a woman's sexual partner count, what is a low number to you?

[asa_don]

there's 3 guys on the board who like to argue with me about a woman's sexual partner number count.

they talk about "low numbers" but won't give me an exact number they feel is low.

in your opinion what number would you consider to be a low number? what would be too high for you? do you even give a sh!t? nobody is right or wrong here, its what you guys think.

 

[( . )( . )]

I'm with a woman now who's had two including me. True story. And no she's not holding back her numbers. I can Sigmund freud that sh!t out of a woman fast, besides that non-sluts project a certain aura to the trained eye.

50 years ago she would have been a hor.

in your opinion what number would you consider to be a low number?

To answer your question, for memory 5 different sex partners sees her inability to long term pair bond increase by 70%. Technically the answer is anything under 5. Not happy with that answer? Take it up with mother nature.

The median number of sex partners for American women is 3(!). The average is 8.6. This means that there is a group of super slutty women, let’s call them “girls who live in the big blue coastal cities and work in marketing or PR”, who are shifting the average higher for all women. By these numbers, it is fair to conclude that a woman who has had more than the median number of partners is a candidate for slut designation, and the higher her number the sluttier she is.

0 lifetime partners: Sweet virginal manna. A bit weird, but you’re confident you’ll break her in.
3 lifetime partners: Typical woman. Wife and mother of your children material.
10 lifetime partners: Above average. Proceed with caution.
15 lifetime partners: Well above average. Be dominant or she’ll cheat.
25 lifetime partners: A whole lot. Use her and lose her.
100 lifetime partners: Stopwatch material. You wonder how fast you can get her from “Hi” to “Spread your ass cheeks, I’m going in”.

I suspect that overall female sluttiness (actual penis in vagina sluttiness, not sluttiness as defined by proxy fashion trends) has increased slightly over the past 40 years, with the blue state city chicks ****ing around more than ever and the red state religious girls ****ing around less. It goes without saying that only the top 20% of men are enjoying the emergent slut bounty.-Roissy

 

[VikingKing]

0 or less. any more and shes a sloot.

 

[usernamedox11]

0-2 low

3-5 - average

6 and up - slooooooooooooooooooooooooot

 

[Jaylan]

Its not just based on number. For me its about how many partners a woman has average per year since losing her virginity. Also, one should take into account how many of these partners were from relationships and riskier casual hookups.

Gotta make an overall evaluation. One woman can be a serial monogamist with 10 partners by 30 years of age, with all the partners being boyfriends since she was 15. Or you can have a similar woman whos 30 with 10 partners, with more than half of those partners being flings. Men gotta be smart and analyze a body of work, rather than mere numbers. However there is a point where a number really is just too high.

That said, I wouldnt take the number a woman tells you at face value. And its really only suckers and arrogant men who think theyll ever truly know a girls number beyond a shadow of a doubt.

You gotta select a mate based on a lot more than merely the number she wants you to hear, whether it is true or not. Personally I just look for a woman who has similar relationship and sexual experiences...a woman whos not too conservative, but who didnt go all out wild in her single life. Thats just me though.

 

[DonGorgon]

stop worrying about this.. she will still cheat on you and leave you eventually no matter what... just u,make sure while she his with you that you get as much sex and money and gifts from her as you can..

 

[JohnnyStorm]

stop worrying about this.. she will still cheat on you and leave you eventually no matter what... just u,make sure while she his with you that you get as much sex and money and gifts from her as you can..

Shouldn't you be on PUAHate or something pedalling this kind of anti woman bs..?


Regarding the topic...I think I'd be possibly more disturbed if a woman had had loads of "boyfriends" than ONS's. This would make me question their idea of what they consider a "relationship".

 

[Atom Smasher]

This used to be a gigantic issue for me and has caused me untold grief in my life. I mean it would make me sick to my stomach.

Oddly in the past couple of years this has dissipated to a large degree (I never thought in a million years I'd ever be able to say that) and now I'm completely ignoring the issue altogether. I'm framing it that this was her in the past, that it's a new day now and she's with me.

It's hard to believe I'm even typing this because this issue would tear me up inside in the past. Now I have a strict "don't ask, don't tell" policy.

The worst thing a man can do is to ask how many she's slept with. It's bad because it opens up a Pandora's box inside your own mind and you will ruminate on it.

It's kind of like snooping in her email or other similar poking around. Invariably that stuff bites you in the ass. Invariably.

Same with asking about the past. You ask in the hope that you will find out that you have one of the .001% non-hores in existence today, but the odds of that are infinitesimally small in 2014. Almost all of them are hores, almost all of them have close to zero concept of loyalty, and almost all of them are delusional and easily emotionally swayed (by you but also by other men).

The media has destroyed them and made them sex-obsessed, and the best we can do is to create a new relationship, an new frame and to start training her early in the relationship.

She's been around. Don't ask questions that will cause you to fixate and ruminate on her past. Her past with other men is indeed disgusting to us men on a core level, because the women receives and absorbs the man, and carries him with her forever. That's why men are so repulsed by a woman's past and why women generally value a man's past. As with most things, it's the complete opposite.

Having typed all that I sure hope I continue to hold this view and that my old ways of thinking don't come crashing back out of the blue because like I said this was always an immense struggle for me.

The key is to assume the worst, because the worst is almost certainly true. She's got some mileage on her. Reset the odometer and look forward.

 

[finickywake]

7-10 is average/normal imo. 20+ is pushing it. 5 or less is unicorn.

15+ = emotionally incapable of a reciprocal relationship worth more than sex. Couple that with the number of times she was dumped, and exponentially watch her ability to be in a relationship decrease.

 

[wishyo]

above 2 is too much for me, swinging for innocent ones
no challenge scoring with sloots.

