Advice for College....

[DJ1234]

Make sure as soon as you get there you become social and be very outgoing.. make lots of new friends. That is the number one priority. Then slowly select yoru friends by hanging out with the more "popular" kids.. the ones who get girls pretty easily.. and you can tell who those guys are.

Frat Boys have Social Proof. Social Proof gets you LAID. PERIOD. Also...say what ever you want about those sorority girls. But at my old school...those where HOTTEST chicks on campus. And they LOVE frat boys. And when other women on campus see other HBs attracted to you they can't help but be attracted to you as well.

Hey man...I don't make the rules...I just study the game....:yes:

This is what I also wanted to verify, does social proof and hanging out with the popular kids still apply in college as it did in high school? I mean that is what pretty much got me laid in high school but is social proof not as important in colllege as it was in high school as people might be more accepting?

 

[DJ1234]

A lot of guys who were popular in high school have a hard time adjusting because you don't have a reputation yet, and some of the things that really worked in high school really DON'T work in college. Dominance is more subtle, being a bully doesn't make you look cool, it just makes you look immature. Stuff like that.

So if you're popular in high school it really doesn't mean **** in college and pretty much you have to start all over to regain your status?

This is also exactly what I wanted to know, can anyone go into more detail about what I SHOULD and should NOT do in college? Thanks for bringing these points up...

 

[DJ1234]

I'm probably not the best person to give advice on college, considering I completely and utterly wasted college and didn't take advantage of it in absolutely every respect (gaining knowledge, gpa, partying, girls, networking, etc).

But one thing I can say is don't piss any of it away. Maybe you're not the type of person to do this kind of stuff anyway, but spend as little time as possible playing Xbox by yourself, f*cking around on the internet, channel surfing because there's "nothing else to do".....you get the idea. College is a very unique time in your life when you have social/sexual/life experience opportunities that you'll never again have, and you don't want to waste any of it. If you have the opportunity to have a new experience that might put you outside your comfort zone when you could instead just be sitting in and playing Halo or WoW, take advantage of it. Jesus god almighty, just take it. Sitting alone in front of a screen is not how you make fond memories and have stories to tell later on in your life. This may sound obvious to some, and painful to accept for others, but it's a mindset you will regret not having had in college for the rest of your life. The rest of your life.

Here's hoping this message will get sent back in time to myself 8 years ago ....

Great Advice! I will remember this post when I start college and use it to cherish every minute I have in college! thanks!

 

[DJ1234]

What about going to a university your sophomore year. I'm going to community college in the fall and will plan to transfer in the spring or the fall of 2008. Do you really miss out by transferring sophomore year as opposed to a incoming freshmen. This is the exact reason why I'm transferring sophomore year as opposed to junior due to missing out. I Should be in a university but I'm not letting that hold me back which is why i want to be their within my sophomore year.

This is exactly what I am doing also. I will be attending a ( CC ) Community College and will be transfering as soon as I am done with my program at the CC. So im assuming this makes my freshman year different as I hear CC are not as great as regular Universities.....

 

[KaJaMo]

Clealry, the people who are saying get straight A's are BSing.

5-10 Year after you graduate college, you won't be thinking back to that super hard test you Aced. You'll be thinking about that Monday night you got drunk as hell and hooked up with one of teh hottest girls at your College.

You won't be thinkign about that great relationship you had with your teacher by spending 30 mins after class talking to him every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday. You'll be thinking abotu having lunch with yoru boys and going in great detail how a gorgeous girl sucke dyou off teh night before.

The Motto: C's Get Degrees.

Look at George W. Bush. C student(admitted by himself), and President of the United States.

The point is College isthe best time of your life, live it. Just as other said don't play any dumb pc games. In fact, my freshman and sophomore year I don't think I tocuhed a console controller, and teh only tim I watched TV or a movie, is when i was gettign ready to hook up with a girl.

College: STudy, get A's and B's, go to the Gym. Dominate.

 

[KaJaMo]

Oh, and for those of you who are transferring as sophomores, or whatever the case. You missed out big. Sophomore year is 100% different that freshman eyar. Soph year everyone already ha stheir friends, social circles, etc. And same goes for Juniro and Senior years.

SO do all that you can to be a freshman LIVING on campus with other freshman.

 

[Master Bates]

^ man it's depressing to read stuff like that. I'd give anything to redo college without the social ineptitude. :-/

 

[theunflushables]

But on the same token, you should aim higher than C's. And if you get a C no big deal, you still passed. It really is a fine line. I partied a little too much and ended up getting kicked out.

Things you should do, talk to everyone especially the hotties. Your HS rep doesnt follow you there.

Things to not do. Like people have mentioned don't get stuck into playing video games, big waste of time.

Don't hang out with people from HS just because you know them. It really robs you of meeting people.

