Advice for a new guy?

[AspiringAlpha]

So alittle about myself

graduated highschool about a week ago, going to Uni soon

my experiance with girls through my time has been nothing, never kissed a girl or ****ed a girl

i would like for this to change, ASAP

my friends say im a quiet guy, and they are right ( i can see this in myself)

im hesitant to speak my opinnions

but i feel that my natural style is probably laid back, chill

how do i balance the laid back chill persona with the outgoing, loud guy persona?

i dont wanna be known as the quiet chode, i wanna speak my ideas but i dont wanna be the dancing monkey entertainer

i never approached girls in my life because i felt i didnt have the status

i go to malls sometimes but the girls their are usually in groups and i have to much AA to approach them, i rather start with single sets

do you guys recommed i approach at the mall, and what sets, or do you reccommend i start being social and talking to girls at uni when i go there?

i believe my AA and nervousness in public (not that bad just the usual AA) is a result of the way i spend my time,

which is usually doing pointless things

i want to start changing my daily routine IMEDIATLY like eating healthy and exercising and doing physical hobbies instead of playing PS3

this a good plan?

ps: my friends are obnocoxoius socially unaware chodes, so not a benefit hanging with them

on the plus side im pretty good looking, like when im walkign around were women are theyll notice me and eye contact like all the time

im in good shape and my grooming habits are good

thanks guys

 

[slaog]

You don't have to be loud to be confident. If others are loud and you're not who cares. Alot of the time loud people are attention seekers.


Get rid of your negative thinking. You need to build yourself up in your own mind instead of putting yourself down which is what you're doing.


Learn some proper body language so even if you're a bit unconfident your body language will be telling women something different.


Keep reading and applying your knowledge. Eventually you'll be fine and have plenty of women and wonder what the big deal was about women in the first place.

 

[Hakuna]

What Slaog said. You put yourself down in 10 different ways from just your post, definitely not the mentality you want to have. If you want to be confident, think confidently. Thinking positively may seem like something you have to force out first, but eventually you will get into a habit of it. Then you'll create positive thinking cycles similar to the negative ones you currently have.

 

[terran2k]

there's a book by david x, it's probably the better books i've read about where your head needs to be.