Shoehorn McNugget
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Hello, I'm going to try to be as specific as possible and try not to leave anything out.
In January, I was a member of a dating site and got a quick "woo" interest message from a girl. I checked out her profile and thought she seemed cool and messaged her on the service at which point we struck up a conversation and later that day we exchanged screen names and continued to talk. We have since talked online nearly every day since. We mostly just joke around and have a good time and occasionally talk about serious things like what's going on in each other's lives, or past stuff if that happens to come up. But long story short, we've been getting along famously and probably chat for nearly 4 hours every day. We've also been exchanging myspace comments and messages, whether they be inside jokes or funny pictures or whatever. It started to happen with more frequency in the last two weeks and now it seems that not a day goes by that we aren't sending each other four or five messages on each other's myspace page. I put her in my Top 8 friends a month or so ago and as of yesterday I was not on hers, which was no problem...I don't know if that matters at all but this may mean something so I figured I'd mention it.
So, in the past two weeks we started talking more and more, sending text messages on our phones when we weren't near a computer. I've had her phone number for a little while but there wasn't really a reason to call, and she never called me. But all the while continuing talking on the computer every day and sending emails and comments on myspace back and forth, just kind of having a good old time. So fast forward to this week, she tells me she wants to come into the city and is doing so with her friends and says we should meet up. I of course agree. So, we end up coordinating it for yesterday afternoon and I go into the city and give her a call (the first time we'd actually talked on the phone)...we talked and she told me they were getting close, I told them where I was and they picked me up. At first she was very withdrawn and wouldn't really look at me that much but as the day went along she became more outgoing and there was eye contact a-plenty. We drove around the city for a little bit and then parked and walked around a while, went to the river and hung out there for a bit and eventually drove around some more before getting some food. I was supposed to have plans later that night to go hang out with a friend and she, along with her friends implored me to cancel my plans so I could go back to where she lives to hang out more that night. I considered it for a while and upon more prodding I cancelled my plans and decided to go hang out with them the rest of the evening. We went to their hometown and went to the local diner and had some food and then we drove around and went to a few parks and played on monkey bars and had a grand old time. At which point we went to her house and watched some tv and played a board game. At this point, I was playing with all her cats and generally being my normal adorable and charming self and I caught a lot of smiles coming from her direction when I would look at her. And we sat close to each other on the couch while we were playing the game but that's really about as far as it got.
Long story short, it's getting late so she decides to drive me home and her friend comes along. We have a raucous time in the car singing ridiculous 90s pop songs and she's cracking up and smiling and her friend is constantly telling me that I'm awesome and funny and all that business. So I get home, say goodbye....they just stopped in the street and let me out since there's nowhere to park. But I said goodbye and went up to my door and she gave me two separate "glance-backs," once when i walked by her door and then again when I was going into my house...she was making sure I got in OK which was very sweet I thought. So after about a half hour, I'm online and she messages me to say they got back ok. Then she invites me to a chat room with her and her friend that hung out with us all day and we talked for about another hour and a half and had a good time discussing the day's events and they were both like "you're so awesome" and her friend was like "i really like him" Then, the topic of the Top 8 on Myspace came up at which point I was like "who do i have to kill to be in your top 8?" and she said "everyone asks that" and then she was like, "check it out now" and I was in her top 8. Like I said, maybe not a big deal...but definitely a detail of the day.
So then today, we talked for a while and had our usual online conversation antics and our usual myspace commentfest. Oh yeah, I also forgot to mention that throughout the day she kept talking about all the things we needed to go do next time. Her friend invited me and the girl in question to stay down at her house soon. And this girl is supposed to be coming into the city this week to hang out with me(alone for the first time). And I have a standing invitation to come hang out at her house with her cats it seems as well.
I guess my main question is how to handle all this and make sure that I'm establishing myself as a possible dating candidate. Let's look at the facts. She found me on a dating site, which means she was on a dating site in the first place...saw my profile and thought I was interesting and moderately attractive from my picture and messaged me. Then, we have talked every day for the past 3 months online and had a good time. We hung out together one time, with accompaniment...all of which are her best friends, all of which who really liked me a lot and now have even taken to messaging me online and putting me on their own myspace top 8's. But on the contrary, this girl does have a few guy friends that she keeps around who seem to be a really good time and friends with all of her other friends as well...so I worry about being put into that category by default somehow. So I guess my question is, how do I proceed in the future. Do I change the way I operate at all or do I stay the same? Do I breach the subject of dating or do I just let it take its course? What about the possibility of making a move to get a kiss or something the next time I see her? I really think this girl is great and we're definitely highly compatible as human beings and I would like to think in a relationship too. And since her friends seem so high on me to begin with, is there a way to parlay that into proceeding forward with this and making it into a relationship? I know whatever happens will happen regardless of what I do and she may very well not be interested in dating me at all and just as a friend. But, like I said...I'd like to maximize my possibilities of being with her. So, any advice at all would be greatly appreciated. Thanks guys.
