About meeting girls and humiliation

[SweetBastard]

Many suggest to join some class (dance, aerobics) to find women. Although this would improve some aspect of your social life, i think it's not the best idea for dating: if you get refused and ask again and again in the same group of people, it would feed gossip and make you appear desperate: "hei, this guy is asking for everone's number here", "now i understand the reason he joined this class mainly composed of women, he's probably desperate". Even if you are as much discrete as possible, i think you cannot avoid this consequence unless you get success from first times, or if you are passive. So you'll have to leave and in case lose friends, or keep them and continue wasting time in a dead place where you are considered of low value. Moreover, your choice is restricted in number. What do you think about?

The most experienced of you are probably laughing at this consideration for being too catastrophic, but i'm at the beginning of my quest. Anyway i don't like asking for a date to women in pleaces i'm usual and fine with, to prevent myself from ruining all. In my opinion, ideal places could be open battlefields like streets, clubs or internet. About clubs, here in Italy i've found we don't have the habit to consider them as meeting spots. You go there with friends and you are introduced to others by them. Very rarely somone approaches groups or girls alone. I don't like discos. About streets, some year ago, when my knowledge about being a DJ was almost zero, i've tried approaching two strangers without any hope of success, but just to prove myself that i had enough nerve to do it. I was refused and never tried it again (bad moves, anyway they was both from other cities and one said she had a jealous boyfried). Ok, it's a small number to give up though i feel the whole shebang is humiliating and my pride prevents me to continue. Fortunally, studying and applying to improve my game day to day, i've found that now many problems of the past have gone: with my new attitude now i use talk to women just for the sake of it, without any particular interest, and i receive many IOI as response. Anyway i'm still inhibited even from asking for their numbers, probably because i do it in familiar places, and they are related to my friends. Even when it's evident that a girl want to give it and is waiting for me to ask, i think it's a trap she is using to increase her self-esteem or just for the sake of humiliating me with a refusal. I think the most of you know this sensation. How do you handle it?

Returning on streets, I live now in a very big city full of tourists, so if you go to a shopping mall there is a 70% probability that you may approach one of them. I'd like to find someone who lives here since i'm interested in a LTR and not in a sex adventure. Ok, alternatives are book stores and commercial centers but i've spent houres observing people there and didn't noticed anyone approaching one single girl at all! It is normal? I hope they will not call the bouncer
About the attitude, i'd like to pose myself keeping the metaframe in which i'm the price. So i think it's not ok if i meet a girl and say things like "oh, you are so beautiful". Any suggestion?

Regards.

 

[j0n024]

Why should you care about what other people think of your? The first step of becoming a DJ in my mid is to not give a sh1t about anyone or anything that may come back and hurt you, if people are making fun of you why should you care? They probably have low self-esteem so they pick on other people that they think are lower then them, next time if someone does make fun of you you should just laugh and know that your going to be better then them in the future...do it next time just laugh out loud and just remember your becoming a DJ , I hope you start a Field Report so we ca watch the transformation of you from an AFC to a DJ.

Good luck and you should read some of the Field Reports already on here DJcanstonce(Sorry cant spell lol) and Back in the grind are really good ones that you should read and lets not forget about Jayer , just pick one or all 3 and read up on them what they do what they say and sooner or later you'll find out that DJ'ng isnt just about picking up women it's about improving your OVERALL health, good luck and hope to see you down the road.

 

[Mr. Wolf]

Women will talk about you asking them out?


That is a pure none sence! Women don't do that. Men, on the other hand, will talk about you asking different women out.. But that is to your advantage..


Beta male douche bags do talk to women about other men asking a whole bunch of women out. That's called playa hating. The only reason for you thinking that people will talk about you, is because you're a beta male..

 

[SweetBastard]

Women will talk about you asking them out?
The only reason for you thinking that people will talk about you, is because you're a beta male..

and you are alpha, right? Please, do it sweetly while submitting me. I'm sensitive. lol