ahh..too many posts for me to read..
i'm guessing this is cause he asked more questions
but to answer the original question..i remember this question in the dj bible
Here's what i am prettys ure it is
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You go out a couple times. Patience shows self-control. So don't kiss her on the first date. The second might be ok..But i usually do it on the third, if the moment is right. If not, then i'll wait till it is. But i usually wait till at least the third outing. Of course, you should be escalating on the first two outings to lead up to the kiss. If she moves away or says anything that hints at the possibility that she doesn't want to kiss you, you guys are just friends.
After you finally get the first kiss (on the lips of course), you continue to kino her on that level and escalate slowly cause the kino roof is near. Eventually, after the first kiss or amybe a couple more, she'll ask what you guys are. Here's the most likely response
*As you're kissing her
Her: "stop/wait...what are we? Are we friends? Friends that kiss? or are we bf and gf?"
That's the most common response in my experience. At this point, you TELL her what you guys are. And this choice is up to you. Don't suggest or creep around the bush.
Don't be a boy and say, "Well, i GUESS we're bf and gf."...YOU'RE NOT CHOOSING DONUTS. you can guess if you want a jelly donut or a chocolate one. But if you guess, she'll wait till you're confident in your answer and all the while, she'll lose interest in you because you're not the confident and decisive man she thought you were.
ORRRR
If you're escalating, and she says "I love you." at any point...she wants to be official..
Now, the dj bible..also suggests that in the first 2 months..you should not reveal too much personal information..or give too much of yourself...you should see if she's worthy of your time...so basically a relationship shouldn't begin after only 2 months.
BUT WE MUST CONSIDER, that is coming from the DJ bible which is directed at older men...the hs bible states nothing regarding the above, at least to my knowledge..
BASICALLY, there is way too many ****ing rules in both bibles..so you should simply use those rules as guidelines as you develop your own..or you can follow those rules directly.
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Personally, with it being high school. Here's what i usually do
1st outing..i suggest two things we should do..DON'T ASK..both options are action-oriented and not "discussion outings"...
2nd outing..another action-oriented outing..followed by a nice sit-down whether it be at a park or at a fastfood restaurant..
3rd outing..discussion oriented..and more "romantic" or perhaps a better word, "intimate"
Now, i don't always follow that process cause it gets boring and you shouldn't restrict yourself.
Also, the whole process from meeting her to becoming "official"..for me, occurs within a time span of 1-2 months..
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But you should also consider the downside of being in a "serious" (this is fukin hs) relationship
1. You can't mess around with other girls..
I'd rather have a bunch of fwb's or hookups because you gain more experience dealing with different girls rather than just one. you also experience pleasure in different ways..and when one girl is playing games/or getting into stupid fights with you..you can go hve fun with another girl
do what fits your wants..NOT NEEDS..you don't need a girl/girls..