i've been gone for most of the day so let me respond:
S1NN3R, let's say I hook up with a chick from the club, and it's some good ass pvssy. I want to keep hitting it, so I do, and I am laying it to her, so she wants more.
So next saturday rolls around, and I get a call from club **** buddy. Do I A) go to the club and spend say, 25 bucks (10 door, 3 drinks, about average for me) to honeslty, look at women and chat some up, dance a little and go home tired, or b) go and get some free ass that I haven't even broke in yet?
It's just like when a girl meets a guy she stops going out as much, at least in the beginning of the realtonship.. unless I have preplanned a week ahead the night out, **** it, I can sit at home, rent a movie, eat ice cream and have free, good down home sex all night long.
However, I do see your point.. and if you are just doing a "how many different girls I can **** in x amount of time" then your arguement is 100% true, and even so, it has it's good points and you yourself make a great example.
PRMoon, I venture to argue with you. I honestly think you are better off, at least where I am from, because little rock isn't the biggest city on earth, when you aren't a regular and you are something NEW.. Once i start to know exactly who goes to which club on which day, I am going too much. You are something new, something no one has seen.. now if you can pull that off with the necessary confidence it takes to pull a woman, like 'hey babe, I don't come here often, but this aint' my first rodeo" then that's the best combiniation.. I mean, what does it say about a guy who is in a club every Friday like clockwork? Even if you don't have something to do, mix it up, read a book, go to a club in a different city, do something.
Clubs = meatmarket is very very true. However, don't mistake the way guys judge looks and the way a woman judge looks are Too different things. Yes, if you are Brad Pitt, it goes a long way, but a woman is more concerned with a guys LOOK not the way a guy looks.. two totally different things... As long as you weren't slapped in the face with an ugly stick at birth, and are in reasonable shape, the rest can be fixed. Most guys don't have the slightest clue how to dress. Clothes are like a religion to me. I do the entire nine. I love suits, slacks, but I can do the blue jean casual look as well with a sportscoat. Pay attention to detail, most guys don't understand the importance of a good watch. I have about 8, and not one of them are cheap (under 300), I buy them used, but I have became sorta a watch ***** the last year or so, so you don't need that many, but I guarantee I have one for every occusion. I would love to have a Patek Philippe watch, but I am looking at 10k to even consider buying one, a used one at that, and I don't know if it's that serious.. but it would hold it's value for the rest of my life, so it's really an investment.. and not one girl would know what a Patek Philippe watch is anyway, so I dont' know.
anyway I digress. Cufflinks, belts, socks.. **** like this women pick up on (trust me). Colonge. KNow your ****, know what goes well on you. Dressing isn't ironing a shirt, throwing on some blue jeans and some boots and a baseball cap.. I mean, if that's your thing, than do it, and you might be successful, but dont' go anywhere with me.. I will get a hell of a lot more opprotunties with more women, plus I get alot of respect that Iwouldn't get if I just had on your standard cookie cutter "going out" outfit.
Dancing.. I can dance. I always have been able to. Slids, poping, locking.. well I am not perfect but I definatly won't make an ass of myself, but I am not really the dancing type. I want to learn to Salsa, something more sensual than just grinding on a *****es ass like I am ****ing. I like to REALLY dance and most women can't REALLY dance. I mean, I will get on the dance floor just to get my time in, but I don't take it seroiusly, like I am not all on her trying to dance floor **** like some guys,a nd I don't do the entire PDA thing, at least I don't try do.
Talking to a woman it like a sales job. The first thing you do when you sell something isn't present the product, it's lower the defenses of the consumer. For isntance, if you are buying a car, you have your guard up for the h arassing car salesman before you even get on the lot. You know his "game", just like women know your "game". Talk to them, get to know them, make them laugh, show a true interest in them, show them you give a **** about them other than their brest size or how long their legs are (Even if you don't).
A salesman knows a customer is ready when he asks a buying question like "what are the payments on this car" or "what is the warranty on this PC?".. or like "so do you have a Girlfriend" or "why are you single?" or "you look nice, blah blah blah".. that's a buying question, she has already considered dating/****ing/whatever with you. You just have to close the deal. I have never,a nd I honestly mean ever had a girl ask me anything lke this and I not close on them.
Just say, verbatium if you want "XXX you seem like a very intersting person, I would love to get together with you some time to hang out and get to know each other, and we can see what if anything goes from there..what is the best number to contact you at?"
Bam.. signed sealed and delivered. And once you get the number, you have already put the thought of her getting to know you on a different level in her head, if it wasn't already. If she objects, which she won't, but if she did, figure out what her objections are, and disable them.
"I have a Boyfriend"
"Great babe, I can understand that, i mean, you are a very interesting person as I previously said, and I would be foolish to think that I would be the only guy that thought that. However, I didn't say anything about dating, I said I wanted to get to know you on a different level. Now I like to get to know people before i have any type of relationships with them, blah blah blah, now what was the best number to contact you at again so we can meet up later this week?"
My Ex told me I sound like a salesman, and I am, I sold computers for 4 years, even though I didn't actually sell them, I know how to sell ****. Everytime you are talking to a woman, you are selling yourself.
How did I get on this subject.. oh. Going to the club is the equivlant of going to a car lot on a Sunday when no one is there and window shopping, and deciding on what you like that way... yeah, you will sell **** just off the apperance, but the best, most profitable sales are made by good salesman that can present their product in the best manner possible.. I can't do that in a club. All she can do is look at me. Now, at times, I can get her out of the club, it's all good. That's usually what I do if I am serious about someone, go on a balcony or just plain leave. Because i know how I work, I need to be able to talk to her, even though I am good looking I know if I can talk to her, she doesn't stand a chance in hell, espically if she already lets me know she finds me attractive.