A recovering AFC

[x86]

Turns out I was a AFC. I was one of those guys who accidentally attracted a chick. Ran well for a while but I turned into a wuss (told ya! AFC). The good news is I know better what qualities I am looking for in a woman and which I am going to avoid. This is all well and good on a intellectual level, but in reality I need to get out in the field. I'm going to start off slow and ease my way into the game.

So my lofty goal is this. Strike up one conversation with a woman I don't know beforehand this weekend.

Wish me luck.

 

[MooseGod]

Well it sounds like you've got the right mindset...and don't forget to focus on all aspects of your life in addition to playing the game.

 

[x86]

All aspects of my life are comming together. You wont see me at McDonald's anytime soon complaining how my life turned out.

So I'm walking around in the mall and didn't succeed in approaching anyone. I have absolutely no experience when it comes to cold approaches. I usually have a common interest to talk about before hand (party, school, etc) but with cold approaches I have no such crutch to rely on. Anyone have any advice on how I can get better at cold approaches or psyching my self up?

 

[Interceptor]

You only "NEED" to "psyche yourself Up" is you NEED another person's vaidation of you.
When people try to pyshce themselves up, they CREATE an imaginary but FELT invisible WALL that prevents them from being authenitc, genuine, and in the moment. They often do this becasue they feel they are LOWER VALUE than the person they are trying to "talk' to.
People do this because they have a NEED to
"impress" others on how 'cool" they are.

It is also important to truly make peace and recognize your desore to communicate with people,women and men.

You must make peace that you are attracted to women, and desire sex, and female companionship.

There is nothing wrong, dirty, or shameful in this.

In addition, you must accept that you are different, and unique..NOT INFERIOR.
Many women often complain that they cannot understand how Men cna be nervous an lack confidence in approaching them.
They do not understand WHY it is so difficult for a Man to go up to a woman and strike up a conversation with them.



You need to look deep within yourself and aks yourself "why do you have difficulty with this? With looking people in the eye, and simply communicating with them? What is holding you back?"

You may want to read this:

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=138688

 

[x86]

Heh, psyching my self up last time totally didn't work for me. definitely not the way to go.

I am good at communicating when it comes to group situations where I know people before hand. My conversational skills take a nose dive when I'm chatting with people I don't know at all.

Goals: looking for LTR with someone who is attractive and is intelligent. Of course, I'm not going to turn down fun along the way to my goal ;-)

Without further delay,
Approach 1
Setting: music CD rack.
Me: "Hey" *very quite, like a mouse or something*
*She doesn't hear and does not turn around*
Me: "Excuse me" *louder this time*
Her: "Yes?"
Me "Can I ask a you a question?" (Weak approach, but it's a start)
Her: "Sure"
Me: "Do you listen to jazz music"
Her: "No" (Not a harsh sounding no, so I continue on)
Me: "I'm looking for a good jazz CD for a party, have you herd of any good ones"
Her: "Sorry, I have not herd of any"
Me: "Ok, Thanks anyways"

Yup, pretty elementary but it's a start. Lets see how I do next weekend.

 

[x86]

So there a I am at work and then Bam!





Knee cap popped out. Not just kind of out. Way the **** out. Now I'm in school for 2 months.

Anywho, I approached a single during lunch. Talked a bit got her name while eating. Turned out she was moving since it was her last year of school so I didn't number close but it felt good to make headway again after being forcefully taken off the field.

Any suggestions on approaching a group 2-3 during lunch hour? Any tips?

 

[ARrocket]

Good luck! Remember, go in without any expectations.

 

[x86]

So, once again I approached a single during lunch today. Less hesitation this time too. I'm planning on killing that hesitation.

Here is the line I usually use in case anyone is wondering. As I'm setting down I throw something out along these lines.

Me: "Hey, hows it going?"
*From the response to that I am usually accurate at guessing how well the rest the encounter will go*
Me : "Mind if I join you for a couple minutes while my friends get though the pizza line up?"

So far it does me well.

The last lunch hour as I was chatting some of her friends showed up and joined in. The conversation went smooth although I need to get smoother at taking off. I also plan on honing my handshaking skills. Overall it was a pretty solid showing.

Now if anyone is able to answer this question for me I will give them a shiny nickel. In a social lunch situation when your chatting with a mix of men and women how would you go about getting a number from one of them?

 

[x86]

First attempt for a number:

I was in the mall going to buy some stuff from the store when I see one of those sample people hand out creme. The one looks at me and I held eye contact and smiled back. My brain had no say as I walked towards her. It had no time.

As we chatted I joked around a bit mentioning that no one is in the store and that she should run up to people and beg for them to come in, ect. I got ok responses to that. I then followed it up with saying "you should give me your number so we can go for coffee sometime".

Then I got one of the responses I feared. I s*** you not I got the "I'm not 18".

So I attempted to save face and got the **** out of there.

I swear I had pretty good approach up to that point. What a waste.

Trial by fire ehh?

 

[collalife]

good approACH. Well it happens she maybe wasnt interested. if you conveyed some more value,(more ****y/funny,palmistry,magic,handwriting analysis,cold reading) she might of gave it to you regardless of age difference.

we as men and women are the same when we want something it doesnt matter that the laws say we cant have it we still try to get it.

your improving fast.

 

[x86]

I'm trying my game in two ways now. The standard approaching in malls, schools, clubs, etc and I believe their is a way to get results on the internet contrary to properly belief and by results I mean high quality and intelligent women.

So far I got a number and a good chance of meeting tonight.