Originally posted by SexPDX:
Vatican,
Do you have any field reports in the archive? If so you have my e-mail, maybe we could compare notes. This is about the best I have been able to do so far, but I am working at it a lot and getting better.
Nick
So am I. I've been too lazy to actually write anything up, though. If you want me too, I'll try to see what I can remember.
I use three or four different very general lead-ins that I can then turn into long 20-minute odysseys or can branch off into anything else I want. For example, and these are all things I'm naturally curious about,
"What is your favorite music to listen to?" OMG, some guys ask that question just for the sake of filling time on a date. For me, patterning off her answer to this question is easy as f*ck (for obvious reasons)
"Do you like the sun or the rain more" (when outside). Then I
really get into it, as I am
myself very into how the sun and the rain makes you feel, and I make sure to be very sensual and descriptive. It fits my personality.
"Mmm... I love being very hungry, then eating, don't you?" (when eating) I can just
go off on this one. "What's your favorite taste?" is one I like (as in sweet, sour, bitter, or salty).
"What do you like more, slow dancing or fast dancing?" . . .
Etc. I ask her questions that are infinite in potential depth, and I simultaneously elicit values and pattern off those values. Anything she says, I take the emotional part of it, dump the rest, and build onwards off that emotional part. Kino . . . getting closer . . . (talking about dancing is killer, and I can always get her to actually dance with me in a public, non club/bar setting--most guys are too shy or too focused on acting "cool" to do this kind of sh*t).
It helps that I'm good at coming up with BS stories on the fly--I usually describe something that's actually happened to me or one of my friends, but I change the details appropriately.
The best are those times when I'm able to use all my knowledge
simultaneously. That's the real killer.