A Sex Worker Shares Why Men Pay For Sex

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Sex worker – Nicole Emma – reveals that sex often lasts for 5.4 minutes on average but men hire prostitutes for hours. Why? Because men are in desperate need to feel authentically connected to someone else and they’re willing to pay for it.


Why Do Men Visit Sex Workers?

If men aren’t visiting prostitutes for sex, why are they going to see these sex workers? Nicole Emma – a career sex worker – shared some heartbreaking examples:
  • Consoling a man who is missing his children on the other side of the country
  • Because he wants to feel valued
  • To help someone who is disabled feel normal
  • Reminding someone what it feels like to be touched after so long
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Thoughts?
 

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Her solution is the same as all those women who "care" about men's problems. Cry more, that will fix men.
 

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Sex worker – Nicole Emma – reveals that sex often lasts for 5.4 minutes on average but men hire prostitutes for hours. Why? Because men are in desperate need to feel authentically connected to someone else and they’re willing to pay for it.


Why Do Men Visit Sex Workers?

If men aren’t visiting prostitutes for sex, why are they going to see these sex workers? Nicole Emma – a career sex worker – shared some heartbreaking examples:
  • Consoling a man who is missing his children on the other side of the country
  • Because he wants to feel valued
  • To help someone who is disabled feel normal
  • Reminding someone what it feels like to be touched after so long
———-

Thoughts?
I'd say mostly it's because men want sex more than women. If women wanted sex as much as men did, then either prostitution wouldn't exist at all or it would be 50/50 split between men and women indulging in it, rather than the 95/5% split that it is in the real world.

It's pretty obvious. But of course that's not politically correct.
 

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Sex worker – Nicole Emma – reveals that sex often lasts for 5.4 minutes on average but men hire prostitutes for hours. Why? Because men are in desperate need to feel authentically connected to someone else and they’re willing to pay for it.


Why Do Men Visit Sex Workers?

If men aren’t visiting prostitutes for sex, why are they going to see these sex workers? Nicole Emma – a career sex worker – shared some heartbreaking examples:
  • Consoling a man who is missing his children on the other side of the country
  • Because he wants to feel valued
  • To help someone who is disabled feel normal
  • Reminding someone what it feels like to be touched after so long
———-

Thoughts?
Agreed. The first sex worker I saw, Suzy, in 2014, we basically cuddled and danced around. No sex happened because I refused it when she offered. On the plus side, because it was a clean session, I had a nice ego boost afterwards and visited a second escort with more sexual intent the next evening.
 

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Lmao!! 5.4 minutes...no wonder why they can't find a woman.
That might be the 5.4 minutes of penetration. Foreplay is likely to up the total number of minutes.

Why Do Men Visit Sex Workers?

If men aren’t visiting prostitutes for sex, why are they going to see these sex workers? Nicole Emma – a career sex worker – shared some heartbreaking examples:
  • Consoling a man who is missing his children on the other side of the country
  • Because he wants to feel valued
  • To help someone who is disabled feel normal
  • Reminding someone what it feels like to be touched after so long
———-
men are in desperate need to feel authentically connected to someone else and they’re willing to pay for it.
A man who visits a sex worker is missing sex at a bare minimum.

Sex worker visitors are not a uniform group. When I think about it, there are 2 main groups.

1. Attached men (usually married) who are lacking sex
2. Unattached men who are lacking sex

Group 1 is almost never discussed on the SoSuave forums on threads related to sex workers. Group 2 is more talked more about on the threads. The groups are different.

There are plenty of married men visiting sex workers, usually because their wife barely gives him enough sex or the marriage is entirely sexless. This is usually a consequence of the passage of time and an LTR lasting too long. While some unmarried men in LTRs visit sex workers, this is more commonly associated with married men. These Group 1 married men have companionship because they live with their wives. They also are more likely to have some level of emotional intimacy with their wives, even in lousy relationships. These lousy relationships were once good. Also, since more social circles are filled with married people, the married men have more group social connections with other married men. This is very true in the newlywed phases and child raising phases.

To an incel or MGTOW type man, a marriage with sex once or twice a month or even once every two months doesn't sound like a bad deal. They are getting sex. Incels lack sex. For the married men living lifestyles of sporadic sex, it is not a good deal and an unpleasant experience.

The unattached men in Group 2 are in a worse place than the Group 1 men. The Group 2 men are lacking both emotional intimacy and physical intimacy. Group 2 men have no female companionship, unlike the married men with wives at home. Group 2 men also typically have weaker social bonds with their male friends, especially after 30+ when most social circles are mainly couples. When most social circles are mainly couples, married men tend to abandoned their unattached male friends. Divorced men also tend to fall out of these married man groups.

