Originally posted by disciple
Excellent post my friend!!
Allen Thompson has a good article on smiling in the Quick Tips or Articles section on the main page.
Good work.
Here it is in it's entirety.
** Your Magic Wand **
What red-blooded male hasn't at one time or another dreamed of having
a magic wand.
A wand which would instantly turn you into the most charming,
irresistible hunk of manhood this side of Robert Redford? Or perhaps
a word or phrase that you could utter to create a magical, sensual
effect on the woman you're talking to? Or maybe a particular
behavior, such as snapping your fingers, that would instantly fill any
woman you wanted with feelings of infatuation, love, and lust for YOU?
You wouldn't want to be completely irresistible. Oh, no. That would
be far too much trouble. You'd have girls that you're not interested
in chasing you all over the place. You simply want to be charming and
irresistible to all those girls you are attracted to.
A wand, a word, or a simple behavior that would instantly turn you
into a charismatic and irresistible Don Juan. Yes, life would be
good!
Well I'm here to tell you there is such a magic wand. Something that
will make you almost completely irresistible to any woman you "point
it" at. Something guaranteed to fill your life with love, romance,
and excitement. No, I'm not talking about some kind of mythical
aphrodisiac. I'm not talking about a pheromone cologne, or some kind
of pill you slip into her drink.
No, this is much easier and simpler. It doesn't cost you anything and
it's something that any man can master.
It's known as a SMILE.
Now I'm not talking about just any smile. I'm not talking about that
pathetic little smirk of yours that makes you look more scary than
friendly. But a big, face-consuming,
I-feel-good-about-life-and-I-like-you-too kind of grin that will
instantly light up any room (and any woman) that you "point it" at.
Never forget that women are irresistibly drawn to smiling guys. They
flirt with smiling guys. Date smiling guys. Have sex with smiling
guys. Marry smiling guys. And live happily ever after with smiling
guys.
Why this infatuation with smiling guys?
Well, smiling says that you're a positive, optimistic person. That
you're a person who has fun and enjoys life. That you're confident.
That you're mature, expressive, and don't hide your feelings. And,
most importantly, smiling says that you like and are attracted to her.
(You don't smile at people you don't like, do you?)
One other thing: smiling makes you more physically attractive.
I'm sure you know at least one girl that you're attracted to, but
you're not sure exactly why. Physically, she has neither a perfect
body nor a perfect face. Yet, to you and most every other guy, she's
beautiful, irresistible, and charming.
Chances are she smiles a lot.
So smiling make you more attractive, reveals your positive
personality, and indicates that you like the person you're smiling at.
Wow!
I know what some of you are thinking. Clint Eastwood never smiled.
John Wayne never smiled. James Dean never smiled. And they always
wound up with the women.
Well, friends, I'm talking about real life here, not television or the
movies. Being a hard, tough, cold, unemotional, unexpressive guy may
work in the movies, but it doesn't work in real life. And chances
are, you don't look like Clint Eastwood, John Wayne, or James Dean
either.
But that's how most of us guys were raised, right? We were taught to
be unexpressive and unemotional. We grew up trying to be cool, trying
to be what we thought others admired. We wanted to be Clint Eastwood
or John Wayne. We wanted to be tough, cool, and get all the women.
Just doesn't work that way in real life.
Want to see something really enlightening (and sad)? Go out to one of
the more popular bars or nightclubs in your area. Try and peel your
eyes off all the beautiful women and check out the guys for a minute.
Notice how most of them are trying to attract women by being cool,
tough, hard, unemotional. They think they can attract women by acting
like they don't really care. Notice all these cool guys leaning
against the walls by themselves (or with their equally cool, male
buddies).
And they go there to meet women! Ridiculous!
Now take a look around the club at the men who are surrounded by women
and are having a great time. What do you notice about them? Take a
look at the way they dress, the way they walk, the way they act. But
most importantly take a look at their faces. They're smiling, feeling
good, and having a great time. They know the secret. They brought
the wand.
"Well shucks, I'd be having a great time too if I was surrounded by
women," I hear you muttering.
True. But the secret is that they came into the club like that. With
those positive, happy, fun-loving smiles. They didn't wait for the
fun to start before they started having fun. They have learned not to
"pursue" women but to "attract" them... by smiling.
Okay, so HOW do you smile?
Remember, most of us have been trained since childhood not to smile,
not to reveal our emotions, not to reveal vulnerability. Trying to
"force" yourself to smile can be quite difficult, especially if you're
feeling nervous, or "she" happens to be around.
(Interesting how some guys think smiling communicates weakness, when
it actually communicates confidence and strength.)
So how do you learn to smile?
One word. PRACTICE!
Smiling is like any other behavior. To get good at it you have to
practice. And practice. And practice.
Think about the simple act of snapping your fingers. Can you snap
your fingers? Most people can't. The first time you try you'll most
likely get a pathetic little "snuupff." Now try again. About the
same. But if you practice some, you'll eventually be able to create
an almost ear-shattering "KAA-SSNAPP" that will demand the attention
of everyone around. You'll get so good at snapping your fingers that
you'll almost hurt yourself doing it.
That's what you want your smile to be like. You want your smile to
demand the attention of everyone around. You want your smile to be
POWERFUL.
So how do you practice? Very simple. Just go into your bathroom or
bedroom or anyplace there's a mirror and you can be alone. Look into
the mirror and smile. Smile. And smile some more. Smile until your
entire face aches. Smile until every muscle in your face is so
fatigued that you can't possibly smile anymore. Then keep smiling.
Yes, you're going to feel stupid, silly, and ridiculous. Great! The
sillier you feel, the more you'll feel like smiling. And the act of
smiling itself, will actually make you feel better and feel more like
smiling.
(This is an excellent exercise to practice before going out on a date,
or out to a nightclub, or anywhere else you might meet a woman you'd
be interested in.)