 

[KaJaMo]

Now here's a smart man!

I focused at least 80% on this (and it paid off), avoided the frats, and literally zeroed in on the specific chicks i wanted to date. In ALL of your life, women should be ancillary to it, i dont care how much you love them. I love women too, but they should come second to you and your future.

Generally speaking, having a social life is a bit overrated. It doesn't pay the bills, the mortgage, the car, etc. That's the hard part of life. You get all of that, take care of your health, and finding a hot babe is a walk in the park.

HAHAHAHAHAHA, are you kidding me?

SOme of the best connections I was introduced to was through my frat.. sipping ****tails with rich alumni saying how they have top of the lien work for me after I graduate.

I would hate to be in your shoes man.

Just rememebr, there's always a bigger fish.

 

[KaJaMo]

Freshman year of college was one of my favorite years of my life thus far. A lot of guys who were popular in high school have a hard time adjusting because you don't have a reputation yet, and some of the things that really worked in high school really DON'T work in college. Dominance is more subtle, being a bully doesn't make you look cool, it just makes you look immature. Stuff like that. QUOTE]


Not true amigo, the popular kids in highschool were popular for a reason, because they had social skills. They played sports, or were good looking.
College is no different, in fact it could be seen as worse.

Don't think that if you were a social reject and outcast you'll suddenly become Mr. Popular in college. Hate to break it to you but the social clicks and groups form very fast. Within the first month. If you hang out with the Xbox playing kids, you'll be deemed as one sooner than you think.

Unfortunantly, being popular also has it's downsides, more pressure to focus less on school work, peer rpessure in doing bad decisions(drugs etc). Just manage your time and be responsible, and don't be someone you're not... it'll catch up to you eventually.

Finally, a huge no-no is don't lie about your past... the world is a small place and you never know when you could be caught.

 

[theunflushables]

That last statement is true, my brother's idiot friend kept lying about where he came from and it came back and bit him in the ass. It was hillarious.

 

[TheHumanist]

The Motto: C's Get Degrees.

Look at George W. Bush. C student(admitted by himself), and President of the United States.

And a fine job he did... Granted, I'm a little young, but I don't advise trying to get as far as him through the same footsteps, unless you have alot of connections and a father who is a former president The motto sounds off to me, though reading in context, I see where you going. Don't kill yourself with school only, give priority, but have fun too.

The point is College isthe best time of your life, live it. Just as other said don't play any dumb pc games. In fact, my freshman and sophomore year I don't think I tocuhed a console controller, and teh only tim I watched TV or a movie, is when i was gettign ready to hook up with a girl.

College: STudy, get A's and B's, go to the Gym. Dominate.

While the top part sounds off, your summary sounds right. Party Hard. Study Harder. Go to the Gym. Have Fun. Dominate.

 

[Zerix]

So how badly did I **** up by testing out of high school and starting community college early (this year) and not going straight to a University.

So far I experienced only one semester of comm. college, and yeah, not so great, not much different than HS. Did make a great friend though, and a few others.

Same advice still apply though when I get to a Uni starting my 3rd year (junior right?) ?

 

[KaJaMo]

Zerix, i'm afraid im going to have to say no. You will never experience what others have.

You do realize by junior year, most people in your year will already be living off campus with teh friends they met freshman and sophomore year.

The whole contrapion of College life is.

You leave home for the first time, have no Idea what you're goign to go through, live with a complete strangers, and have to make all new friends because you know maybe one or two people form your highschool. Whom which you were not really that close in high school to begin with. SOunds pretty shi**y doesnt it?

Nope!

In fact, everyone is mostly in the same boat as you are and that common thing you have with the thousands of other freshman will make you bond very quilcky and easily.

My 2nd night of freshman year I believe I already slept in a girl's bed.

Just as someone else stated, teh first month of college for a girl, is insane. All she wants is to drink, be crazy, a f*ck like a horny rabbit.

However, Zerix, my advice to you is when you get to your University Junior year to be as social as you can and make friends with the people in your class. Mayeb have a few parties with soem of of your roomies to meet people and expand your social connections, and def. go to other parties.

Hope everythign works otu ok for you and who knows, maybe you'll have a completely different experience than what I mentioned. I'm just going afetr my own experiences and accounts.

 

[theunflushables]

and remember there are always freshmen.

 

[Zerix]

Zerix, i'm afraid im going to have to say no. You will never experience what others have.

You do realize by junior year, most people in your year will already be living off campus with teh friends they met freshman and sophomore year.

The whole contrapion of College life is.

You leave home for the first time, have no Idea what you're goign to go through, live with a complete strangers, and have to make all new friends because you know maybe one or two people form your highschool. Whom which you were not really that close in high school to begin with. SOunds pretty shi**y doesnt it?

Nope!

