Originally posted by Giovanni Casanova:
Have any of you guys ever noticed that, when you hook up with a girl and you're in a committed, long term relationship, where you're seriously not looking for a girl, you suddenly have every hot chick within a fifty mile radius falling at your feet? I know that this has happened to me. You're not interested in meeting women, and suddenly the women are interested in YOU.
Same with the gay guy. He had women tripping over themselves to be around him, even though he honestly wasn't all that good-looking (in my male opinion, which is understanably biased).
The big question is WHAT THE HELL IS SO DIFFERENT about you when you're looking for a girl compared to when you simply aren't? Is it a confident aura? Is it a lack of desperation? And what's the difference between the guys who are just hanging out chilling with the disc jockeys and the guys who are barflies, holding up the walls?
Most guys in social settings (well, for that matter, ALL settings) seem to be on the prowl, looking for a girl to hook up with. There IS a sort of desperation about them, and the girls sense this with their weird little alien antennae. The guys who are just hanging out and genuinely having fun and honestly don't care about girls are suddenly seen as attractive, fun, confident, non-desperate, challenging guys.
The problem is that it's hard to fake this sort of thing. If you go to a club mainly just to have fun, then the girls will flock to you. If you go to a club solely to get chicks, you're going to have some difficulties. The main thing, for me, is to think about how I'd feel about the place if no chicks showed up. Could I still have fun? In other words, do you depend on the girls for your fun? If you can have fun without the girls, give it a try. Go to the club one night with honestly no intentions of hooking up. Make a vow to yourself not to pick up or hit on any women there. Go out there, have fun. If you are honestly doing this, the women will see the fun you're having and will practically beg to be part of it.
Then reject them. Seriously.
You'll be lucky if they don't rape you in the parking lot.
