absolutely confused what happened.. some clarity?

[pete101]

i was at my university friday night lining up to buy a bottle of water from the food stand and there was a tipsy hot girl in front of me with her friends who kept turning round to look at me.. then suddenly she said 'hey' and put her hand out to shake mine, i said 'hey.' she goes 'where u from?'

basically i thought she was coming onto me, so i went through with the drill, she kept kino-ing me, kept touching me to explain her situations so i thought she must be into me, so i number closed and said i'd call her next week.

fast forward to last night, i was leaving the school cafeteria at night with my friends and i was on the phone, i did not have my contacts in so did not see her walking towards me cos i'm really near sighted and it was dark, as she approached i looked at her to check her out but i may have blanked her by accident making her think i didn't recognise her, and then she turned to look at me, i was still on the phone, then i said 'hey, i'll call u tomorrow, did u have a good time friday?' i said this really quickly then walked away.

so today i call, she doesnt pick up! so i text her our date arrangements and she doesn't get back to me either! WTF?!

could the fact she thought i did not recognise her cloud her judgement as to why she isn't interested anymore?

i would have thought she wouldn't remember me cos she was tipsy but she did and i could clearly tell she must have been interested in me physically.. i didnt' do anything afc just i may have seemed as if i didn't recognise her and a bit anxious when i said i'd call her tomorrow cos she caught me by surprise and i didn't phone her yesterday cos i wanted to wait 2 days.

what the hell has happened? im so puzzled.

 

[Alle_Gory]

i don't know. you're not explaining anything.

 

[playerone]

You called, she didn't pick up, that's it. Wait for her to call or text you back. You shouldn't have texted her. But anyway, she may have been tipsy that night, and realised she wasn't that into you when she got sober again, unless you communicated with her enough to spark attraction and leave an impression.

 

[Sexual]

Texting seems to be the final swing of the pendulum. Stick to the basics--you never leave a message on the answer machine, so texting is just as bad. Too much thought into one girl will drive you nuts.

Sorry if this hurts your ego, but I believe she was trying to be funny in front of her friends. Then, when you saw her again, she may have remembered you, but you promised her that you'd call her and you did--very reliable.

Given time to think about an upcoming call, even a brainless chick will have a few jolts of thought:
-If I reject him, I'll laugh about this later with my friends.
-I just got laid within the last month to some random guy, I don't want to accidentally make the same mistake with a guy that is probably not even up to that last loser's level.
-I'm on my period and either I'll be too emotional, he'll get on my nerves, or I'll be constantly uncomfortable with the flow.
or my favorite
-My herpes are acting up--no, not tonight and not with this guy. What if he knows someone in my sorority!

 

[scrouds]

sexual man, that's awesome.

Now any time a chick flakes I'll just be thinking in my head...maybe her herpes is acting up and didn't feel like going out.

If that doesn't create the gut wretching feeling of NEXT I don't know what will.

 

[Allurre]

Don't blow up her phone buddy.

Next time you bump into her, catch up and put her back in line.

When you failed to notice her, she must've felt disrespected and ignored.

Now she's probably holding that against you, temporarily though if she's mature.

 

[Joe Stud]

Just smile the next time you see her like she's a good friend. let her chase you (as she seems to have no problem with this since she approached you initially).

meanwhile keep sargin.

when you were a kid didn't you read about "Johnny Appleseed"? keep sowing seeds... some will die out, but some will grow

 

[villshah]

Girls do that sort of thing a lot - boldly flirt while drunk but then get shy afterwards and don't want to be seen with or talk to you.

Definitely don't push this - you need to sit back and let her get comfortable with the idea of hanging out with you.

Still, though, I'd say it's unusual for this sort of thing to work out. Not unheard of, but unusual.

 

[desidoc]

Hi

I am new here...but I think I have an explanation.

The girl was trying to be funny and bold in front of her friends.Thats why she approached you first.

And after being bold and funny, I am sure she must have thought that you would not forget her ( atleast not real soon ), and when you failed to notice her in the dark, it upset her confidence....She needed validation...so she came up to you...

Your not returning the IOIs could have been an issue...or the girl was simply seeking validation when she approached you the second time.

Either ways, I agree with earlier posts that you should not have texted her. But I am sure you would bump into her again on the campus and you can raise you game..

Good Luck.