so i have one-itis for this one girl. had an obvious chance and feel like i ****ed up, maybe you guys can tell me what to do.
i get a lot of attention from hot girls cuz of my looks and natural charm but have no idea what the **** i'm doing and have bad inner game as well.
anyway i've known this girl from the same social circle for over a year. i remember meeting her way back when and setting a good impression. at some point we were in different parts of the world and all, and in last 4 months been seeing each other at the same parties and all. she's shown obvious signs that she's interested in me. i've been mostly ignoring her advances, largely cuz of fear and general apathy, but here's what happened lately.
now, i moved to a different city about 45 mins away recently. since then i went to a party july 4th. she greeted me super-excitedly, squeed my hand and all, etc. at some point i drank way too much and had to leave. she called me later and we talked on the phone for a little ("omg you left" and i think she said "i love you" at some point). the next day, i texted her "hey you. dinner?" and 3 hours later after no response, i realized hse was playing games and i stupidly thought i'd "cut through her bull****" and said "i'm into you. when u wanna meet?" later she responded "hey just got your text. r u still hungry? i'll let u know soon" and 2 mins later wrote "hey just went to a bbq." then i panicked and did something real dumb and wrote her "hey i'm free after 9, let me know when u want to meet." she didn't respond of course. the next day i wrote a pretty affectionate note along the lines "hey, was nice seeing you the other day, hope you enoyed fireworks, i'll let you know next time i'm in cityA" (i left that night.)
what should i do now? just call her and have a phone convo soon before i come back? i'm gonna be back in the city tomorrow, and the day after i'm gonna be working for 3 weeks at a sumemr camp there but i won't have much time. should i call her and chat and try to meet her soon while the fire might be there, or later during one of my breaks. i feel like if i met with her in person, it'd be a done deal if she indeed still likes me. i just don't know how to get that meeting. i feel like she truly liked me, and out of panick and trying to be project a certain imagine instead of being myself, i got her to think i'm a wuss and i'm there to get her and that i want something from her. for now i'm thinking of calling her (leaving a short message if she doesn't pick up "hey name, hope yo've been well, gimem a call back") and if i talk with her chit-chat for a little bit and tell her my situation and see when she wants to meet up... actually i'm not sure how to play this.
i get a lot of attention from hot girls cuz of my looks and natural charm but have no idea what the **** i'm doing and have bad inner game as well.
anyway i've known this girl from the same social circle for over a year. i remember meeting her way back when and setting a good impression. at some point we were in different parts of the world and all, and in last 4 months been seeing each other at the same parties and all. she's shown obvious signs that she's interested in me. i've been mostly ignoring her advances, largely cuz of fear and general apathy, but here's what happened lately.
now, i moved to a different city about 45 mins away recently. since then i went to a party july 4th. she greeted me super-excitedly, squeed my hand and all, etc. at some point i drank way too much and had to leave. she called me later and we talked on the phone for a little ("omg you left" and i think she said "i love you" at some point). the next day, i texted her "hey you. dinner?" and 3 hours later after no response, i realized hse was playing games and i stupidly thought i'd "cut through her bull****" and said "i'm into you. when u wanna meet?" later she responded "hey just got your text. r u still hungry? i'll let u know soon" and 2 mins later wrote "hey just went to a bbq." then i panicked and did something real dumb and wrote her "hey i'm free after 9, let me know when u want to meet." she didn't respond of course. the next day i wrote a pretty affectionate note along the lines "hey, was nice seeing you the other day, hope you enoyed fireworks, i'll let you know next time i'm in cityA" (i left that night.)
what should i do now? just call her and have a phone convo soon before i come back? i'm gonna be back in the city tomorrow, and the day after i'm gonna be working for 3 weeks at a sumemr camp there but i won't have much time. should i call her and chat and try to meet her soon while the fire might be there, or later during one of my breaks. i feel like if i met with her in person, it'd be a done deal if she indeed still likes me. i just don't know how to get that meeting. i feel like she truly liked me, and out of panick and trying to be project a certain imagine instead of being myself, i got her to think i'm a wuss and i'm there to get her and that i want something from her. for now i'm thinking of calling her (leaving a short message if she doesn't pick up "hey name, hope yo've been well, gimem a call back") and if i talk with her chit-chat for a little bit and tell her my situation and see when she wants to meet up... actually i'm not sure how to play this.