About to become a 21 year-old virgin in a few hours...

[MrJibbles]

In 3 hours I will officially be a 21 year old virgin. I have never had a girlfriend. I've never kissed a girl or touched a girl in a suggestive way. I am unemployed, with no friends left in my hometown, and dropped out of university months ago. My life has reached a new low. I will probably celebrate tonight with a bottle of Jack Daniel's and a 5-hour sesh of Call of Duty... alone in my mom's basement.

I had high hopes for this summer... I flew over to Vancouver to see my family and all my cousins and knew I would be partying a lot. At one party, I tried hitting on a girl who was pretty cute, maybe 17 or 18. Things were going pretty well for a bit cause we were both drunk. My cousin who's been with lots of girls gave me some advice to go talk to her again and act all nice and see if she needed a ride home and console her cause she was looking all down for some reason, but when I saw her later I tried to make a move and she blew me off. We went to a club the next week.... girls everywhere... I tried approaching 2 or 3 girls, but one of them completely ignored me and got straight up rejected by another 2. I don't know what to do now. Girls want to avoid me like the plague. It doesn't help that I have social anxiety and other psychological issues... I have seen 2 psychiatrists and 3 psychologists in the past for a variety of reasons, including alcoholism, weed addiction and depression. Even though I'm over those things now, my life seems to be going downhill again.

I want to get laid badly. I'm desperate now. Is time to start macking on fat chicks and UGs?

 

[Sparky]

Who cares, man. Believe me, the stuff you'll (hopefully) get up to in the next 30 or 40 years will more than make up for this. It aint a race.
Happy birthday by the way.

 

[irocknike23]

your biggest problem of all is dropping out of school

if you think your not being noticed wait till your 29 working at McDonalds..

 

[Korrupt]

In 3 hours I will officially be a 21 year old virgin. I have never had a girlfriend. I've never kissed a girl or touched a girl in a suggestive way. I am unemployed, with no friends left in my hometown, and dropped out of university months ago. My life has reached a new low. I will probably celebrate tonight with a bottle of Jack Daniel's and a 5-hour sesh of Call of Duty... alone in my mom's basement.

I had high hopes for this summer... I flew over to Vancouver to see my family and all my cousins and knew I would be partying a lot. At one party, I tried hitting on a girl who was pretty cute, maybe 17 or 18. Things were going pretty well for a bit cause we were both drunk. My cousin who's been with lots of girls gave me some advice to go talk to her again and act all nice and see if she needed a ride home and console her cause she was looking all down for some reason, but when I saw her later I tried to make a move and she blew me off. We went to a club the next week.... girls everywhere... I tried approaching 2 or 3 girls, but one of them completely ignored me and got straight up rejected by another 2. I don't know what to do now. Girls want to avoid me like the plague. It doesn't help that I have social anxiety and other psychological issues... I have seen 2 psychiatrists and 3 psychologists in the past for a variety of reasons, including alcoholism, weed addiction and depression. Even though I'm over those things now, my life seems to be going downhill again.

I want to get laid badly. I'm desperate now. Is time to start macking on fat chicks and UGs?

Get your ass back in school. Community college or uni, whatever. Getting a good job should be your #1 priority, although I know from experience it doesn't seem like it.

Another thing.. The grass isn't always greener. I was a virgin up until 20. Now I've f*cked 14 girls, blowj0bs from some others and make-outs with others, and I can honestly tell you that getting hurt by someone you like and value is much worse than being lonely. But you won't learn that till it happens, which I'm sure it will.. Trudge on, brother.

 

[satelliteparties]

OP sounds low value...so why should he expect a HB? I say demystify sex with an UG or fattie or older woman from a dating site to find out how overrated it is.

 

[Konada]

You're in need of some serious reframing here. Drop the whole 'i need pvssy to live on' mentality. Get back in school, I don't care how you do but just make sure you get back in school. You need to get your life sorted out first before you start thinking about tapping some ass

 

[European-DJ]

Happy B-Day mate!

- Don't even Think about it, why?
I know some pretty sucessfull guys, WHO bedded their first Girl at the age of 21-23. They have Lau-counts waaay over average!

Thère is still time- focus ón getting back to School instead !!

 

[ken chang]

Who cares, man. Believe me, the stuff you'll (hopefully) get up to in the next 30 or 40 years will more than make up for this. It aint a race.
Happy birthday by the way.

I think this one's the best advice here.

Happy birthday by the way, man. You still have the rest of your life ahead of you. Be patient and keep at it. Good luck.

 

[PrettyBoyAJ]

What you need to do is focus on your paper. Having sex is great but getting yourself out your mom's house is way more important. Your 21 and living in your mom's basement playing video games? That's pathetic and it shows in your attitude.

 

[search1ng]

Happy b'day.

You have messed up priorities. Women are not important.
Go to Uni/college, or learn a trade, or start a business - doesn't matter what. Just do something to improve yourself. Your development should be your number one priority. Everything else will take care of itself.

Bring value to yourself and your life = things of value will be given to you.

 

[Bible_Belt]

I have seen 2 psychiatrists and 3 psychologists in the past for a variety of reasons, including alcoholism, weed addiction and depression.

