About a girl being really late meeting you on a date

[MDgood]

Ok, i just wanted to share an experience I had on the subject about girls showing up late on dates. It does not always mean she's disinterested. Of course, this is just one girl i'm talking about here.

She was shy at first, no kino, no eye contact, 25 years old. We had gone out once before, and this next time she was coming to my house.

SHE SHOWED UP 3 HOURS LATE!

I was miffed, but I kept myself calm about because I knew that I'm my own man, and I would have no problem kicking her to the curb. She said she was trying to get ready for those 3 hours.

Next date, we're to meet at my house again.

SHE SHOWS UP 3 HOURS LATE AGAIN.

This time, I'm very miffed, but I'm polite to her about it. I am still a gentleman in charge of my own life. I figure this is the last time, we'll go out on this one date, and then I'll next her for being rude.

We come back to my house again after we go on the night out, and she pretty much throws me on my living room floor, tells me she wants to phuck me right then and there, and next thing you know I'm all up in that shyt.

We have 7 month LTR during which time I screwed her harder and longer, and in every which way possible, than the government is about to screw Martha Stewart.

Her reason for being so late those two times? She told me later she didn't want to appear too desperate to me.

It doesn't always mean they don't like you. The chicks just don't realize it's a bad ploy, and it gets guys disinterested in them.

 

[Dee-Zy]

3 hours? Twice? Everything turn'd out nice for you - but I have to say, N u have to admit too, u were a sucker for put'N up with that. I give you props on the self-control.

though you are right, but keep one thing in mind - that was an exception to the rule ... why would you wanna pursue exceptions when they are so rare? Go with the general rule - u have less chances of get'N hurt.

be'N 30 min late is not desperate ... 3 hours? That's just ...


I'm speechless.

 

[Reto]

3 hours?

I would have left...

 

[squirrels]

Originally posted by MDgood
Ok, i just wanted to share an experience I had on the subject about girls showing up late on dates. It does not always mean she's disinterested. Of course, this is just one girl i'm talking about here.

She was shy at first, no kino, no eye contact, 25 years old. We had gone out once before, and this next time she was coming to my house.

SHE SHOWED UP 3 HOURS LATE!

I was miffed, but I kept myself calm about because I knew that I'm my own man, and I would have no problem kicking her to the curb. She said she was trying to get ready for those 3 hours.

Next date, we're to meet at my house again.

SHE SHOWS UP 3 HOURS LATE AGAIN.

This time, I'm very miffed, but I'm polite to her about it. I am still a gentleman in charge of my own life. I figure this is the last time, we'll go out on this one date, and then I'll next her for being rude.

We come back to my house again after we go on the night out, and she pretty much throws me on my living room floor, tells me she wants to phuck me right then and there, and next thing you know I'm all up in that shyt.

We have 7 month LTR during which time I screwed her harder and longer, and in every which way possible, than the government is about to screw Martha Stewart.

Her reason for being so late those two times? She told me later she didn't want to appear too desperate to me.

It doesn't always mean they don't like you. The chicks just don't realize it's a bad ploy, and it gets guys disinterested in them.

LOL...get her all hot and bothered, and just when she's ready for it...go watch TV for three hours.

I could understand being a half-hour late, or even an hour. But three hours? TWICE? She has a weird way of qualifying men...she was probably horny as hell because the last x men she did that to wouldn't tolerate that kind of BS. To me, 3 hours without notice would be considered a no-show.

But glad it worked out.

 

[Jay26]

Didn't want to appear desperate? 3hrs? Sounds like BS to me.

 

[echo1212]

Either she is totally making that desperate thing up or your one big AFC. THree hours? Twice? Oye vey!!

 

[MDgood]

Hey guys, I got a question for you, and let's see if you can understand this. It may be complex, but let's see if you can follow along with it.

If you're at a restaurant and she's late, where do you go? If there's no buds to hang out with and you're not in the mood to hang out at a bar, you go home.

Ok, you following this? Now, work with me here, ok? If she's supposed to be meeting you at YOUR OWN HOUSE and she's late, where do you go if there's no buds to hang out with and you don't feel like hanging out at a club?

Ummm.... do you go home? Errr... you're already home!

I would have left, but for christ's sake, it was my own house! DUH!!! I popped a few brews, played the guitar, watched TV, and pretty much enjoyed myself.

Come on, guys, THINK a bit before you post!

One last thing, I did tell her later in no uncertain terms that I can understand when she can't make it on time, but I didn't appreciate this bullshyt from her.

The next time she was 20 minutes late meeting me someplace, I got up and left and went home.

 

[echo1212]

Ill give you the benefit of the doubt and say that she was just a massive flake and Ill tone down the afc bashing, but shouldnt she have at least called? To me those are HUGE red flags for problems later on down the line. TEll me your not still with this girl?

 

[marqZAL]

SHE SHOWED UP 3 HOURS LATE!

Why would you wait 3 hours to meet anyone???Never wait more than 20 minutes for anyone even if its the POPE!!!

This time, I'm very miffed, but I'm polite to her about it. I am still a gentleman in charge of my own life.

Gentleman, dont get PUNKED like you, because they respect themselves...you need to get some self respect before you go out on a date with anyone!!! I dont mean to sound like a dvck, but you do need to find some self respect!

