A very unusual sh** test?

[Wodinart]

Yo people, I'm in quite a bizarre situation with this girl I've been gaming on and off for the last couple of weeks or so. For the sake of context, we've had one proper date where we made out quite a bit- so I'm pretty sure she's into me. She keeps initiating contact and basically asking me out, then cancelling on me at the last minute by saying that she's hanging out with a mutual (male) friend instead, and she "can't be bothered." This has happened twice in four days.

This doesn't particularly worry me, as I'm getting enough action from my other two FBs instead, but I was wondering what takes you guys might have on this.

1) Have any of you ever been repeatedly asked out by a plate, only for her to keep cancelling on you? In my experience this has only happened when I have initiated the "date" idea. If so, did this just lead to you nexting the girl? What happened as a result?

2) Is this some sort of odd sh** test to see if she can get a reaction from me by telling me she's hanging out with another guy? If she's trying to make me jealous, she's failing miserably lol, but I would be interested to hear any perspectives on this sort of move as a female "strategy."

All thoughts are welcome.

Wodinart

 

[Mistic]

Hmmm, sounds like this hore needs to be destroyed. Next time she asks you, say you are busy, then dont answer her calls for a while until she stops calling you. Then send her a text saying "what's up, haven't heard from you in a long time. I've been seeing this really great girl lately. She's everything I look for in a woman, but for some reason, I still think about you now and then. Ok, well drop me a line some time." Then dont answer her calls again. Repeat until she sends you a pissed off text or vm. Now you've got her, and you can really start fvcking with her until you break her down to a pathetic stalker. muahahaha

Or just ask her if she wants to have a three way with you and you're new gf.

 

[Scars]

Yo people, I'm in quite a bizarre situation with this girl I've been gaming on and off for the last couple of weeks or so. For the sake of context, we've had one proper date where we made out quite a bit- so I'm pretty sure she's into me. She keeps initiating contact and basically asking me out, then cancelling on me at the last minute by saying that she's hanging out with a mutual (male) friend instead, and she "can't be bothered." This has happened twice in four days.

This doesn't particularly worry me, as I'm getting enough action from my other two FBs instead, but I was wondering what takes you guys might have on this.

1) Have any of you ever been repeatedly asked out by a plate, only for her to keep cancelling on you? In my experience this has only happened when I have initiated the "date" idea. If so, did this just lead to you nexting the girl? What happened as a result?

2) Is this some sort of odd sh** test to see if she can get a reaction from me by telling me she's hanging out with another guy? If she's trying to make me jealous, she's failing miserably lol, but I would be interested to hear any perspectives on this sort of move as a female "strategy."

All thoughts are welcome.

Wodinart

Assuming she is into you simply because she agreed to one date and you made out a little bit isn't exactly a wise thing. Something could had happen from then until now. A woman's interest is always fluctuating.

I don't think it's a sh!t test. This girl is probably genuinely busy. She's playing the field much like you and I. I will set up dates and cancel them as well, if something better comes a long.

The problem here is a low amount of interest. You need to raise that bar so she doesn't even think twice about these other guys. YOU will be here number one choice.

You're on the right track. Don't flip out about her spending time or dating other guys. Do your own thing. If you want, a simple way to raise some interest is to go cold on her for a little bit. She will eventually come back around thinking "hey what happened to him?" and she will try and set something up. Just remain unattached emotionally for now and let it take it's course. Make her realize YOU are the prize. Once she comes around SHOW her why you are the prize. Pretty soon, she will start to believe you are the prize. You wont be a benchwarmer anymore, you will be her star player, because she will have the most interest invested in you.

Take the player philosophy and just switch the gender rolls. Woman do it too.

 

[NO MA'AM]

I sure like Mistic's suggestions :rockon:

I suggest the next time she asks you out, tell her you're busy but do not elaborate. Cut the convo fast, then do not respond to her for a while. After a week or two, initiate contact through text but respond slowly and again cut it fast. She has to realize that YOU control the situation and that YOU will ask her out when YOU want to go out. On your end, you know what you should do if she doesn't accept that way things WILL be...

 

[Wodinart]

The problem here is a low amount of interest.

I really don't think this is the case. To elaborate on the details I gave in the original post, she texts me a lot: these texts range in content from wishing me good luck with my exams (we're both at college), to begging me to go out clubbing, to telling me she misses me all the time. One night last week, she drunk-texted me: "John (another mutual friend) wishes you were here. And he wants to kiss you." (Needless to say, John is not gay...)

As for my mate, I've seen her with him a couple of times and their interaction is that of friends. They have nowhere near the level of flirtatious banter that I have with this girl.

Then send her a text saying "what's up, haven't heard from you in a long time. I've been seeing this really great girl lately.

Haha, this was pretty much exactly the line I took with her last time she cancelled on me actually. I told her I was going to see another girl (FB no.1 ), which she didn't take too well.

I completely agree with the various suggestions about taking some time away from her, even though I am convinced she is into me. I am fed up of being cancelled on, and have more productive things I can do with my time (gym, hobbies, mates, FBs). If this girl comes round, great, I have another (even better looking) FB. If not, I'm really not too fussed, but I'd still like to work out what's on her mind just for the sake of experience at working out female psychology!

Any further comments/ insights into what this girl is doing?