You missed my point entirely
@DreamAgain or you would understand my response better.
She wants someone who sees her as more than the pretty face. More than the "model".
I dated a professional male model before I married. Ridiculously good looking photogenic man. Did national print, runway, fragrance, Milan fashion week, the whole nine yards. He hated how shallow & vain & fickle the industry is. My sister in law also did runway and print in Paris as a teen. Also came to dislike the complete objectification in that industry.
The fact that you think it's just walking back & forth tells me how clueless you are. While it IS that on one level it's also the complete objectification of people based strictly on appearance. They get rejected because they have too many freckles, too few freckles, they have a gap between their teeth, they don't have a gap between their teeth, on a first sight "yes/no" basis all the time.
For all the runways you walk there are many more that reject you. Fashion is fickle and idiosyncratic. It's an industry that can be brutal on the human mannequins, the models, precisely because they aren't mannequins at all...they are people. Very few people survive that industry with their psyche and their sanity fully intact.
Yet a model is considered a trophy to most men just the way a doctor (for example) is considered a trophy by most women.
Whenever a person is viewed as a trophy they become an object, and therefore less human. You are objectifying this woman (look at me I'm dating a model) and asking for ways to objectify her MORE by negging her on her looks.
The male model and my sister in law both sought people who could simply relate to them as people. They both wanted people who could overlook their appearance and see the real person inside.
The male model was the most neurotic man I ever met & was actually insecure about his looks, in part I always thought, due to being seen as a face/piece of meat for years in the industry. Being objectified in that way often takes a toll on people.
I really liked the male model because he was a cool person, ambitious, intelligent, great personality, funny. Obviously he was handsome, stylish & sought after by women. But his deep insecurities kept him from revealing himself in a deep way so I ended up dropping him for the man who became my husband.
He couldn't handle negs about his appearance, I realized that quickly so I never did anything that risked insulting his vanity. Many models are the same way. If you insult someone's vanity you'll soon fall out of favor.
If you decide to do it let the board know how it goes. That could be instructive.
At any rate that's the advice from the old lady
