Adding a girl on facebook

[jammy1257]

I'm going to try and game this girl I know in my course in university, I already added her previously but I ended up deleting her because I never talked to her but this time I think I'm gonna try it and add her again? I know her name and she knows mine, I knew she had a thing for me at the beginning because I would catch her looking my way and smiling at me.

Once my friend asked for her number and she looked reluctant to give it, she looked at me and said "OK, my number is xxxx" while smiling, I thought that as a hint to take it and phone her but I didn't.

Hoepfully she has forgotten or not realised that I deleted her off my facebook, how should I begin to "game" her?

 

[PDubb75]

hmm... Go back in time and call her.

If you are going to use Facebook, use it to get her number and call her. Don't "game" her on Facebook. Especially when she gave you hints in person, and you didn't act on them. It just makes you look scared hiding behind the internet.

 

[jammy1257]

Yeh but don't I need to develop our friendship first before I just go ahead and ask for her number out of nowhere?

She gave me hints about a year ago when I started university, hopefully she will still give me a chance.

I also need you to know whether she's worth pursuing, I'll post a pic up later!

 

[PDubb75]

Yeh but don't I need to develop our friendship first before I just go ahead and ask for her number out of nowhere?

If you didn't know her already, it would be different. I mean, yeah... if you do add her on Facebook, you are gonna need to do a little bit of small talk first. Your first message shouldn't be asking for her number. But I would either go for the number or make plans during that first discussion.

If there is a way to talk to her/try for her number without using Facebook, that would be my suggestion. Otherwise, add her, make some small talk and then tell her about somewhere that you are going with some people, that she is welcome to join you. Sometimes that works a little better than asking for a 1 on 1 date.

She gave me hints about a year ago when I started university, hopefully she will still give me a chance.

Don't bring that up, and definitely don't ask about it. Just assume she's interested. Keep that mindset.

I also need you to know whether she's worth pursuing, I'll post a pic up later!

Not gonna argue with that !

 

[jammy1257]

How do I not **** this up? I tend to fall in the friendzone and I don't want that to happen with this girl so what do I NOT DO so that I don't end up in the friendzone with this girl?

 

[PDubb75]

Well, if you have read a lot on here, you have heard it time and time again: Have options. The best way to fvck up with a girl, is when you know in your head that it's all-or-nothing based on her decision.

You can only control a small portion of what it takes for 2 people to work, and for you to bank on that is setting yourself up for failure. If she isn't interested, there is nothing you can do about it, except drive yourself crazy. All the "game" in the world isn't going to work if she simply has no interest.

Luckily, in your case, she has shown interest at some point. But the previous thought still holds true. Desperation and neediness are easy to spot, and hard to hide. So, it's best if you simply don't have them.

Most likely the reason you are falling into the friendzone is because you are not escalating properly, or quick enough. For example: waiting to work your game a year after a girl shows interest!

Kino is key. If you need help on that, use the Search feature, or check out the DJ Bible. There are some good write-ups on kino out there. Also, get some sexual innuendos into the conversation. Try to raise some sexual tension. Kino and sexual conversation can keep you out of the "safe" zone where she puts her friends. It helps reinforce your intentions, as well.

 

[Angelo]

You should have gamed her in person when you had the chance. If facebook is your only option now then I say go ahead and try. Add her, chat for a bit then get her number. Once you get her number stop trying to use facebook as means of communicating with her.

Get the number. Call to meet up for a date. Game her face to face. Facebook is used by girls to get their daily ego boost.

 

[jammy1257]

AH now that I think about, I have never used kino or touched my female friends hands or anything, I'll do it and see where it gets me.

 

[polsdofer]

hey

 

[Johnnyventana]

I'm thinking you un-friended her for some perceived slight last time. I'm not buying all this.

 

[Tyson420]

you got problems.

 

[mahoney]

I'm thinking you un-friended her for some perceived slight last time. I'm not buying all this.

this is the problem with deleting people, it doesn't look very good - and it looks even worse if you change your mind and then try and re-add, its a really bad look

and emblematic of the problems of many on this forum - the flitting between 2 extremes of overcontact and non-contact