a woman that cant make up her mind.

[Nutz]

Enough enough!! You don't need us for answers...this should tell you everything!! Only 28, has had 2 divorces and 2 kids, WTF?? Damaged goods bro and mentally unstable.

This. And ask yourself: WHAT ARE YOU GETTING OUT OF THIS RELATIONSHIP? Now look at what you're giving her. Is there balance? Not likely. In that case pull back if she's not willing to reciprocate. It's really that simple.

 

[Blown5.0]

shes hard to let go...

along time ago we were just friend...now in the present i feel for her hard.

 

[DonGorgon]

Yeh she is in control you are weak to her.. no respect time to cut her off and get a new one and this time you be strong and make her respect you as a man..

womens mind is never made up.. they do what they feel.. they dont care about logic.. if they feel it then they will do it.. Your job is to make them feel like Fing you..

 

[Blown5.0]

Yeh she is in control you are weak to her.. no respect time to cut her off and get a new one and this time you be strong and make her respect you as a man..

womens mind is never made up.. they do what they feel.. they dont care about logic.. if they feel it then they will do it.. Your job is to make them feel like Fing you..

I know..i was too nice...i always **** thing up by being NICE...

 

[Pimp-sicle]

Dude get your mind out of the abyss!!! This chick is a total whack job and treats you like a doormat. Only problem here is you like it when she walks all over you, stomps her dirty feet on you and uses you!

STOP BEING CAPTAIN SAVE A HHHHOOO!!

I've gotta say, you've known all her issues, you know she's the common denominator in all these situations and you STILL fell for her.

You need to get some confidence in yourself and leave this chick.

She will ruin your life if you continue......THAT'S A GUARANTEE!!



PIMP

 

[jophil28]

since we haven't spoken in about a month..and even tho shes with some old guy ( no a fence ) shes been flirting with a very good friend of mine...trying to get under my skin... what do i do?

Here is what you do - nothing. 'Sweet fuk all' as we say down here.

You do not call her or text her. You do not 'ask around' about who or what she is doing . You do NOt reply to her texts or answer her calls.
You continue to read and inform yourself about mental illness in the form of BPD( if she fits the signs and symptoms) and you keep reminding yourself that this woman is a low quality ho who will only bring you pain.
And if all that does not keep you from dialing her number, ask yourself this," What do I want from this woman,and what are the chances? What value can she bring to my life that I cannot get from a more stable girl ?"

 

[Blown5.0]

i under stand all of that...we haven't spoken in about a month!
im not gonna lie...shes hand down the hottest woman ever to come in my life...

i saw all the signs...thinking maybe stuff will change..but it never did or will!

I see that now!

 

[theunflushables]

i under stand all of that...we haven't spoken in about a month!
im not gonna lie...shes hand down the hottest woman ever to come in my life...

i saw all the signs...thinking maybe stuff will change..but it never did or will!

I see that now!

I'm glad you see this now. Yeah, it sucks that she was hot. But you would not even want to be with the hottes girl in the world if she was BPD. It's a nightmare to deal with them.

Jophil is right, do not try to make contact with her, do not respond if she attempts contact with you, do not even acknowledge that she is alive basically. BPD's are amazing liars and they will say anything to get what they want. She could quickly suck you back into her nightmare of a life if she so pleased.

 

[Bible_Belt]

I guess you found the archive thread? It's 'how to get rid of a bpd woman.'

Funny how they are all hot. My girl has modeled, too. Beyond being attractive, they are also exciting, fun, and very good at making a guy happy...when things are going well. Then when you like them, they turn on you.

The disorder is about spending a lifetime being constantly driven to re-experience a traumatic childhood abandonment. In every relationship she has, that is what she is really after. bpd girls pick men with whom they have no chance, and they sabotage it when they do. They are junkies for abandonment. My bpd girl is in love with a guy in jail who murdered her other ex boyfriend over her. They will always choose men who are old, married, in jail, far away, a criminal, or having something about them that makes them not truly available.

And no, the words she says mean nothing. You have to understand that it is the disorder talking. She is sane enough to function most of the time, but regardless, it is the disorder that runs her life.

 

[BlackJackal]

A girl that i know is going through a bad divorce. shes pretty much on the street right now...living with friends...has had her kids taken away already by her mom and ex husband ( long story ).

