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Hakuna

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A devil-may-care attitude and mediocre game will get you far in a relationship and game; but the upper echelons of seductive artistry are reserved exclusively for men with social acumen of fanatical proportions. Marginalizing social calamities, leveraging awkward moments, or maximizing your utility at crucial moments are, among other things, your keys to superior game.

Feel free to add your own experiences or things you've learned, especially specific things that aren't just "common knowledge" in the community

-It is much easier to establish dominance when she is over at YOUR place
-When you feel awkward, your body naturally retracts to beta mode
- PDA is usually beta (not including when you randomly touch her inappropriately)
- You should never act too impressed by anything
- You should never laugh at jokes that aren’t funny
- Drinking too much and passing out is beta. Drinking too much, passing out, and then having people take care of you or draw on your face afterwards in front of your girlfriend is super beta. Drinking too much and passing out and then waking up next to your girlfriend and 2 other girls is Alpha.
- Being caught for watching porn is not Beta
- Not BEING awkward in awkward situations sends seismic Alpha vibes. Be able to laugh at anything at all times. Keep a stash of happy pills underneath your pillow if necessary.
- Getting a lot of attention does not make you Alpha, only an entertainment monkey
- You should never, by any means, ever resort to pity, sympathy, or feminization. When 5 women beg you to put make up on you, you might feel surprisingly keen on saying yes (attention from 5 women simultaneously can make a beta exceedingly dizzy). Don’t. You must never confuse attraction with attention.
- Too much confidence is better than too little
- Using fewer words to express your thoughts is always preferable. "brevity is the soul of wit"
- Never cling to your girlfriend's side at a party
- Always be disappearing randomly
 

Audiophile

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One of the biggest ones I've learned is:
Being a gentleman is more Alpha than being a nice guy.
Never apologize for anything that doesn't deserve a genuine apology.
 

ChalengeGuyFan

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Nice list! (but why is PDA beta? Excessive PDA is, but when done sparingly?)

I found this
Hakuna said:
A devil-may-care attitude and mediocre game will get you far in a relationship and game; but the upper echelons of seductive artistry are reserved exclusively for men with social acumen of fanatical proportions. Marginalizing social calamities, leveraging awkward moments, or maximizing your utility at crucial moments are, among other things, your keys to superior game.
incredibly funny. :rock:
 

JustLurk

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Thinking about whether or not you are beta at the present moment is being beta. An alpha doesn't walk around worrying if any of his actions are beta.. He does his thing. Alphas can get away with beta behaviors and come up MORE alpha because their alpha frame is intact. You can't think about the frame, just be it. Otherwise it's not really a frame. Annoying, I know.
 

Young Juan

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- Never hesitate to agree to disagree - Typically this garners respect from past experiences. Shows some backbone
- Hesitate as rarely as possible, especially when making 50/50 decisions
- Don't back down when you get called ****y - usually a test to see if you're genuinely that confident or if your putting effort into it
- Walk away when your given an ultimatum you don't care for
- Always strike out swinging, never looking
 

Hakuna

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Thinking about whether or not you are beta at the present moment is being beta. An alpha doesn't walk around worrying if any of his actions are beta.. He does his thing. Alphas can get away with beta behaviors and come up MORE alpha because their alpha frame is intact. You can't think about the frame, just be it. Otherwise it's not really a frame. Annoying, I know
Agreed, but when guys first unplug themselves from betadom, it is almost inevitable that they will be overly conscious of their actions.

The ultimate goal of course is to fully internalize being an alpha, in which case it just comes naturally to you and you never have to think about it. However, if you've been a nice guy all your life, like most of the people on this forum, your body and mind will resist to change when you first shift your frame.
 
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