About to start my Approach Journal:need suggestions

[AAAgent]

ok so after reading a lot of approach journals, jon, RD, and incog, i have decided to start my own. I am most likely going to begin with Direct approaches since i work 8-9 till 5 ish everyday. i work near a mall/many shopping centers.

i plan on doing the approaches during lunch break and i will have roughly 45 mins or less to bang out approaches because i have to eat lunch.

I plan on starting today in about 45-50 mins when i hit the mall.

I seen that jon uses the "Hey i thought you were cute and just wanted to get your name before i left" line and my friend uses something like it as well. its worked well for the both of them. should i try something along the lines of that?

There would be no point of indirect since i only have 45 minutes and i don't have much time to waste, i might even has less than that depending how long it takes me to get my food and eat it.

I have always done the indirect approach and its worked wonders for me, only once did i ever make a direct approach in a club and i ended having a LTR with the chick. but i haven't had the balls to do that since.


Suggestions or ideas?

 

[DonJoseCantosie]

Yea, with the direct approach, u have the feel that big attraction for the woman in order for it to truly be affective. Go after the ones u really want. The aright looking girls might not respond as well because some of them are insecure and are protecting themselves. The super hotties respond to it the most because they want a confident, ballsy, dominant guy who goes for what he wants. The direct approach is very masculine and works with them the most, because they're pretty feminine is their very hot.

Don't think of direct as just a line as it won't work that well, but if u take as a mindset...then u be good . Also, if things seem ruff at the start, don't give up on direct...it takes time to get comfortable and good at it. Another piece of advice, DO NOT QUIT THIS JOURNAL. KEEP GOING DESPITE THINGS BEING HELL AT TIMES. Good Luck man!

 

[AAAgent]

haha i will not start an official thread until i actually start getting somewhere but this is what happened on my first day.

Direct Approach attempt number 1

beautiful blonde working at express folding shirts alone in the mens section. I walk by and do nothing because of AA. i walk around then leave. I go get my lunch and eat to hopefully calm down and i walk back in 15 mins later. she is surrounded by 1 mom and one guy looking for clothes so i decide to wait it out. they walk away and i take a peak and she is alone, i tell myself to go over when a male co-worker possibly guy starts talking to her and doesn't stop for like 10 minutes. i run out of time and head back to work and leave the mall.


After work around 6 my boi heads over and plans to be my wingman for the night and we made a goal of atleast getting 1 number b4 we go. Even though he has a girl he says he would do it anyway because of how bad i used to be at cold direct approaches in hs (i could never approach a girl i was interested in and back then my only girlfriends were the ones that came on to me until college. i crashed and burned many times on cold approaches with stuttering, forgetting lines i had memorized, writing love letters haha it was pretty bad.) we head to the most crowded mall in my area and low and behold, NO FVCKING B!TCHES. this mall from october till new years was so crowded it took me 15-30 minutes to find parking and it would most likely be FAR away. the whole mall probably had around 200-300 ppl max and we sarged the whole place. we both saw one older lady maybe late 20's or somewhere in her 30's but we noticed her right when she was walking by us and some pervert at a stand was trying to get these ladies to try on his scarfs saying some sh!t like "beautiful ladies, beautiful ladies, come try on these scarf's..."in a really weird accent and the girls just walked away. we were busting out laughing so bad so we just kept walking. we left and i drove home.


Day 1

2 girls, no attempts

Failure to Launch!

 

[rushing dude 123]

Direct game ah, now i am going to b honest ur going to get shot down a LOT to begin with till u develop ur own style ur comfortable with. I was probablly the worst at direct game on this whole forum, but i kept trying and analysed how women felt towards my approaches and how i felt towards my approaches and slowly improved my direct game, ironically now its one of my strongest qualitys lol. In my experience i learned that when ur comfortable with ur approach so r the women.

So my suggestions is u should experiment throw a few "hey u look cute give me ur number" or even a few "hey i just couldn't go on my day without meeting u...and actually im pretty curious about ur...." or "my eyes were just calling to u". Find out what works for u give them a few goes don't just test them once.

Now remember direct game is pretty much just telling her why ur there, so it dosn't have to b no more than ur first line. So then u can go straight into talking to her about whatever u feel like.

I was in a seminar a few months back and one thing that i thought was important and highlighted is "intent and wooooo" now basically woooo is just the fun guy, but some times if u look at a guy with just wooooo he can come cross has the venues clown. then u can get guys with a lot of intent, now these guys can come off creepy "hey gurrrl....u...looooks...reaal....goood tonights" (usually stumbling due to the amount of acohol he has had when saying it). Now if u can combine this, u get a guy who knows what he wants, but isn't just there trying to hump your leg but playing bit hard to get, negging maybe and just having genuine fun.

hope that helped and one more thing i thinks vital if u ever get that AA. REMEMBER UR GOAL, ur goal is not to get with this girl, but rather to improve urself to get with these girls. if u give a man a fish he will eat for a day, teach a man how to fish and he will eat for a lifetime. Lets just say ur AA is up and ur to scared to approach, UR GOAL CHANGES it now becomes to just approach the girl to get rid of this AA. ur not approaching her for nothing but to get rid of ur AA, so if it goes good kool, if it goes terrible its kool u just got rid of some of ur AA because ur probs thinking WOW IM STILL ALIVE. And then u think hey my transition was kinda crap, o look a girl a chance to improve my transition. Or if still have AA then focus on that. Just work urself, break it up u got plenty of time dude no rush (hm thats bizzare coming from a guy named rushing dude, but yeh lol), if u need to work on getting rid of aa then do that, if transition, listening, asking for the number work on that. Look at the girls has oppurtunitys to improve ur game than rather the pressure of trying to get them to like u so they will bang u and u will improve at a much greater rate.

 

[DonJoseCantosie]

Very nicely put Rushing Dude...especially the "Look at the girls as opportunities to improve ur game than rather the pressure of trying to get them to like u..." and The "It takes Time" bit u implied.



Now Rushing Dude,I need to read ur journal...im shocked i haven't read it yet

AAAgent...hey man, just keep getting out there and remember...direct is best for the women u want

 

[Incog]

Awesome brother. Sarge on!