While both Group 1 and Group 2 need the sex from a sex worker, the Group 1 men might not need as much of the emotional intimacy and companionship elements as a Group 2 man.
 

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That might be the 5.4 minutes of penetration. Foreplay is likely to up the total number of minutes.



A man who visits a sex worker is missing sex at a bare minimum.

Sex worker visitors are not a uniform group. When I think about it, there are 2 main groups.

1. Attached men (usually married) who are lacking sex
2. Unattached men who are lacking sex

Group 1 is almost never discussed on the SoSuave forums on threads related to sex workers. Group 2 is more talked more about on the threads. The groups are different.

There are plenty of married men visiting sex workers, usually because their wife barely gives him enough sex or the marriage is entirely sexless. This is usually a consequence of the passage of time and an LTR lasting too long. While some unmarried men in LTRs visit sex workers, this is more commonly associated with married men. These Group 1 married men have companionship because they live with their wives. They also are more likely to have some level of emotional intimacy with their wives, even in lousy relationships. These lousy relationships were once good. Also, since more social circles are filled with married people, the married men have more group social connections with other married men. This is very true in the newlywed phases and child raising phases.

To an incel or MGTOW type man, a marriage with sex once or twice a month or even once every two months doesn't sound like a bad deal. They are getting sex. Incels lack sex. For the married men living lifestyles of sporadic sex, it is not a good deal and an unpleasant experience.

The unattached men in Group 2 are in a worse place than the Group 1 men. The Group 2 men are lacking both emotional intimacy and physical intimacy. Group 2 men have no female companionship, unlike the married men with wives at home. Group 2 men also typically have weaker social bonds with their male friends, especially after 30+ when most social circles are mainly couples. When most social circles are mainly couples, married men tend to abandoned their unattached male friends. Divorced men also tend to fall out of these married man groups.

While both Group 1 and Group 2 need the sex from a sex worker, the Group 1 men might not need as much of the emotional intimacy and companionship elements as a Group 2 man.
I figured it was 5.4 minutes of penetration...that's pathetic.
 

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I'm an incel, but I would never pay for sex. I would however, pay you photos. But it would mostly be where I take photos of them, not where they send me photos.
 

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You would no longer be an incel if you paid directly for sex. Cel means celibate and those who pay directly for sex are not celibate.
Yea, I would be a vol-cel if I did not want to put in money for it. Involuntary usually means you didn't earn it, so 1 can argue if you had to pay for it, you didn't earn a free 1. I'm still an incel for free-sex, and unearned-sex.
 

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A man who visits a sex worker is missing sex at a bare minimum.

Sex worker visitors are not a uniform group. When I think about it, there are 2 main groups.

1. Attached men (usually married) who are lacking sex
2. Unattached men who are lacking sex

Group 1 is almost never discussed on the SoSuave forums on threads related to sex workers. Group 2 is more talked more about on the threads. The groups are different.

There are plenty of married men visiting sex workers, usually because their wife barely gives him enough sex or the marriage is entirely sexless. This is usually a consequence of the passage of time and an LTR lasting too long. While some unmarried men in LTRs visit sex workers, this is more commonly associated with married men. These Group 1 married men have companionship because they live with their wives. They also are more likely to have some level of emotional intimacy with their wives, even in lousy relationships. These lousy relationships were once good. Also, since more social circles are filled with married people, the married men have more group social connections with other married men. This is very true in the newlywed phases and child raising phases.

To an incel or MGTOW type man, a marriage with sex once or twice a month or even once every two months doesn't sound like a bad deal. They are getting sex. Incels lack sex. For the married men living lifestyles of sporadic sex, it is not a good deal and an unpleasant experience.

The unattached men in Group 2 are in a worse place than the Group 1 men. The Group 2 men are lacking both emotional intimacy and physical intimacy. Group 2 men have no female companionship, unlike the married men with wives at home. Group 2 men also typically have weaker social bonds with their male friends, especially after 30+ when most social circles are mainly couples. When most social circles are mainly couples, married men tend to abandoned their unattached male friends. Divorced men also tend to fall out of these married man groups.

While both Group 1 and Group 2 need the sex from a sex worker, the Group 1 men might not need as much of the emotional intimacy and companionship elements as a Group 2 man.
This is all spot on.

My married guy friend complains about very infrequent sex. That’s technically a “first world problem” to a single, extended dry spell guy, ie incel.

