BuckwildSantos]

okay **** **** help me

now ehm.. this girl invited me to her crib to catch a movie with her.. so i was like YAY this is perfect, but she just told me one of her female friends will also be there

whats the advice if i wanna get it poppin 2 nite (not gettin laid but ya get ma point)