 

[MDgood]

Um, did you completely miss the point that I was at my OWN ****ING HOUSE, idiot? As in, the house I own and pay a mortgage on? Look, kid, it would be one thing if I was like you and lived with my parents, popping zits in the mirror and jerking off to yearbook pictures, with a job at McDonald's so I could pay for the rims on my Honda, ok? This is my own goddamned house, and guess what, sometimes I actually live in it!

For all you guys with an IQ in 3 digits, it's all good here. You gotta remember that at the time I wasn't 17, I was almost 30. That's a little too old to be slamming the door in a woman's face if you weren't raised in a trailer park. When you're a grown man you have to show restraint and patience at all costs. This doesn't mean being AFC, boys, it means showing you can maintain your cool. It's not for the chick who was playing games with you, it's for when you meet the next woman (not "girl"), and she's old enough to be seeing through some of these DJ tricks, and she's checking out what sort of man you are in a relationship, you won't have to lie to her she starts asking the questions about whether or not you lose your temper around women. She'll know when you're lying. If you're macking on a grown woman and she gets the slightest hint you're going to fly off the handle with her, you've lost her.

Anyway, hell no, I'm not still with her. Like I said, the second time she pulled this shyt with me I wasn't going to go out with her again. But I did because once she pushed me down on the floor to phuck me, I was like, hell yeah, this is going to be one interesting chick, I think I'll see what I can get.

 

[Eternal]

Originally posted by MDgood
Anyway, hell no, I'm not still with her. Like I said, the second time she pulled this shyt with me I wasn't going to go out with her again. But I did because once she pushed me down on the floor to phuck me, I was like, hell yeah, this is going to be one interesting chick, I think I'll see what I can get.

Wouldn't it have been a third time she pulled that on you? Yeah, you are going to look at my age and go "teenager" but I agree that 3 hours is too long. Hell, if it's at your house, then just do what you did. But at the restraunt...should have left. Looks dumb sitting on that bench for 3 hours. What if she decided to be 7 hours late? Would you have still been there?

 

[MDgood]

The third time she was late (and this was a few months into the relationship), she was 20 minutes late meeting me and I got up up and left, and went back home. She arrived at my house crying her eyes out. I reminded her that I tolerated the crap she pulled when she was 3 hours late, twice, and frankly, she should be aware that I was under no obligation to tolerate it again... she has a cellphone, she's old enough to know she should call if she's gonna be late. Like every other time, we just ended up having sex.

She was weird, she was freaky, she wanted to be controlled, she was not my type in the least, but she had a hot body and all she wanted to do was phuck me. I really did not have much respect for her in retrospect. I knew what the game was with her from the start, but she was a steady piece of ass, she lived 35 miles from me, and I didn't have to see her all the time. When I dumped her I told her she was always welcome to give her boyfriend all the **** she usually did, because that boyfriend wasn't going to be me.

All women in an LTR are going to give you bullshyt, guys, all of them. They're going to test you left and right. For me, the more I respect the woman, the more bullshyt I'll put up with. My last LTR was a high quality woman in each and every respect... I've never met a girl like her, and I almost proposed to her. She treated me with respect (until the commitment thing scared her), and I treated her with respect... when she gave me woman bullshyt, I took it. But this weird chick I dated, not a chance... it was about getting the play from her.

 

[marqZAL]

When you're a grown man you have to show restraint and patience at all costs.

So, grown men never express anger? Its great you got laid if you dont really want anything from other than *****. Things happen, however, if someone tells me they are going to to do something and decide to be very late with out calling, I am MAN enough to call them out on it!!! So, you seem very defensive on your postion as if you were too afraid to call somone out on thier bull****!!! Maybe its me, The way I see things in a relationship is that I am in charge...and they should never for get it!!

 

[Jay_VCU]

You did what you had to do. He put her in her place. And got to f*** her.

 

[MDgood]

So, grown men never express anger?

Hell yeah grown men express anger. You honestly think I sat back and smiled and told her it was alright? Wow! The difference is, grown men do not express anger towards women in the form of shouting at them and bullying them down. Maybe that's the way you do it in your trailer park, but it sure as hell ain't the way I was raised. You should have the presence of mind to assume that I did indeed discuss this with her both times, but there was no need to be screaming at her for it... it's not as if she shot my dog, dude, she was trying to play mind games with me. There's a difference there.

I am MAN enough to call them out on it!!! So, you seem very defensive on your postion as if you were too afraid to call somone out on thier bull****!!!

Good for you. You're on your way. Now, had you read what I wrote earlier:

I reminded her that I tolerated the crap she pulled when she was 3 hours late, twice, and frankly, she should be aware that I was under no obligation to tolerate it again... she has a cellphone, she's old enough to know she should call if she's gonna be late.

... you wouldn't have needed to spend all that brainpower typing your little rant, ok?

 

[KiInCollege]

Don't get upset MDGood. I would've acted the exact same way as you did.

In fact, I have...waiting for my girl to get home from class at the first floor of her residence (like usual), and she unusually decides to go eat out with a friend of hers and be 30 minutes late. I left for home 10 minutes before she finally got home. She cried over my cell phone to come back, but I kept driving, was strong and still glad I didn't wait the extra 10 minutes.

It's all about respect. If she knows I'm waiting for her and she chooses to show up late, no me or sex for her that night, no matter how much she cries. In the end, she respects you more and knows not do that bull**** in the future.

But I will learn from your first post and consider that, on the first date, if she wants to play games and be late, it's not becuase she's disrespectful.