When I mentioned missing intimacy/affection from a chick more than the sex itself, he looked at me like I have three heads. He couldn’t wrap his head around that because it’s not his reality.
 

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I'm still an incel for free-sex, and unearned-sex.
There are very few instances of free sex and they are more outlier type cases. Men either pay for sex directly or indirectly. A man can be an incel for more conventional means of sex but able to get sex by directly paying for it.

Here are examples of ways that men pay for sex indirectly.

1. Buying a Rolex or other luxury watch brand to get attention from women.


2. Buying a luxury level brand car vs. having an adequate car (in car dependent cities)


Any car ownership costs with the luxury level brand would also be associated with getting laid

3. Buying a boat
4. Buying real estate/renting a more expensive apartment in order to impress women with a bachelor pad
5. Any sort of fitness cost. This could be a gym membership. Some gyms are inexpensive whereas others are expensive. Some men even get more expensive personal training to have a better physique to get them laid. Sport training lessons like tennis lessons or surfing lessons can be indirect costs for getting laid.
 

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If you're a sex worker, those answers make you feel like you're doing God's work.

But for most sex workers, dudes just want to bust a nut with the minimum effort.

Because men are in desperate need to feel authentically connected to someone else and they’re willing to pay for it.
I wouldn't say paying a hooker creates an authentic connection.

Dudes have been banging hookers since the dawn of time.
 

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You would no longer be an incel if you paid directly for sex. Cel means celibate and those who pay directly for sex are not celibate.
Again, you are making up definitions out of a hat because its your own logic and not what it is actually defined as.

Here is the wikipedia definition of an incel who pays for escorts:


You go on incelboards, and you have people who pay for it and others who don't. Unless you can pick up someone from OLD and cold-approach (with no exchage of money) you are incel.
 

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Yea, I would be a vol-cel if I did not want to put in money for it. Involuntary usually means you didn't earn it, so 1 can argue if you had to pay for it, you didn't earn a free 1. I'm still an incel for free-sex, and unearned-sex.
Of course, don't mind @SW15, he is a bit ignorant when it comes to that issue.
 
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That might be the 5.4 minutes of penetration. Foreplay is likely to up the total number of minutes.



A man who visits a sex worker is missing sex at a bare minimum.

Sex worker visitors are not a uniform group. When I think about it, there are 2 main groups.

1. Attached men (usually married) who are lacking sex
2. Unattached men who are lacking sex

Group 1 is almost never discussed on the SoSuave forums on threads related to sex workers. Group 2 is more talked more about on the threads. The groups are different.

There are plenty of married men visiting sex workers, usually because their wife barely gives him enough sex or the marriage is entirely sexless. This is usually a consequence of the passage of time and an LTR lasting too long. While some unmarried men in LTRs visit sex workers, this is more commonly associated with married men. These Group 1 married men have companionship because they live with their wives. They also are more likely to have some level of emotional intimacy with their wives, even in lousy relationships. These lousy relationships were once good. Also, since more social circles are filled with married people, the married men have more group social connections with other married men. This is very true in the newlywed phases and child raising phases.

To an incel or MGTOW type man, a marriage with sex once or twice a month or even once every two months doesn't sound like a bad deal. They are getting sex. Incels lack sex. For the married men living lifestyles of sporadic sex, it is not a good deal and an unpleasant experience.

The unattached men in Group 2 are in a worse place than the Group 1 men. The Group 2 men are lacking both emotional intimacy and physical intimacy. Group 2 men have no female companionship, unlike the married men with wives at home. Group 2 men also typically have weaker social bonds with their male friends, especially after 30+ when most social circles are mainly couples. When most social circles are mainly couples, married men tend to abandoned their unattached male friends. Divorced men also tend to fall out of these married man groups.

While both Group 1 and Group 2 need the sex from a sex worker, the Group 1 men might not need as much of the emotional intimacy and companionship elements as a Group 2 man.
I agree with your statement generally yet it needs to add group 3.

3 Attached men who have sex available at home but simply need variety in terms of women or preferences.

I have a very good looking girlfriend which not only never turn down sex but more often than not initiates herself to the point where sometime I have to find ways to skip it.

Despite that I still feel the desire to bang those hot chicks from the gym, the girl working in the cafeteria and many more I see around just like when I was single.

As men we can fight many dangerous battles and win but fighting against our own biology is beyond the limit.
 

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It is enough of a connection if someone's hungry enough.
You can say the same for any face to face financial transaction.

Bartenders, waitresses, barbers, even the dude you buy your sack of burgers from.

Pretending to like and be friendly with customers is a very common skill set among front line retailers.
 

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You can say the same for any face to face financial transaction.

