Adonis
Master Don Juan
In a society such as ours it's assumed that a man has to be the one to approach women. Unfortunately, even though there are more women in this planet than there are men, women always have more chance with a man than the other way around. It's to women's advantage because it was given to them by our society, they get to pick and we constantly line ourselves out in the firing range ready to get shot down. Those hapless guys are blessed with long lonely nights with nothing else to entertain them but their callused right hand.
Knowing this, it should come to no surprise that there are plenty of men who are afraid to approach women. Add to this the fact that women don't like to be approached and we have a no win situation. But, fear not gents for I will share some insights I've learned throughout the years. However you should know first that women do not make you complete and the only person you should always shower with attention is yourself.
On to the basics:
1. It's you and all you
Obviously you need a lot confidence to approach women and how you gain this confidence is up to you. The easy way to gather confidence is to really put more effort onto yourself. What do I mean by this? Well, spend time building up the things that make you a unique person. What makes you stand-out from the rest of the world? Why would she choose you over millions of other losers out there? Focus on your strong points and support it at all times.
2. It's all about the groom
No, I don't mean getting married as in bride and groom. What I mean is give your body the attention it deserves. Dress up like a decent character and spend time grooming yourself. Your body be your shrine. Go to the gym and start putting some effort into staying fit and looking good. Women really do put more emphasis on looks more than they'd care to admit. First impressions comes first when she looks at you, so it should be obvious that she is judging you by the way you look. So pick up your pink leotards and hit the gluteal machine.
3. No fear of rejection
This is the biggest problem for most guys - caused by lack of #1 above. Just don't take this personally. We face rejection throughout our lives - rejected from a job offer, parents, school, etc., When you're approaching a woman, you're approaching a stranger and she doesn't know you. If she rejects you, don't take it personally. Their could be variable reasons why she would reject you - already committed, don't want to be approached, bad hair day, PMS, and so on. Don't take it personally, it not a reflection of you but of her mood and your approach. It's her loss not yours.
Things to know before you go:
The true experts of the approach is women. Why? because they've seen it all. Women get approached by the sleaziest fruicakes out there and are therefore on the defensive. Knowing this, when you do approach women just know that you are invading their personal space, so show some respect and make it light fellas. Besides, regardless of how you mask or hide your intentions she already knows what you're after.
Some girls are just out to have fun. Even if they elicit the attention of men, women that are just out with their friends to have fun. They're out to have a good time and to forget about men in some cases, so more than likely they don't want to be approached - so you have to know when to approach and when not to.
Approach, approach, approach:
Don't be intimidated by beautiful women. They eat, crap, and sleep just like you and me. They have feelings, desires, and problems just like normal people do. So take them off that pedestal and put them on your level.
Approach only when you get the initial eye contact. If you walk up to her without her noticing you first, you're setting yourself up for the big R. After the eye contact show her your beautiful smile - when she smiles back that's your que, have at em' Cassanova.
Just do it. Even if you know women hate to get picked up, just do it. Use humor and confidence to your advantage. If you say soething funny it will break the ice and get the conversation going. Don't be serious, she's out to have a good time and so should you.
Be subtle about your approach, talk about light subjects and don't talk about money or your personal problems. Ask her open ended questions to keep the conversation going. Don't shower her compliments, if you must give a compliment give a compliment that is not directed to her looks. Do not make comments about her breast size or hip curves.
Don't let a group of women stop you. If the girl of your dreams is surrounded by her friends approach her anyways. Get initial eye contact, smile then approach the group. Introduce yourself to everyone and get take her somewhere where only you two could talk - kindly say: "Excuse me ladies, but could I borrow her for second?". Take her hand and lead.
--And never forget: "What's your home phone number?"
Practice, practice, practice:
Like I said practice. Practice talking to complete strangers and gain some social skills - which is very essential to your survival. Better social skills equals better women.
This is only half the battle of the dating war. The rest is up to you, but you are given the foundation from which you can stand on. Go get em' tiger.
[This message has been edited by Adonis (edited 06-22-2001).]
Knowing this, it should come to no surprise that there are plenty of men who are afraid to approach women. Add to this the fact that women don't like to be approached and we have a no win situation. But, fear not gents for I will share some insights I've learned throughout the years. However you should know first that women do not make you complete and the only person you should always shower with attention is yourself.
On to the basics:
1. It's you and all you
Obviously you need a lot confidence to approach women and how you gain this confidence is up to you. The easy way to gather confidence is to really put more effort onto yourself. What do I mean by this? Well, spend time building up the things that make you a unique person. What makes you stand-out from the rest of the world? Why would she choose you over millions of other losers out there? Focus on your strong points and support it at all times.
2. It's all about the groom
No, I don't mean getting married as in bride and groom. What I mean is give your body the attention it deserves. Dress up like a decent character and spend time grooming yourself. Your body be your shrine. Go to the gym and start putting some effort into staying fit and looking good. Women really do put more emphasis on looks more than they'd care to admit. First impressions comes first when she looks at you, so it should be obvious that she is judging you by the way you look. So pick up your pink leotards and hit the gluteal machine.
3. No fear of rejection
This is the biggest problem for most guys - caused by lack of #1 above. Just don't take this personally. We face rejection throughout our lives - rejected from a job offer, parents, school, etc., When you're approaching a woman, you're approaching a stranger and she doesn't know you. If she rejects you, don't take it personally. Their could be variable reasons why she would reject you - already committed, don't want to be approached, bad hair day, PMS, and so on. Don't take it personally, it not a reflection of you but of her mood and your approach. It's her loss not yours.
Things to know before you go:
The true experts of the approach is women. Why? because they've seen it all. Women get approached by the sleaziest fruicakes out there and are therefore on the defensive. Knowing this, when you do approach women just know that you are invading their personal space, so show some respect and make it light fellas. Besides, regardless of how you mask or hide your intentions she already knows what you're after.
Some girls are just out to have fun. Even if they elicit the attention of men, women that are just out with their friends to have fun. They're out to have a good time and to forget about men in some cases, so more than likely they don't want to be approached - so you have to know when to approach and when not to.
Approach, approach, approach:
Don't be intimidated by beautiful women. They eat, crap, and sleep just like you and me. They have feelings, desires, and problems just like normal people do. So take them off that pedestal and put them on your level.
Approach only when you get the initial eye contact. If you walk up to her without her noticing you first, you're setting yourself up for the big R. After the eye contact show her your beautiful smile - when she smiles back that's your que, have at em' Cassanova.
Just do it. Even if you know women hate to get picked up, just do it. Use humor and confidence to your advantage. If you say soething funny it will break the ice and get the conversation going. Don't be serious, she's out to have a good time and so should you.
Be subtle about your approach, talk about light subjects and don't talk about money or your personal problems. Ask her open ended questions to keep the conversation going. Don't shower her compliments, if you must give a compliment give a compliment that is not directed to her looks. Do not make comments about her breast size or hip curves.
Don't let a group of women stop you. If the girl of your dreams is surrounded by her friends approach her anyways. Get initial eye contact, smile then approach the group. Introduce yourself to everyone and get take her somewhere where only you two could talk - kindly say: "Excuse me ladies, but could I borrow her for second?". Take her hand and lead.
--And never forget: "What's your home phone number?"
Practice, practice, practice:
Like I said practice. Practice talking to complete strangers and gain some social skills - which is very essential to your survival. Better social skills equals better women.
This is only half the battle of the dating war. The rest is up to you, but you are given the foundation from which you can stand on. Go get em' tiger.
[This message has been edited by Adonis (edited 06-22-2001).]