 

[finickywake]

The key is to assume the worst, because the worst is almost certainly true. She's got some mileage on her. Reset the odometer and look forward.

This, in a way. But, if it comes up, i.e., she brings it up. It's definitely a good indicator of what you're dealing with. I always say add 5 to whatever they tell you, plus 15 more for the times she forgot.

One way to help those struggling with knowing their partner has a high number of past sexual exploits is to view it like this: I don't think about, nor remember all the girls I've slept with, but if I sit down and really try to, I could. And that's not even taking into account girls where it was hooking up but not intercourse. Chances are she's not ruminating on them either or even able to recall with ease her own number.

Also, don't expect a hot 25 year old to have less than 10 partners. If she hasn't been in any real LTR's, just assume she's been with between 20-50 guys.

 

[_sideways_]

As long as the pvssy is tight and smells and tastes good...i don't care about the number

 

[countwoofoolah]

As long as the pvssy is tight and smells and tastes good...i don't care about the number

Wait ...is this a thing???

 

[_sideways_]

Wait ...is this a thing???

hell yea it is.

last gf tasted like peaches...and was tight...till I came lol

 

[logicallefty]

Gf now is 41 and been with 7 me included. I'm good with that.

 

[Fireballs]

For guys that know their partners count, did you ask them or did they tell you?

My gf has never asked me how many girls I have banged and I have never asked her how many guys she has slept with. My curious mind is starting to get the better of me though and I'm finding it hard holding back this question to her.

My gut is screaming at me 'DO NOT BRING THIS UP' so I hope I can fight the urge. I guess the old saying ''If you go looking for sh!t, you're gonna find it'' applies.

 

[MOTU]

I'm framing it that this was her in the past, that it's a new day now and she's with me.

It's hard to believe I'm even typing this because this issue would tear me up inside in the past. Now I have a strict "don't ask, don't tell" policy.

The worst thing a man can do is to ask how many she's slept with. It's bad because it opens up a Pandora's box inside your own mind and you will ruminate on it.

^^^This is my thought as well, at least for us older guys. I don't want to know, and if she asks me, I am not going to tell. Honestly, I don't know my count if you include swingers parties and escorts lol. I just don't know why it is relevant.

 

[logicallefty]

For guys that know their partners count, did you ask them or did they tell you?

My current GF and I dated in high school. Then 21 years later hooked back up.

She was somewhat familiar with my reputation as a man h0r through our mutual friends, and she flat out asked me my number. I answered honestly, and then she disclosed her number to me without me asking.

Then she asked me to get an STD test and said she would do the same, and we both agreed and did so the same day. The night before the test we both said fvck it and had sex anyway with a condom. THen got tested and were both clean. :rockon:

After the bigamist sk@nk wh0re I had just been with and what I had found out about her, I was actually planning on getting tested anyway for my own good and figured if one of the two of us had anything, me or the GF, it would have been me. I was a lucky I didn't.

 

[Mr Wright]

Haha my current plate thinks my count is about 10 but it's above that. She said to me that I should end up with a girl that has a similar count for it to be "fair". Naturally I thought this was hilarious. But in terms of a count that is too high, it's whatever I feel uncomfortable with. So far it seems to be about 5 but that will probably change as I get older.

 

[Jaylan]

This used to be a gigantic issue for me and has caused me untold grief in my life. I mean it would make me sick to my stomach.

Oddly in the past couple of years this has dissipated to a large degree (I never thought in a million years I'd ever be able to say that) and now I'm completely ignoring the issue altogether. I'm framing it that this was her in the past, that it's a new day now and she's with me.

It's hard to believe I'm even typing this because this issue would tear me up inside in the past. Now I have a strict "don't ask, don't tell" policy.

The worst thing a man can do is to ask how many she's slept with. It's bad because it opens up a Pandora's box inside your own mind and you will ruminate on it.

It's kind of like snooping in her email or other similar poking around. Invariably that stuff bites you in the ass. Invariably.

Same with asking about the past. You ask in the hope that you will find out that you have one of the .001% non-hores in existence today, but the odds of that are infinitesimally small in 2014. Almost all of them are hores, almost all of them have close to zero concept of loyalty, and almost all of them are delusional and easily emotionally swayed (by you but also by other men).

The media has destroyed them and made them sex-obsessed, and the best we can do is to create a new relationship, an new frame and to start training her early in the relationship.

She's been around. Don't ask questions that will cause you to fixate and ruminate on her past. Her past with other men is indeed disgusting to us men on a core level, because the women receives and absorbs the man, and carries him with her forever. That's why men are so repulsed by a woman's past and why women generally value a man's past. As with most things, it's the complete opposite.

Having typed all that I sure hope I continue to hold this view and that my old ways of thinking don't come crashing back out of the blue because like I said this was always an immense struggle for me.

The key is to assume the worst, because the worst is almost certainly true. She's got some mileage on her. Reset the odometer and look forward.

I guess this kind of acceptance comes with maturity and experience. Good post.

For me though, I can only see myself accepting a woman's past if its somewhere on par with my own. Im not conservative, nor have I ever gotten too wild....Id say I have an average relationship and sexual history. Therefore I feel Im more comfortable with a woman whos similar in that regard.

Girls who are more conservative tend to come off boring and in my experience we werent on the same page sexually. Girls with too colorful of pasts just outright turn me off. Plus I dont wanna be some girls dating retirement home (shes done screwing around and now wants a safe relationship). I need a happy medium.

Thats just me though. We shall see where my life experiences take me. With the way I started the year I was gearing up for some promiscuity myself....but after a few flings I realized Im just kinda over all that. Im still up for casual dating...but not in as quick of succession as I have done in the past.

Maybe Im just getting older.