Advice from some older members.

[Jerry Maguire]

I constantly feel depressed.
I spend most of my free time on the internet, and I stay up later than I should trying to get myself out of the dumps, but it never works.
I don't have any hobbies, and I've lost most of my friends. I've tried to get help from the NHS for procrastination and sociophobia but there's been some trouble with that, so I'm turning wherever I can for help now.
How would you start? I basically just work and go on the internet. That is my life. I don't have a gym routine like I used to either.
Next month I'm getting a car, a fulltime job, and getting rid of the internet/tv and that should help. I'm also on natural anti-depressants, so where should I go from there?

(Also, what you think I should do is appreciated, but how I get over my procrastination and actually do it would be even more so appreciated)

Please reply, thanks.

 

[Jerry Maguire]

Plus, my social skills are pretty bad, I never put myself out there because I don't wanna get hurt or rejected. Even my online social skills are pretty bad.

 

[Wyldfire]

Force yourself to exercise. It will get your endomorphs releasing at a higher rate which will boost your mood.

 

[Jerry Maguire]

Do you mean weights or running?
Aerobic or anaerobic?
Or does it not matter?

 

[Jerry Maguire]

To who PM'd me (I won't say your name incase you don't want me to), your inbox was full, so I'll reply here instead.
I'm not from America, I'm from Scotland, but I'd still like you to help me in any way you can. Either PM me again or reply here, thanks.

 

[Caesar]

show me the money! sorry I couldn't resist...anyway, go out for a run, that usually helps me clear my mind. Lifting helps too. Find something you like to do and do it. Take up a new hobby.

 

[Cesare Cardinali]

What you should do is fill up your time doing some stuff that forces you to interact with others. Gym stuff, TV, computer, etc are all solo activities. You need to interact with people working towards something greater than yourself.

You should vollunteer for a cause. Help elderly people, be a big brother, etc etc. Essentially, working in service of others will help get out of your own head and engaged in life. Just try it.

Cesare Cardinali

 

[DrMetallica]

travel

 

[penkitten]

once upon a time there was a bunny who had no friends.
and he was very sad.
so one day he wanted to change things.
so he got up one morning and went out and made some new friends .
and then he was happy.
the end.

 

[Moving_Target]

...

 

[spider_007]

Originally posted by penkitten
once upon a time there was a bunny who had no friends.
and he was very sad.
so one day he wanted to change things.
so he got up one morning and went out and made some new friends .
and then he was happy.
the end.

oh come on i'm disapointed, you could have come up with something better then that.

 

[Jerry Maguire]

Originally posted by spider_007
oh come on i'm disapointed, you could have come up with something better then that.

Yeah, it wasn't appreciated.

 

[Lost In Translation]

1. buy a push bike / mountain bike

your new hobby is bike riding

every day after work before you come online you will ride your bike for 30 minutes

i guarantee that will make you feel alot better


2. buy a bench press / dumbells

bench if you got the room and dumbells if you don't. better yet buy both.

every day after you ride spend 30 minutes doing whatever exercise you feel like

you now have a second hobby


3. unplug your tv aerial. DVD only ( comedies and action movies ). no ADs no depressing news. tv is very depressing.

you no longer watch tv. but you do watch DVDs.

no horror movies. no dramas. no chick flicks.


4. go to a pet shop and buy a fish tank. buy 3 fish minimum.

YOU MUST NAME ALL THE FISH so make sure they look different

low budget just get goldfish in a bowl

higher budget get tropical fish and a heater for the tank

must be 3 or more fish

YOU NOW HAVE PETS


5. every shop you go to you MUST use the salespersons / cashiers name

IT IS ON THE BADGE / TAG on their shirt

forget getting chicks phone numbers for the moment

all you have to do is use their name

it's a RULE

so you go to supermarket as chick hands you change you look at her name tag and say THANKYOU REBECCA

this must become a habit

at the service station paying for your petrol / gas USE THEIR NAME


6. BUY wheels car magazine or the american or whatever country you are from eqivalant it will cost you US$5 per month but it is IMPORTANT

you now have another 2 hobbies. you like to read. you like to read about NEW cars.

ALL men talk about cars at some stage. you are now up to speed on whats what in the car world. so when someone says HAVE YOU SEEN THE NEW M12 NOBLE you can say HELL YEAH IT LOOKS GOOD


these 6 are your bread and butter. number 2 is optional. 1 is a MUST.

there are very good reasons for all of them

another area you need to look at is your internet addiction. don't be ashamed. it is VERY common.

don't address it until you have all the 6 steps in action to help support you

all the best


Lost In Translation

**AUSTRALIAN STREET PIMP**

 

[penkitten]

Originally posted by Jerry Maguire
Yeah, it wasn't appreciated.

maybe not but its a story i made up for my kids and it seems to help them.

only you can change the way things are and how they will go.

i thought my story was appropriate, not disrespectful.

 

[Jerry Maguire]

Originally posted by penkitten
maybe not but its a story i made up for my kids and it seems to help them.

only you can change the way things are and how they will go.

i thought my story was appropriate, not disrespectful.

It appeared very condesending. How would you advise somebody in my situation to make friends?

 

[Cesare Cardinali]

Jerry wrote:

It appeared very condesending

I agree. However, there's a lot of good stuff in this thread and I find it ironic that you've chosen to focus on the one "negative" thing. Perhaps, this is how you look at a lot of things in your life, which is causing the problem?

Cesare Cardinali

 

[penkitten]

Originally posted by Cesare Cardinali
Jerry wrote:


I agree. However, there's a lot of good stuff in this thread and I find it ironic that you've chosen to focus on the one "negative" thing. Perhaps, this is how you look at a lot of things in your life, which is causing the problem?

Cesare Cardinali

i didnt mean for it to sound negative, i meant for it to sound a little more simple than the sky is falling and we are all about to die.
deciding to make changes can always be positive.

 

[chili kat]

The first thing you need to do is learn how to make no appolgies for who you are, irregardless of who you are. This is a simple idea, but in itself a real challenge for some people. It can take some time. Stick it out. Once you achieve that, you will have the confidence to build yourself steadily into a consistantly better person. You'll advance in career, social life and health every day.
Don't expect it to be easy. Expect a lot of inner-struggle. It may take a few years, but it will happen, and when it does...man...it's a beautiful thing. Liberation like you've never known.

 

[Metalixia]

Where in scotland do you live?

 

[Bible_Belt]

Take a night or weekend class, in anything (except maybe computers or math.) Female-dense subjects would include art, yoga, dance, social work, and child education. If you want to meet women, find a way to be where they are. Getting a night job tending bar is better than nothing.