That's the danger of free health care - you end up in front of a quack who blames all of your problems on any substance you ingest.

Let me tell you a few secrets about girls: they smoke weed, drink whiskey, and are often depressed. Hell, sometimes they even play xbox. Traits like these are what make you human. People are not really all that different from each other, male or female.

It's your self-loathing image that holds you back more than anything. If you are fun, women will want to be around you. It does not matter how much money you have or anything else.

 

[CJ 101]

Whatever you do dude.........don't start mackin on Fat chicks, by mackin' on chicks that are below standard you're subconciously sending yourself a message that you don't deserve better, start readind books on inner game and on technique so you can have a firm handle on the game, after that go on to NLP and Hypnosis books, that's what helped skyrocket my game, I guarantee you that it will work for you also.

 

[FairShake]

The prescription is getting a job. You get a job, either one you really care about or one that keeps you really busy, and you don't have time for self-loathing and gain a little confidence. Then you have some money to take out a sweet but chubby girl and gain a little confidence. Then you move out and can invite an adorable but chubby girl over. Then your spot becomes a chill spot and you have friends come over where you can meet girls who aren't chubby at all and gain a little confidence (assuming you don't like chubby girls of course!).

It's a step by step process. Don't confuse the steps. Right now you need a job.

 

[squirrels]

I am unemployed, with no friends left in my hometown, and dropped out of university months ago. My life has reached a new low. I will probably celebrate tonight with a bottle of Jack Daniel's and a 5-hour sesh of Call of Duty... alone in my mom's basement.

. . . .

I don't know what to do now.

I think you DO know what to do.

For some reason, you're just not motivated enough to change your habits. I'll stop short of calling you "lazy", because I'm not holy enough to cast that particular stone, but for some reason the motivation to change the conditions responsible for your state is what's lacking.

You'll find a way to motivate yourself sooner or later...or you'll be miserable. Your call.

 

[Alex DeLarge]

I'm a 21 year old virgin too. I've hooked up with a lot of girls and gotten blow jobs, but never had sex. Who cares?

Just get back to school. Sex just feels good till you blow your load, then you're done. A diploma and a well paying job will feel good forever my friend.

 

[Vice]

Good thread. Looks like you're finally reaching the point where your pain is forcing you to take action. You came to the right place.

Take a look at my similar thread that I started about a year ago. And get your sh*t together, you have more potential than you're showing.

 

[pdx1138]

get a job and buy yourself a nice escort session for your birthday.

 

[DonJuan_DeRosco]

I tried hitting on a girl who was pretty cute, maybe 17 or 18. Things were going pretty well for a bit cause we were both drunk. My cousin who's been with lots of girls gave me some advice to go talk to her again and act all nice and see if she needed a ride home and console her cause she was looking all down for some reason, but when I saw her later I tried to make a move and she blew me off.

And don't listen to your cousin.


P.S. Happy Birthday.

 

[OC Speedball]

Hey bro, I posted a thread just like this a couple months ago. I too had just turned 21. (For some reason it's not letting me post the link, but if you PM me I'll try to send it to you).


Sounds like you are where I am (sort of). I don't have much trouble talking to girls, but I have trouble closing the deal (kissing and gettting solid dates). But here is the difference: I am still in college, I work out regularly, and I just finished bartending school because I want to get a new job.

As people have pointed out your main issue right now is not going to school. You are probably smart or a high acheiver if you got into a university. So be smart and get back in school. School is important for people our age. In our generation it will be hard to get a good job without a degree. If you don't want to go back you have to do something. In high school it was ok if a guy didn't have a job. Now, at our age, girls want a guy who has a job and some goals.

If you don't want to go back to school consider joining the military (seriously). My friend used to play HALO all day when he finished high school, and then realized he was doing nothing with his life. He joined the Army and then became part of the 82nd Airbrone, where he was jumping out of airplanes for a living. All of a sudden he was getting lots of girls because 1) He was in awesome shape, and 2) He had insane confidence and testosterone levels. He just got out this summer and is now in the hiring process for the Los Angeles Police Department SWAT team. I am even thinking of joining when I get my degree, because I like the adrenaline that goes with that type of job. (Even though I realize it is sometimes boring) And you get better pay if you have a degree.

These last two months I have been focusing more on improving myself. Mainly, lifting heavy weights everyday and swimming. You should be doing the same my man. I know it sounds like I'm one of the meatheads from the Jersey Shore, but I'm not. I am a skinny guy, but completely toned with a six pack. Forget about all your preconceived notions about the meatheads at the gym (if you have any), and just go there for yourself. Improve yourself.

Find hobbies. Hell, I LOVE Call of Duty, but you need to find other hobbies as well. You live in Canada? Go hiking, start riding motorcycles, go fishing, start swimming in that freezing water. Do something that involves adrenaline and excitement, girls love that.

Best of luck. And happy late birthday!

 

[macagent]

Prostitution should not be discounted, especially if you live in Nevada. Go bust your nut, then go focus on getting your life together. Probably better than a fat chick IMO.