So from the beginning i haven't seen this girl in years since she got married. in Feb after her ex leaves her for the THIRD time since they have been married, we start hanging out. I have been helping her out, being there for her ect. ect. As the days and weeks go on we start getting close but she never wants to do anything ( physical ). as the months go on we are still just friends but i start getting attached to her and her kids. we go out a lot but as friends, and she goes out with her ex BF from along time ago and other guys..partying hard...drinking hard ect ect. i can totally see she rebounding BIG TIME!

we split way a couple times but always seemed to make up. she calls me one night after about a month without speaking and wants to go out. we go out have some drinks and while at the bar she leans over and we just start going at it. i first think im golden..shes in to me right...

so we start hanging out pretty much every day..but she never wants to get physical. shes always like we are friends blah blah blah. every time we go out in public she REAL flirty with me..and we always end up kissing.

getting closer to the present, she gets kicked out of her parents house...losses her kids. and shes living with friends. in the mean time i get laid off and she ends up getting a hotel for a week. during that week we are together the whole time. one night after some light drinking we pass out together. i wake up in the middle of the night with her hand rubbing my ****. one thing leads to another and i end up going down on her. we are having fun for about 2 hours, then all of the sudden..shes like WE cant do this...my heads ****ing killing me and we cant do this! im like WTF and i go home. i get a call the next morning, she like about last night i feel bad...i didn't want our relationship to move like that. acouple nights later im with her and we're watching TV and shes putting on some lip gloss and shes like " how does this taste?!? " and leans over and we kiss for awhile!

after she gets kicked out of the room..shes living with another friend. one night while she was there we are all drinking and her friends to go bed. my girl start FLIPPING out...saying **** YOU...your just like every other guy. and starts balling about losing her kids this and that. then she like " i love you i have feeling for you...i can honestly say I LOVE YOU " im kinda taken back..didnt know what to say. she asks me " if you were my man tomorrow would you still treat me the same??? " " then shes like but we'er just friend...blah blah blah. so i get up and leave. the next day she leave that place and goes to another friends. since then i have not seen her and its been about a month. she sent me a couple text couple weeks ago saying that she was sorry for the way she treated me..and that she has a problem pushing away the people she loves...

i hear from her close friend that shes " dating " some 50 year old rich guy (shes 28) now and i really haven't heard much from her..


how can a woman say she loves me...has feelings for me...but "we're just friend". and when ever we get physical..she always makes up some excuses...even tho its happened multiple times!

i know she has a lot of problems...has a past..has a pretty messed up family
i get some many mixed feelings from her and mix signals...what tha hell do i do??

sorry for the long rant!

Ima put it to you like this. Seperate yourself from her, and move on. Simple as that. It's not worth it. Dont do it to yourself. She's a lost cause. Women say alot of stuff, majority of it doesn't have any meaning. Shes broken, you cant fix her. Deal with her at your own peril. You've been warned.

 

[BlackJackal]

i get the whole being played thing..

what i dont understand is why she would say **** like " i miss you when we are apart...i have feelings for you....i love you..." ?!?

i know she hurt real bad since her ex left her...she has VERY low self esteem..even tho she try's to play it off...

shes been married twice and has had two kids and shes 28....

she has a very rough past too..drugs...drinking...getting beat up. and im sure since shes very sexual...that's gotten her in to some trouble as well...

shes asked my a couple times..." why would you want some one like me...some ones that been around...you know my past and what i have done "

Cause she's a nut.

 

[Blown5.0]

well its already started again lol..shes already sweet talkin me...

" I sure do miss keeping up with you! I know you prolly can't text...but feel free to call whenever. "

 

[Gangster Of Love]

A girl that i know is going through a bad divorce. shes pretty much on the street right now...living with friends...has had her kids taken away already by her mom and ex husband ( long story ).

So from the beginning i haven't seen this girl in years since she got married. in Feb after her ex leaves her for the THIRD time since they have been married, we start hanging out. I have been helping her out, being there for her ect. ect. As the days and weeks go on we start getting close but she never wants to do anything ( physical ). as the months go on we are still just friends but i start getting attached to her and her kids. we go out a lot but as friends, and she goes out with her ex BF from along time ago and other guys..partying hard...drinking hard ect ect. i can totally see she rebounding BIG TIME!

we split way a couple times but always seemed to make up. she calls me one night after about a month without speaking and wants to go out. we go out have some drinks and while at the bar she leans over and we just start going at it. i first think im golden..shes in to me right...

