Never try to read a woman's mind. It is a scary place. Ignore her confusing signals and mixed messages. Assume she is interested in you and act accordingly.
Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.
Send me a copy so I know what you said brother.PrettyBoyAJ said:Thank you for the pep talk 5String. I've just sent the email.
If you currently have too many women chasing you, calling you, harassing you, knocking on your door at 2 o'clock in the morning... then I have the simple solution for you.
Just read my free ebook 22 Rules for Massive Success With Women and do the opposite of what I recommend.
This will quickly drive all women away from you.
And you will be able to relax and to live your life in peace and quiet.
This is one of the most well written straight forward pieces of advice given here on SS you should take away. I went through the same processes but instead of graduate school to fix myself, i went through the process of volunteering, working on side projects to develop my own skills which i added to my resume, and i read alot of books.Social_Leper said:Hey man. You’re in a tough position and it’s not easy motivating yourself when success seems so distant but trust me the fact you’re putting in the effort and critically analyzing where you could be going wrong puts you legions ahead of the other lemmings trying to find work.
Like I mentioned earlier I was in an even worse position than you, having graduated in 2010 with a 2.2 - equivalent to a sub 3.0 gpa. In the UK having a 2.2 is pretty much a death sentence. It was based on extenuating circumstances and I was fortunately accepted on to the masters program, where I proved it was a blip, but that’s another story.
You have (hopefully) a great first degree and an MBA so you have a lot to offer. I remember graduating in summer, feeling like I’d failed everyone, unemployed and frustrated at my self-imposed condition. But this experience along with my time in Asia and my failed oneitis are probably the most significant parts of my adult life. I wouldn't be where I am now without them. You define yourself by how you respond to the most trying moments in your life. The fact you’re here and hungry for success is a positive sign you’re not just willing to roll over like so many others.
I took over a year out before the masters and honestly this was probably more important in helping me secure the job I have now than all 4 years at uni. Real experience is irreplaceable. Sales is a great shout because you learn so many transferable skills. If you can sell cars then you can damn sure sell yourself in an interview when the stakes really matter.
Also, learn the art of spin. In a buyer’s market only a mug doesn't embellish. Shining **** and making it look like gold. Otherwise you will get left behind. My first job was basically cold calling executives across Europe and begging them to buy conference tickets. You think I put it like that on my CV. Nope. Instead I was a “Financial Sales Consultant” who “managed existing clients and rapidly developed business with new clients to maximize sales” and “developed efficient time management strategies to improve the number of sales calls per day which led to increased sales for the entire team”.
If you can’t find work, then volunteer. It demonstrates a strong work ethic and it’s something to fill up your CV. Again, think about the skills the employer is looking for and then spin it in a way that suggests volunteering has helped you develop these skills, showing evidence of having demonstrated the attributes they’re looking for.
Don't just say you have analytical skills. Give an example of a time you used them. Yes it's great that you learnt to programme in Java over summer but what does it mean to the employer? It shows you can pick up complex subjects quickly, that you're versatile and able to adapt to an increasingly IT centric work process. See what I did there? It’s all in the game.
Looking back I can see how A led to B, and B to C. My volunteering stint abroad helped me get a good sales job. The sales job equipped me with the skills necessary to sell myself well in interviews. And both roles gave me something other than my degree to talk about when I was going for graduate jobs I was actually interested in making a career out of. At the end of the interview of the firm I’m working at now, one of the interviewers said
“It’s so refreshing to hear someone talk about something other than how they learnt to manage their time well by writing their dissertation”
Finally be ready to face rejection. The brilliant thing about this site is how so many of the game principles can be used in other facets of your life. One of my favourite posts is from Atom Smasher on female rejection.
You need to live by this quote, because you will experience frequent and merciless rejection. Understand that this is a dynamic written in stone.
I applied for almost 60 jobs while studying 40+ hours in my masters year. And these weren’t half assed applications where I just throwed in my CV. No. We’re talking 5 hour applications. It's a numbers game and going through various application processes will only make you stronger and more experienced.
If you make 100 well thought out, targeted applications and haven't landed a job then you might have a reason to be worried. Your life should move in one direction. Forward. Soldier on.