A woman who I've known, wants in my pants...

[TheLadiesMan]

...but she said my problem is that I'm a "Nice guy." ... A NICE GUY?!?! ..wtf?!

I'm 36 years old... I'm finding it harder and harder to be anything other than chilled. I'll tease, flirt, and knock a stuck up woman down a few notches without missing a beat... a nice guy she says.... f*ck.

I've got to take a look at myself again, and re-evaluate.

Tips, and suggestions please....

 

[white sox bill]

Try and recall, did you once bend over backwards for her? Kiss her butt when you were drunk? Something to be put in that "nice" category?

Sometimes people's perception of nice varies widley. "Nice" is a term which I personally find OK. "Too nice" spells doom. Actually, "good guy" is better.

Try a reverse hit on this gal. Anything to rid yourself of that label.

 

[Kings_royalty]

I'll tease, flirt, and knock a stuck up woman down a few notches without missing a beat...

She isn't into you and she's using the 'nice guy' line as a way out, a way to let you down easy. If the girl really wanted into your pants, she would of gotten there by now. The 'nice guy' line is bullsh*t, don't ever buy into it.

 

[Vince]

What has she said or done that gives you the impression she wants in your pants?

If she did say it, that means she is waiting for you to just "do it!"... take the chance. She knows you hold back and therefore calls you a nice guy. Hang out with her one day, go for a drink, then make your move.

 

[Phyzzle]

Here are some warning signs you may have missed (assuming she's telling the truth):

http://www.askmen.com/dating/doclove_100/141_relationship_expert.html

Yeah, askmen sucks, but Doc Love is sharp.

 

[white sox bill]

Here are some warning signs you may have missed (assuming she's telling the truth):

http://www.askmen.com/dating/doclove_100/141_relationship_expert.html

Yeah, askmen sucks, but Doc Love is sharp.

Just out of curiosity Phyzzle, why don't you like askmen? I used to play there but not much anymore. Too many advice giving 21 yr olds.

 

[TheLadiesMan]

What has she said or done that gives you the impression she wants in your pants?

If she did say it, that means she is waiting for you to just "do it!"... take the chance. She knows you hold back and therefore calls you a nice guy. Hang out with her one day, go for a drink, then make your move.

..and Bingo was his name... o.

That's it right thar. She is interested, or she wouldn't be calling me over every night.

 

[Latinoman]

...but she said my problem is that I'm a "Nice guy." ... A NICE GUY?!?! ..wtf?!

I'm 36 years old... I'm finding it harder and harder to be anything other than chilled. I'll tease, flirt, and knock a stuck up woman down a few notches without missing a beat... a nice guy she says.... f*ck.

I've got to take a look at myself again, and re-evaluate.

Tips, and suggestions please....

Did she actually called you a "nice guy" or a "good man"?

There is a HUGE difference between both. My girlfriend refers to me as a "bad boy"...but also tells me that I'm a "good man" that "cares for his children".
A "good man" is a MAN. A "nice guy" is an AFC (for the most part).

A woman once told me (in a nighclub during one of those "interview" women in the 30s+ do to men)..."you are a nice guy". I replied..."Nope. I'm actually a bad boy." (then winked and smiled at her).

She then asked me...serious too..."Do you hurt people?"

LOL.

I laughed and said..."Nope. But, I would break your heart." Then winked.

Of course, I had zero interest on this woman.

 

[Latinoman]

Woman: “You are a nice guy”.

LM: {without a smile…without joking around…} “I will concede that I am a Good Man" {make sure you put emphasis on the words “Good” and “Man”}. "After all, I am a law abiding citizen. I provide for my children. I am loyal to my friends. And will certainly treat my woman very well. However, I want to make something very clear: I will end a friendship with anyone that betrays me. I have no problem doing whatever is necessary to protect my welfare and the welfare of those that I love. And because women are not the axis of my World, I can assure you that I won’t hesitate dumping a woman that has disrespected me. ‘Nice guy’?" {small laugh} "I’m the anti-thesis of a ‘nice guy’.”

Then after a short pause…{flash your best smile} and say...

“I’m hungry. Let’s go and get a bite”. (or “I want some coffee…let’s go to Starbucks” or if in a bar, “I need a drink”). Whichever…a statement (preceded with your best smile) to change the topic and make her think and reach her own conclusions. Sometimes…”masculinity” is something that can shock a woman in her tracks. ;-)

NOTE: You better make sure that you are actually live by what you just said. If you are not there yet...then work on being there. You see? If you use the words I typed (I can use them, because I live by them)...and then it turns out you don't believe them (or live them)...then she will catch the bluff...eventually.

 

[TheLadiesMan]

She called me "Nice guy..." :cuss:

She is freakn awesome, very funny, a lot of fun, and she's got a Tommy Lee swing in her bedroom. ...she is 40, and I usually date younger women, but then again, I really don't card.

She cuts hair, so she's always got fine women over her place, tis one of the reasons I go over there just to hang out because you really never know what happens.

I've got some reading to do..... and a lot of catching up.

 

[Vince]

..and Bingo was his name... o.

That's it right thar. She is interested, or she wouldn't be calling me over every night.

You better hurry up then because women are more impatient than men....

 

[Phyzzle]

Just out of curiosity Phyzzle, why don't you like askmen? I used to play there but not much anymore. Too many advice giving 21 yr olds.

Oh, they have forums? I was just talking about the articles. They have Single Girl Opinion articles, where women tell how they want guys to behave. (Like AFC's). Of course, no word on how her last boyfriend behaved.

Advice-giving 21 year olds would be a step over the advice-giving 14 year olds on the main forum here.

 

[Hitman10000]

No one likes to hang around a two face person (acts nice to someone and then acts like a jerk to another) and no one likes to hang around a jerk (jerk to everyone) and no one likes to hang around a nice guy (nice to everyone) but people respect the man who is comfortable saying no, is friendly, yet will come down on you like a vulture if you piss him off.

Once in awhile the nice guy part of me wants to come out and be the one who follows a girl around, he's the one whose ready to whip out his wallet to pay for the entire bill. Now I calculate before I make a decision if upon that "nice guy" sisutation every comes out is "Whether I would do this for a male friend of mines and if I get anything out of it" it's pretty much selfishness, be selfish. There's nothing wrong with that, you're being yourself.