In January, I was a member of a dating site and got a quick "woo" interest message from a girl. I checked out her profile and thought she seemed cool and messaged her on the service at which point we struck up a conversation and later that day we exchanged screen names and continued to talk. We have since talked online nearly every day since. We mostly just joke around and have a good time and occasionally talk about serious things like what's going on in each other's lives, or past stuff if that happens to come up. But long story short, we've been getting along famously and probably chat for nearly 4 hours every day. We've also been exchanging myspace comments and messages, whether they be inside jokes or funny pictures or whatever. It started to happen with more frequency in the last two weeks and now it seems that not a day goes by that we aren't sending each other four or five messages on each other's myspace page. I put her in my Top 8 friends a month or so ago and as of yesterday I was not on hers, which was no problem...I don't know if that matters at all but this may mean something so I figured I'd mention it.
So, in the past two weeks we started talking more and more, sending text messages on our phones when we weren't near a computer. I've had her phone number for a little while but there wasn't really a reason to call, and she never called me. But all the while continuing talking on the computer every day and sending emails and comments on myspace back and forth, just kind of having a good old time. So fast forward to this week, she tells me she wants to come into the city and is doing so with her friends and says we should meet up. I of course agree. So, we end up coordinating it for yesterday afternoon and I go into the city and give her a call (the first time we'd actually talked on the phone)...we talked and she told me they were getting close, I told them where I was and they picked me up. At first she was very withdrawn and wouldn't really look at me that much but as the day went along she became more outgoing and there was eye contact a-plenty. We drove around the city for a little bit and then parked and walked around a while, went to the river and hung out there for a bit and eventually drove around some more before getting some food. I was supposed to have plans later that night to go hang out with a friend and she, along with her friends implored me to cancel my plans so I could go back to where she lives to hang out more that night. I considered it for a while and upon more prodding I cancelled my plans and decided to go hang out with them the rest of the evening. We went to their hometown and went to the local diner and had some food and then we drove around and went to a few parks and played on monkey bars and had a grand old time. At which point we went to her house and watched some tv and played a board game. At this point, I was playing with all her cats and generally being my normal adorable and charming self and I caught a lot of smiles coming from her direction when I would look at her. And we sat close to each other on the couch while we were playing the game but that's really about as far as it got.
Long story short, it's getting late so she decides to drive me home and her friend comes along. We have a raucous time in the car singing ridiculous 90s pop songs and she's cracking up and smiling and her friend is constantly telling me that I'm awesome and funny and all that business. So I get home, say goodbye....they just stopped in the street and let me out since there's nowhere to park. But I said goodbye and went up to my door and she gave me two separate "glance-backs," once when i walked by her door and then again when I was going into my house...she was making sure I got in OK which was very sweet I thought. So after about a half hour, I'm online and she messages me to say they got back ok. Then she invites me to a chat room with her and her friend that hung out with us all day and we talked for about another hour and a half and had a good time discussing the day's events and they were both like "you're so awesome" and her friend was like "i really like him" Then, the topic of the Top 8 on Myspace came up at which point I was like "who do i have to kill to be in your top 8?" and she said "everyone asks that" and then she was like, "check it out now" and I was in her top 8. Like I said, maybe not a big deal...but definitely a detail of the day.
So then today, we talked for a while and had our usual online conversation antics and our usual myspace commentfest. Oh yeah, I also forgot to mention that throughout the day she kept talking about all the things we needed to go do next time. Her friend invited me and the girl in question to stay down at her house soon. And this girl is supposed to be coming into the city this week to hang out with me(alone for the first time). And I have a standing invitation to come hang out at her house with her cats it seems as well.
I guess my main question is how to handle all this and make sure that I'm establishing myself as a possible dating candidate. Let's look at the facts. She found me on a dating site, which means she was on a dating site in the first place...saw my profile and thought I was interesting and moderately attractive from my picture and messaged me. Then, we have talked every day for the past 3 months online and had a good time. We hung out together one time, with accompaniment...all of which are her best friends, all of which who really liked me a lot and now have even taken to messaging me online and putting me on their own myspace top 8's. But on the contrary, this girl does have a few guy friends that she keeps around who seem to be a really good time and friends with all of her other friends as well...so I worry about being put into that category by default somehow. So I guess my question is, how do I proceed in the future. Do I change the way I operate at all or do I stay the same? Do I breach the subject of dating or do I just let it take its course? What about the possibility of making a move to get a kiss or something the next time I see her? I really think this girl is great and we're definitely highly compatible as human beings and I would like to think in a relationship too. And since her friends seem so high on me to begin with, is there a way to parlay that into proceeding forward with this and making it into a relationship? I know whatever happens will happen regardless of what I do and she may very well not be interested in dating me at all and just as a friend. But, like I said...I'd like to maximize my possibilities of being with her. So, any advice at all would be greatly appreciated. Thanks guys.