animal crackers
Senior Don Juan
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THE POST I MADE YESTERDAY
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Why I don't approach and What I'm going to do about it
Why I don't approach: The list of thoughts that randomly go through my head when I do (or rather don't do) daytime/school/street approaches.
*That girl that is walking towards me might be cute, oh she is!!! Wait, she's already walking past me. Oh well maybe I'll see her again later.
*Oh she's on her cell phone and looking at the ground.
*It's too quiet in here we'll both get emberassed and everyone will look at me.
*I'll act really wierd and creepy and she'll tell everyone until I'm known as the creepy guy at school.
*She's not really my type.
*She is exactly my type, but I'm not in state I didn't take a shower today. Oh well.
*My friends will see me approach her and laugh at me, and then I'll feel ****ty all day.
*She probably has a boyfriend / She's probably talking to her boyfriend on her cell phone.
*I have a couple zits on my face and don't look my best, I'll approach when I look better.
*I'm too tired, I don't even want to talk to anyone right now.
*She looks like she's in a hurry, she won't even stop to talk to me.
*Everyone will hear me say something to her and start laughing to each other, and then she will notice that they're laughing at me and get wierd and say 'I have to go.'
*I've got too much to think about right now, I have lots of stuff I need to get done.
*She's not hot enough.
*She's with her friends and they will make it pointless for me to even try.
*She's with guys and that's scary, even if they're not her boyfriend they might ridicule me.
*My life isn't cool enough for a girl like that, she probably has an awesome life already.
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I have a lot of mental blocks that I need to get rid of.
Right now I'm internalizing following beliefs:
-I am the prize, girls want to be with me
-People like me and enjoy being with me
-Girls love getting approached by me, in fact they go home and cry if I don't approach. I'm actually being cruel by not approaching.
-A girl has to fit into my life, not me into hers
-I do what I want when I want to do it
-Other people don't give 2 shlts about whatever the hell you do with your life. Only you do.
-Nobody thinks less of you if you mess up an approach (this one very hard to internalize...)
-Girls love my big penis
-Being with me is the best choice a girl could make.
-Girls are automatically attracted to me because I am an attractive man.
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I'm going to grow up a little bit, put my over-inflated ego aside, and stop taking life so seriously.
I can make life fun and exciting, or I can make it serious and scary.
I know that I have too big of an ego about myself, and what other people see of me, and while it's good to be confident and think highly of yourself, your mind can trick itself to think that it's big ego is just you being confident and thinking highly of yourself.
It's really hard to actually be honest with yourself.
If you have read this to the bottom here you probably are very similar to myself. I get girls and have had girlfriends in the past, but I just don't approach. I am afraid most of the time and my mind just gives me excuses. Strangely I can approach at parties and clubs, but daytime just feels so wierd to actually go up to some random girl and start a conversation esp. girls with friends, or walking the other direction.
I believe everyone eventually comes up with their own solutions that can be influenced by other people, and I encourage you guys to come up with your own.
MY SOLUTION:
1. Write out positive beliefs on paper and carry them with me to remind myself of the truth when my mind gets caught up in the fear. Continue writing positive beliefs on paper as I think of them.
2. Write down every time a girl shows interest in me to reinforce beliefs.
3. Talk to at least 1 hot girl a day, no matter how I do it.
4. Make it fun for myself like a video game. Don't attach to an outcome, just play for the sake of playing. LOL I can't believe I'm adding this but...It's like halo, You love winning, but it's still fun even if you lose, and when you win enough times which you will if you play enough you keep leveling up.
I think for now those 4 points will be an awesome way to get a fresh start and develop some momentum. I especially like the belief writing, which will help with the momentum.
I also will be starting a "Meeting Girls and Starting Conversations" thread tomorrow where I'm going to post my field reports.
animal crackers
THE POST I MADE YESTERDAY
*************
Why I don't approach and What I'm going to do about it
Why I don't approach: The list of thoughts that randomly go through my head when I do (or rather don't do) daytime/school/street approaches.
*That girl that is walking towards me might be cute, oh she is!!! Wait, she's already walking past me. Oh well maybe I'll see her again later.
*Oh she's on her cell phone and looking at the ground.
*It's too quiet in here we'll both get emberassed and everyone will look at me.
*I'll act really wierd and creepy and she'll tell everyone until I'm known as the creepy guy at school.
*She's not really my type.
*She is exactly my type, but I'm not in state I didn't take a shower today. Oh well.
*My friends will see me approach her and laugh at me, and then I'll feel ****ty all day.
*She probably has a boyfriend / She's probably talking to her boyfriend on her cell phone.
*I have a couple zits on my face and don't look my best, I'll approach when I look better.
*I'm too tired, I don't even want to talk to anyone right now.
*She looks like she's in a hurry, she won't even stop to talk to me.
*Everyone will hear me say something to her and start laughing to each other, and then she will notice that they're laughing at me and get wierd and say 'I have to go.'
*I've got too much to think about right now, I have lots of stuff I need to get done.
*She's not hot enough.
*She's with her friends and they will make it pointless for me to even try.
*She's with guys and that's scary, even if they're not her boyfriend they might ridicule me.
*My life isn't cool enough for a girl like that, she probably has an awesome life already.
**************************************************
********************************
I have a lot of mental blocks that I need to get rid of.
Right now I'm internalizing following beliefs:
-I am the prize, girls want to be with me
-People like me and enjoy being with me
-Girls love getting approached by me, in fact they go home and cry if I don't approach. I'm actually being cruel by not approaching.
-A girl has to fit into my life, not me into hers
-I do what I want when I want to do it
-Other people don't give 2 shlts about whatever the hell you do with your life. Only you do.
-Nobody thinks less of you if you mess up an approach (this one very hard to internalize...)
-Girls love my big penis
-Being with me is the best choice a girl could make.
-Girls are automatically attracted to me because I am an attractive man.
**************************************************
********************************
I'm going to grow up a little bit, put my over-inflated ego aside, and stop taking life so seriously.
I can make life fun and exciting, or I can make it serious and scary.
I know that I have too big of an ego about myself, and what other people see of me, and while it's good to be confident and think highly of yourself, your mind can trick itself to think that it's big ego is just you being confident and thinking highly of yourself.
It's really hard to actually be honest with yourself.
If you have read this to the bottom here you probably are very similar to myself. I get girls and have had girlfriends in the past, but I just don't approach. I am afraid most of the time and my mind just gives me excuses. Strangely I can approach at parties and clubs, but daytime just feels so wierd to actually go up to some random girl and start a conversation esp. girls with friends, or walking the other direction.
I believe everyone eventually comes up with their own solutions that can be influenced by other people, and I encourage you guys to come up with your own.
MY SOLUTION:
1. Write out positive beliefs on paper and carry them with me to remind myself of the truth when my mind gets caught up in the fear. Continue writing positive beliefs on paper as I think of them.
2. Write down every time a girl shows interest in me to reinforce beliefs.
3. Talk to at least 1 hot girl a day, no matter how I do it.
4. Make it fun for myself like a video game. Don't attach to an outcome, just play for the sake of playing. LOL I can't believe I'm adding this but...It's like halo, You love winning, but it's still fun even if you lose, and when you win enough times which you will if you play enough you keep leveling up.
I think for now those 4 points will be an awesome way to get a fresh start and develop some momentum. I especially like the belief writing, which will help with the momentum.
I also will be starting a "Meeting Girls and Starting Conversations" thread tomorrow where I'm going to post my field reports.
animal crackers