In fact, everyone is mostly in the same boat as you are and that common thing you have with the thousands of other freshman will make you bond very quilcky and easily.

My 2nd night of freshman year I believe I already slept in a girl's bed.

Just as someone else stated, teh first month of college for a girl, is insane. All she wants is to drink, be crazy, a f*ck like a horny rabbit.

However, Zerix, my advice to you is when you get to your University Junior year to be as social as you can and make friends with the people in your class. Mayeb have a few parties with soem of of your roomies to meet people and expand your social connections, and def. go to other parties.

Hope everythign works otu ok for you and who knows, maybe you'll have a completely different experience than what I mentioned. I'm just going afetr my own experiences and accounts.

Yeah I almost gave up hope beginning to read that post, til I caught the later parts haha. I might not even live on campus though, if I go to say UCLA or USC or somewhere around where I live (those two are close). Otherwise yeah...

 

[The Forms]

Not true amigo, the popular kids in highschool were popular for a reason, because they had social skills. They played sports, or were good looking.
College is no different, in fact it could be seen as worse.

Don't think that if you were a social reject and outcast you'll suddenly become Mr. Popular in college. Hate to break it to you but the social clicks and groups form very fast. Within the first month. If you hang out with the Xbox playing kids, you'll be deemed as one sooner than you think.

Unfortunantly, being popular also has it's downsides, more pressure to focus less on school work, peer rpessure in doing bad decisions(drugs etc). Just manage your time and be responsible, and don't be someone you're not... it'll catch up to you eventually.

Finally, a huge no-no is don't lie about your past... the world is a small place and you never know when you could be caught.

A lot of the guys who played sports in high school don't play them in college. The guys who go on and on about how they played sports in high school are kind of sad and lame. By the second semester of your freshman year you should have moved beyond that stuff. If you're still talking about high school at that point you're lame.

As for the social skills, the things that worked in high school don't always work in college. Good social skills are important, but the skills you need in college are more developed than what works in high school. They start to come closer to the social skills adults use, v. what worked in high school which is closer to how kids act.

Unless your college is TINY, you won't have a reputation that everyone knows about like you did in high school.

That's the biggest difference between college and high school. In college you can't really get a reputation that everyone knows about the way you did in high school. There's just too many people for that to be plausible. So your social skills have to be better because you meet people every day who have never met you and have never heard of you. That doesn't happen in high school.

It's true you can't make up your past, but you can completely revamp who you are if you want to, because no one knows you and will be fine with whoever you decide to be.

I guess kajamo is either a freshman or goes to a tiny school. Because you don't really GET labeled as a video gamer or any other name (unless its really obvious like being a goth or a stoner) in college. You don't HAVE a reputation like you do in high school. If you're hanging out with the x box kids and decide you don't want to be that anymore, you can just change. There are so many people even at a medium sized school that you can change groups and it's not wierd or hard like high school.

 

[L777]

Oh sh.it, I'm going to Mizzou in 3 weeks. Hows Freshman year gonna be for a tall, decent looking, athletic, British DJ?

Can't wait.

 

[Alphamale1821]

Ok I need to know how many credits make you what in college. Like I’ve been told that only you have 30 credits you are considered a sophomore and will be into junior year. I plan to transfer with much less then 30. This Fall I will have 13 credits, I may try to transfer in the spring(but once again I’m missing out) so I may decide to take just like 1 or 2 classes in the spring and then transfer in the fall of 2008. So assuming I have like 15-18 credits in the fall of 2008 what will I be considered at a university.

My goal is to be a freshmen transfer and I plan to meet the requirements at the schools of my choice. But I'm confused because I f I took courses at CC then I transfer with like 15 creds am I like a freshmen with half of his credits to be a sophomore or what. Assuming that this is done will I still be a freshmen except I’m in my 2nd semester(credit wise) but I’m still enjoying the university experience right?

 

[Bible_Belt]

HAHAHAHAHAHA, are you kidding me?

SOme of the best connections I was introduced to was through my frat.. sipping ****tails with rich alumni saying how they have top of the lien work for me after I graduate.

I would hate to be in your shoes man.

Just rememebr, there's always a bigger fish.

It's a little naive to believe all that sh!t, that all you have to do is graduate as a frat guy, and then your life will be made from there. Every frat talks a lot of sh!t about their grand connections, but it's usually all bs.

Even making the grand assumption that you will get some great job just by being a frat grad, which is a giant and dangerous assumption, the average frat guy party animal has about a 2.2 gpa. That means that you will never in your life have more than a 4-year degree: no mba, no law school, no med school, no Master's of any kind. Over your lifetime, this will seriously limit your earning potential. The trade-off is four years (maybe five, lol) of beer-drinking in exchange for a lifetime of mediocre wages.

I would hate to be in your shoes, too, man. Those bigger fish are the ones with the graduate degrees that you'll never have.