A question, I need Don Juan advice...

[Wolfjay]

Hey everybody, wasn't here for a while, I guess I was longing..
I have a question to ask, hopefully someone or a few of u guys can help me out, here it goes:
I've been talking to this girl for a while, instant messaging, phone calls, she initiated contact with me since she got my IM ID, she tells me I'm cute and so on blah blah blah girly talk u know, at first I played like 'who r u' and so on, but eventually I asked her for her phone number, and she for mine.. after 3 days of chatting, I called her up, we spoke for a half hour, and basically the next few days were the same, chatting, flirty style dirty talk... But yesterday I decided to play bad boy or hard to get.. , I told her I'm not available, since it's 'ME' time now... She apologized for disturbing me... I replied to her text an hour later, I was always available to her whenever she wanted to talk.... , Till here's the story... Now here's my question, should I continue to be available for her or should I Ignore for an hour or so, or maybe ignore her for a day or 2, maybe act like I don't want her anymore? or maybe I should just play it naturally... I'm afraid she might pull back and not contact me again... I love her personality! How can I play the bad boy type with her? Please help!

 

[Dgwizdal]

Hot/cold - mix it up to increase her interest. Meet her and **** her. Game 101

 

[Wolfjay]

Tnx! She texts me everyday but hasn't texted me today yet... Seems to me that she thinks I lost interest in her.. Or maybe she in me I never texted her first, should I now?

 

[Harry Wilmington]

WHY THE HECK AREN'T YOU ASKING HER OUT YET??

I can already tell you where this thing's going to go if you keep doing your current actions - NOWHERE. You're going to call/text her everyday, and she's going to seem to enjoy it... and then one day, you're going to text her and she's not going to respond right away... and she's going to start responding less and less to your text/calls until she finally decides to ignore you altogether.

This is why I say: TEXTING KILLS RELATIONSHIPS.

Instead of being all chatty-cathy with her on the phone, you need to grow a pair and ask her out on an actual date. That's what she's waiting for you to do - you should be saving the majority of your conversations for when you're with her face to face, not on the phone. You being on the phone with her all day does NOT build interest. Get in her person and start building her interest in THAT way.

 

[Wolfjay]

I set up a date already already which is gonna be in 2 months from now, cuz I cannot leave work even for a half a day, and she lives 2 hrs away, I work like 15 hrs a day on my truck... She told me a few times she can't wait for that day...

 

[sph21]

But yesterday I decided to play bad boy or hard to get.. , I told her I'm not available, since it's 'ME' time now... She apologized for disturbing me... I replied to her text an hour later, I was always available to her whenever she wanted to talk

Why did you do that? That was a bad move. You just gave her the power over your relationship. You just killed her attraction to you by texting that message. You're no longer a challenge for her. If you tell her that you're busy, then don't contact her first. Let her initiate the communication.

 

[Wolfjay]

Never text her first? Or sometimes?

 

[Dgwizdal]

Read this and step your game up kid. Stop wasting time texting and playing footsie. Live by it.

http://heartiste.wordpress.com/the-sixteen-commandments-of-poon/

 

[Wolfjay]

THANKS! wow these are rules of gold! Thanks a million @Dgwizdal

 

[Skyline]

I set up a date already already which is gonna be in 2 months from now, cuz I cannot leave work even for a half a day, and she lives 2 hrs away, I work like 15 hrs a day on my truck... She told me a few times she can't wait for that day...

If you ordered a product from a store and you were told it was going to take around 2 months to be delivered, would you seriously wait? Or you would you hit up the next store and order it from there? Unless you're working on your text game, she is inconvenient to you. There's only so much messaging and phone calling you can do before she looses interest. Either make the time for her somehow or, find another girl, or spin plates.

This tip compilation only really works if you see the person being texting in person.

10 quick messaging tips:
1. Don't text her all day. Sometimes don't even initiate, this could mean you won't text all day.
2. Delay your responses (x2 of her sent message then follow up within a minute or two then go back to x2)
3. Never ask two questions in the same text.
4. Your texts should be no longer than 2 sentences unless you're telling her a story or joke.
5. How are you, hope you had, hope you're feeling well, etc... Should NEVER be used unless they're actually sick or something happened.
6. Don't overstep your boundaries. Meaning don't say or ask anything you wouldn't in person.
7. Be yourself. Faking a personality then meeting them in person only to have them find out you're different, is basically lying behind their back.
8. Serious discussions should not be taken seriously. Unless its a death or someones sick.
9. Actions speak louder than words. Texting gives women/men the power to talk and say/deny whatever they want because they never have to see your face.
10. Never spill your guts to her or share any emotional sh*t.

 

[JohnChops]

WHY THE HECK AREN'T YOU ASKING HER OUT YET??

I can already tell you where this thing's going to go if you keep doing your current actions - NOWHERE. You're going to call/text her everyday, and she's going to seem to enjoy it... and then one day, you're going to text her and she's not going to respond right away... and she's going to start responding less and less to your text/calls until she finally decides to ignore you altogether.

This is why I say: TEXTING KILLS RELATIONSHIPS.

Instead of being all chatty-cathy with her on the phone, you need to grow a pair and ask her out on an actual date. That's what she's waiting for you to do - you should be saving the majority of your conversations for when you're with her face to face, not on the phone. You being on the phone with her all day does NOT build interest. Get in her person and start building her interest in THAT way.

ugh that reminds me, i gotta stop texting this girl for a few days. good ol harry coming to the rescue

 

[Wolfjay]

Lol

 

[denverfan110]

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[Formerlyrossitheking]

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Yes. Meet her in fvcking person dude. As Harry says....texting kills. What is this 'bad boy' persona game your playing also? Reeks of something you read from a pua book. Just be your natural self. If she goes along with it. Great. If not- entertain a chick that's closer than 2 hours away.

 

[Wolfjay]

Holy crap, I met her and I ****ed her...

 

[Renegade357]

Oops, was gonna chew you out for carrying on a Manti Te'o virtual relationship then just saw that you met her. Nice job. That was fast. She must be a woman of high morals lol.

 

[Maximus Rex]

This is why I say: TEXTING KILLS RELATIONSHIPS.

But Harry according to the younger cats on this here board, chicks only communicate via text. There's a school of thought on here that all texting can lead to sex, anal, sloppy head in the back of a cab, menage action, relationships, and eventually marriage. Please give ole Rex some clarity on the subject.

you should be saving the majority of your conversations for when you're with her face to face, not on the phone. You being on the phone with her all day does NOT build interest. Get in her person and start building her interest in THAT way.

So why do the younger cats on So Suave SWEAR up and down that every thing can be done by texting? This poster said:

Its pretty easy, I see you're older than me (generation gap) but us youngins have pretty damn good text game...usually.

To which I replied, "text game," is a figment of your imagination. Meaning that it isn't text that's got her interested, it's what happened in the initial face-to-face conversation that got her fancy. Or are these cats using texting as a crutch to avoid dealing with women in person?

 

[denverfan110]

hah good sh1t but probably not a quality girl if that was all it took to get in her pants

but if pump n dump is your game, then pump away amigo

 

[Wolfjay]

I gotta say the experience was great... But she wasn't the girl I thought she is when I was talking to her over the phone.. Saw pics of her, but she looks totally different in person, but still ****ing hot