Achieved so much, won many victories yet feel no better than a WB-AFC

[Migel]

What you're looking for in life is not what you think you want. You think that you want to have accomplishments and achievements. But the real thing you are looking for are FEELINGS.
Think about it... you want to
FEEL good about doing something,
you want to FEEL powerful,
you want to FEEL happy.
You are pursuing feelings. Everybody is.

The thing is that once you get those feelings you no longer value them because you start looking for something more and better.
From an evolutionary point of view you must feel ****ty in order to move your ass and work for the benefit of your survival. There is no survival benefit of happiness, so you will never feel great constantly. If you would be happy all the time, you would just sit on a bench with a grin on your face and eventually die. Understand this and stop suffering.

Read the latest post here - http://dirtsimple.org/. There is also a link to a movie that explains this concept and gives you a hint of what to do to REALLY get more from life.

 

[MrS]

You just haven't found something to do that really appeals to you DEEP DOWN.
Lots of people get these feelings sometimes, that's why you have dreams and goals, and work towards them.

 

[organizedconfusion]

The facts: I have achieved so much for a young kid like me. As a lil kid struggling against so many constraints, limitations and setbacks I have battle through many things I though I could never do. Yea, I can write them down on paper. People can tell me the changes I have gone through over the past few years.

I have improved my looks, got a rating of 9.4 on hot or not. Got so many looks from many girls and such. Gained a fair bit of muscle. Got smarter on my own. Planned out most of my future. Took up bowing and muay thai. Got good at it. People say I can take on bigger tough guys even if I'm only a small kid. A lot of people give me a lot of credit I seem to get ver uncomfortable with. These credit don't seem to fit in well with my identity.

The problem is...I dont feel that way. I dont feel no better than a bum on the street. Sure enough I feel confident after a while but that is shortlived. Like all the other things I have done are always overlooked.

You might think I am trolling. You might think I am fishing for a compliment or uplifting words of encouragement. But none of that works or anything to change my perception of self to see the truth. I need to feel it. It seems illogical. It is just like a woman who sees a man to be to rich, smart, intelligent, good looking etc but just doesn't feel attraction towards him. My identity, personality, self-esteem or however you name it doesnt "feel" my achievements. All the things I've done seems to just temporarily fill in a leak which appears to be a giant void in my life.

How do I fix these up. I dont want to go to a counsellor or psyhologist to get bullsh*t textbook answers. The last time I went to one they put me on anti-depressants which totally did the opposite. When people see me they say "How the f*ck is he depressed or feeling ill of himself when he's got all that?"

Have you ever been in this sort of phase. Think that you have banished this complex only to reappear after you have managed to achieve another milestone. I have posted a similar thread on "Feeling like a loser when winning" or something like that on a different sign in name.

Please feel free to add your view, opinions and comments.

you just lack a sense of strong identity

 

[organizedconfusion]

quit being such a worry wart

 

[Rudy_TubeSteak]

Actually I only worry when I am not doing anything and just sitting doing nothing...So I guess I'll just keep plugging along.

Sometimes when you write down your worries...it helps you somewhat fix it up. Rather than bottling it.