so we start hanging out pretty much every day..but she never wants to get physical. shes always like we are friends blah blah blah. every time we go out in public she REAL flirty with me..and we always end up kissing.

getting closer to the present, she gets kicked out of her parents house...losses her kids. and shes living with friends. in the mean time i get laid off and she ends up getting a hotel for a week. during that week we are together the whole time. one night after some light drinking we pass out together. i wake up in the middle of the night with her hand rubbing my ****. one thing leads to another and i end up going down on her. we are having fun for about 2 hours, then all of the sudden..shes like WE cant do this...my heads ****ing killing me and we cant do this! im like WTF and i go home. i get a call the next morning, she like about last night i feel bad...i didn't want our relationship to move like that. acouple nights later im with her and we're watching TV and shes putting on some lip gloss and shes like " how does this taste?!? " and leans over and we kiss for awhile!

after she gets kicked out of the room..shes living with another friend. one night while she was there we are all drinking and her friends to go bed. my girl start FLIPPING out...saying **** YOU...your just like every other guy. and starts balling about losing her kids this and that. then she like " i love you i have feeling for you...i can honestly say I LOVE YOU " im kinda taken back..didnt know what to say. she asks me " if you were my man tomorrow would you still treat me the same??? " " then shes like but we'er just friend...blah blah blah. so i get up and leave. the next day she leave that place and goes to another friends. since then i have not seen her and its been about a month. she sent me a couple text couple weeks ago saying that she was sorry for the way she treated me..and that she has a problem pushing away the people she loves...

i hear from her close friend that shes " dating " some 50 year old rich guy (shes 28) now and i really haven't heard much from her..


how can a woman say she loves me...has feelings for me...but "we're just friend". and when ever we get physical..she always makes up some excuses...even tho its happened multiple times!

i know she has a lot of problems...has a past..has a pretty messed up family
i get some many mixed feelings from her and mix signals...what tha hell do i do??

sorry for the long rant!

Sounds like a quality girl.

Yet another example of how desperate men can get. Anything for a piece of ass. Serioulsy, guy, you know what to do already. So either you are desperate to nail a hot chick or just love the drama.

 

[Igetit!]

Yet another example of how desperate men can get. Anything for a piece of ass. Serioulsy, guy, you know what to do already. So either you are desperate to nail a hot chick or just love the drama.

AGREED.

The title of this thread is "a woman that cant make up her mind",but it seems like it's the OP (Blown5.0) who can't make up his mind.

The longer this thread goes on,the more I start to wonder who's the sicker one here,the OP or this girl who he allows to keep putting him through the ringer.

 

[Blown5.0]

you all have valid points!! its like shes a drug i cant seem to kick! im not gonna fall for her **** any more...i was just stating that after about a month without see or speaking to each other...shes already tryin to butter me up...

 

[Gangster Of Love]

you all have valid points!! its like shes a drug i cant seem to kick! im not gonna fall for her **** any more...i was just stating that after about a month without see or speaking to each other...shes already tryin to butter me up...

Yes, and getting attention is her drug, the one she can't seem to kick!

 

[Joe Stud]

you can always convert her to FB status. play it that way if you REALLY GOTTA BE IN HER LIFE

 

[Unbridled_Phoenix]

you can always convert her to FB status. play it that way if you REALLY GOTTA BE IN HER LIFE

What he needs is to become a man and follow the hard road when it is time. The time is now.

He needs to run. He hasn't seen this b!tch in over a month, and these BPD women live lifetimes within the course of a month. Here's how that story ends:

1. He starts banging her
2. Cue drama
3. The coke dealer she's been fvcking in the meantime wants to shoot his @ss
4. He's sleeping with a 12-gauge
5. Deputies at his residence in the middle of the night, ETC...it never stops, these women are poison, NO MORE

 

[Kal0051]

What he needs is to become a man and follow the hard road when it is time. The time is now.

He needs to run. He hasn't seen this b!tch in over a month, and these BPD women live lifetimes within the course of a month. Here's how that story ends:

1. He starts banging her
2. Cue drama
3. The coke dealer she's been fvcking in the meantime wants to shoot his @ss
4. He's sleeping with a 12-gauge
5. Deputies at his residence in the middle of the night, ETC...it never stops, these women are poison, NO MORE

lol @ #3

 

[Blown5.0]

and these BPD women live lifetimes within the course of a month. :

Aint that the truth!!