According to Pook: You cannot...

[LiveYourDream]

I saw @sph21 included these in a reply to a poster. I felt moved to re-post them here, for all to re-read/consider/discuss.

You cannot be yourself without truthfully seeing yourself.

You cannot sacrifice character for joyfulness without ultimately destroying happiness.

You cannot control the situation, but you can control yourself, your emotions, and your life.

You cannot have women love you until you love yourself.

You cannot grasp the female nature until you grasp your male nature.

You cannot win her until you focus on her winning you.

You cannot fully know the principles of this website until you leave it.

You cannot obtain love by giving yours away for free.

You cannot fulfill your desire by letting it trump your integrity.

You cannot be yourself by denying your dreams and what it takes to achieve them.

Thoughts...

 

[Poonani Maker]

I don't agree with "You cannot obtain love by giving yours away for free." I just did this last weekend with a single mom (12 yr old son who'd went to stay with his dad for the weekend). She was kinda hard to open, but my love won her over. Now shes contacting me. She's pretty hot, just a little overweight (not much though really, I'd say 10 lbs nothing is jiggly at all), and you know drooping (but not bad) t!tties, plus moles on her shoulders and back, but it's normal. I turned her on to my music, even though my music is "out there." I think that she'd like any music I put forth cause of the way I fvcked her.

 

[Trump]

I saw @sph21 included these in a reply to a poster. I felt moved to re-post them here, for all to re-read/consider/discuss.

Thoughts...

Pook is really starting to make me question his wisdom with quotes like these. His quotes about woman are ridiculous. Who deals in absolutes when dealing with woman and their emotions and feelings? If you are not useful for a woman, she will throw you to the curb whether you love yourself or love her or focus on her or obtain love or whatever he is saying. His quotes for life are naive too. You can do anything you want as long as its legal. You think top CEOs and stockbrokers and top leaders fulfill desire and understand integrity and control and sacrifice character? They do anything they can to get ahead as long its legal. Morality, ethics, integrity? Give me a break. Pook should live in the real world.

You cannot win her unless you focus on her winning you? You cannot have women love you until you love yourself? This sounds like 1960s Woodstock hippie crap. Woman are for sleeping with and reproduction. You value them any more than that, they will sense desperation and destroy you.

 

[oOh Nasty]

I was a Pook reader back in high school.

As a teenager, his words were gold.

Nowadays, advice and information is overly realistic. For his time, I found Pook to be a very charismatic poster and I'm sure that at this very moment, a lot of his thoughts, perceptions, and ways of expressing his ideas and theories have shifted. When he first came around, red pill knowledge was rare.

For sure, his words have become somewhat of a relic in relevancy for today, but until this day, I'm still impressed by how he was able to captivate lots of men towards walking their own path.

I'm a completely different person than what I was a decade and a half ago. You have to remember that these words were also written around that time and that he was probably a different person back then as well.

 

[old_skoolr]

Not really, the examples mentioned are basic DJ principles that one should know.

A man who has a strong inner game will more then likely succeed in the dating world, then a man who has no inner game.

Pooks stuff is simple and fun. Thats how dating should be.

 

[TheMonkeyKing]

You cannot sacrifice character for joyfulness without ultimately destroying happiness.

I don't really understand this..... can someone explain please.

 

[daddymonsterpoodle]

Dunno... When I like me, women like me.! When I dont like me I dont want to be liked or loved and even though I can still get women it isnt as much fun.

 

[ubercat]

My take on this is that if you chase moments of happiness you won't build up capability and attitudes that lead to long term confidence and happiness

 

[guru1000]

You cannot sacrifice character for joyfulness without ultimately destroying happiness.

I don't really understand this..... can someone explain please.

If you sell yourself out by returning to a woman (or any relation) who has wronged you, you may be temporarily happy because you are with her (or because the relation continues), but in the the long term you will be miserable as you would have betrayed the most important person in your life ... you.

 

[daddymonsterpoodle]

You gotta know yourself.
Studying for years to get an accounting qualification when actually your real passion is horticulture or banging lots of women because you think that is alpha/redpill when actually you are happiest in a ltr, becoming a gym junkie (which you hate) when you are happiest trail running and doing yoga, trying to be the centre of social events when actually your natural setting is quiet introvert.
An example for me was always being a sensitive lover and I thought my natural setting was monogamous ltr. After a short intense journey of self discovery I realise my natural setting is more towards dominance and several fwb.

The thing I hate about all this alpha/beta and even seduction stuff, especially basic pua techniques is that it is all artificial. You get socially undeveloped guys coming and asking "is this alpha?" or "I tried push/pull then negging and it didnt work so I did C+F, but she still didnt respond, even though she gave me an IOI"

Even if there was 1 definition of alpha there are a gazillion interpretations of what it means.

Pook has some great ideas that work for Pook. Be the prize. Like yourself. If you dont think you are worthy of love you will **** it up when you get it.

At the end of the day it isnt that difficult. HAVE FUN, talk to women, let them know you are interested (without being a creepy douche) and fvck the ones who are interested back. If you get into a ltr have a bit of self-esteem and dont get pushed around.

If it is more complicated than that explain to me what I am missing.

All the other stuff like good job, being fit, etc probably helps but the problem is men are using this as a limiter. "gee, I cant get laid because I dont have a great job/not tall enough/not young enough/not muscular enough/havent memorised all the techniques/dont know any good pick up lines/ [insert limiting factor here]" The problem is you are letting these limiters destroy your confidence and women can smell a man who is faking confidence a mile away.

Be happy, be confident, be a sexual man. Dont be boring.

 

[TheMonkeyKing]

If you sell yourself out by returning to a woman (or any relation) who has wronged you, you may be temporarily happy because you are with her (or because the relation continues), but in the the long term you will be miserable as you would have betrayed the most important person in your life ... you.

When you do things that go against your integrity or inner core principles just to gain momentary satisfaction, then in the long run you may lose your overall happiness and sense of self worth.

Examples would be a slvt banging a douchebag after ten minutes, a dude supplicating to a woman just to get laid, or eating cake and fried food instead of eating clean and working out.

It is true. Every time I've walked away from a woman's bad behaviors, they've come back eventually. At the very least they seem to have their tail between their legs, if not outright regret and wanting to re-kindle. Such is the way, usually by the time this happens, you've moved on anyway and to a better place. To gain respect, we must respect ourselves first.

 

[CMNILS87]

The most I took away from pook was don't make any girl the center of your attention. If you're out living life, you have friends, hobbies, work, fun time, alone time and women work their way in there somewhere. Everything we were taught about dating was wrong. Men have the most to lose being providers and sacrificing commitment. So we're the prize, women should qualify to us because all men are amazing and just need to show that masculine energy and confidence. Something that's been beaten out of us from society.

I think the main takeaway from all is the "you can't control the situation, but you can control yourself". Countless times in life or on dates, I would show emotion based on frustration or things not going the way I wanted and people could read it right away. Abundance mentality, not caring, and being stoic when **** hits the fan.

 

[El Payaso]

You cannot sacrifice character for joyfulness without ultimately destroying happiness.

I don't really understand this..... can someone explain please.

If you try to be someone you're not just to get something, you will ultimately end up unhappy.