Bartenders, waitresses, barbers, even the dude you buy your sack of burgers from.

Pretending to like and be friendly with customers is a very common skill set among front line retailers.
I do not remember any such connections over a decade ago though. Do you remember a random cashier you spoke with 8-10 years ago. Probably not. Yet I write about just two escorts I visited 9 years ago like they were yesterday. Obviously that is an apple and oranges comparison.
 

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That might be the 5.4 minutes of penetration. Foreplay is likely to up the total number of minutes.



A man who visits a sex worker is missing sex at a bare minimum.

Sex worker visitors are not a uniform group. When I think about it, there are 2 main groups.

1. Attached men (usually married) who are lacking sex
2. Unattached men who are lacking sex

Group 1 is almost never discussed on the SoSuave forums on threads related to sex workers. Group 2 is more talked more about on the threads. The groups are different.

There are plenty of married men visiting sex workers, usually because their wife barely gives him enough sex or the marriage is entirely sexless. This is usually a consequence of the passage of time and an LTR lasting too long. While some unmarried men in LTRs visit sex workers, this is more commonly associated with married men. These Group 1 married men have companionship because they live with their wives. They also are more likely to have some level of emotional intimacy with their wives, even in lousy relationships. These lousy relationships were once good. Also, since more social circles are filled with married people, the married men have more group social connections with other married men. This is very true in the newlywed phases and child raising phases.

To an incel or MGTOW type man, a marriage with sex once or twice a month or even once every two months doesn't sound like a bad deal. They are getting sex. Incels lack sex. For the married men living lifestyles of sporadic sex, it is not a good deal and an unpleasant experience.

The unattached men in Group 2 are in a worse place than the Group 1 men. The Group 2 men are lacking both emotional intimacy and physical intimacy. Group 2 men have no female companionship, unlike the married men with wives at home. Group 2 men also typically have weaker social bonds with their male friends, especially after 30+ when most social circles are mainly couples. When most social circles are mainly couples, married men tend to abandoned their unattached male friends. Divorced men also tend to fall out of these married man groups.

While both Group 1 and Group 2 need the sex from a sex worker, the Group 1 men might not need as much of the emotional intimacy and companionship elements as a Group 2 man.
Nope. I believe it is actually 5.4 minutes. Lets say this clock starts ticking from the moment she starts touching you. Because there's another clock ticking , the one that starts the moment you enter. Wanna shower(sometimes she demands it) ? Smoke a cigarette? Talk about her bf? You pay for every second.

The trick for a professional is to make penetration as short as possible, and if possible even avoid it.

If you take an hour you have to agree beforehand that you can use a full hour and bust as often as you can/want. If you don't talk about this she might make you come, and she'll tell you it's over. Mind you, anything under 1 hour = bust a nut and get out.

And then there's also ofcourse the infamous phenomenon of having eyes bigger than your stomach. You think you want an hour. But after one session postnut clearity kicks in and suddenly you just wanna leave.

But yeah, that's the thing about prostitution. The worst client is the man who wants to ravage her for an hour straight. She rather has a man so pent up he's coming from just a handjob. The game is the client wants to make it last while she tries to short it down. If she can do this she can have 20 one hour clients paying full price while her "uncut feck time"(penetration time) is maybe just 120 minutes. I think most men will indeed pay for an hour, and leave within 20 /30 minutes (with the next literally lined up sometimes! )
Everything else is time she tries to waist. (This is why the gf experience is so popular! Men try to avoid robotic sex but she'll try to win this "game" regardless)

Lastly, when they work in clubs there's a zero tolerance policy from security. If she feels uncomfortable for whatever reason the session is over, no refund. Security will always pick her side, and if you went ti far they'll feck you up.

If you want the best experience...you must take as much time as possible. Pay up. Wine and dine her ect. Be a regular.
I agree with your statement generally yet it needs to add group 3.

3 Attached men who have sex available at home but simply need variety in terms of women or preferences.

I have a very good looking girlfriend which not only never turn down sex but more often than not initiates herself to the point where sometime I have to find ways to skip it.

Despite that I still feel the desire to bang those hot chicks from the gym, the girl working in the cafeteria and many more I see around just like when I was single.

As men we can fight many dangerous battles and win but fighting against our own biology is beyond the limit.
Yes , I agree 100%. This is the type of man with some cash, and a above average sexdrive. Or a combination of 1 2 and 3. A man with sex available but not always how he likes it.

And lets face it; a prostitute might give you the best bj or whatever you've ever had.

I geuss some prostitutes will love this type of client, but most will hate him.
 
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