A question for all the DJ's!

[schaff]

First off I most say thanks to each and everyone of you for all that I have learnt from this site and also providing hours of entertainment at the same time.

I currently have a very attractive gf and thanks to this site have been able to keep her interest extremely high over the last 7months we have been dating exclusively.

My question is basically centered around other guys that you basically meet in random bar/clubs encounters which disrespect you in some way (could be in any fashion but is clearly a sign of disrespect). I basically don't live in the nicest of areas in the world and there are always a lot of guys out there that are out to make trouble and start fights. What is the best way to deal with this in front of your lady? I always get mixed signals from this site. Some people say stand up for yourself and retaliate other say brush it off cause your bigger than that. What would you do and what do you think women want you to do? Bear in mind that I am not the biggest guy in the world and in most situations I would face a kick in.

 

[CyranoDeBergerac]

Maintain your dignity, but bar-fights with guys just looking to get their rocks off are pretty much just so much misplaced agression anyway and there is no dignity in engaging in them. If you don't rise to the bait then someone else will. I see no reason to pursue.

There are times when standing up is compulsory. I'm white and I have a son with a black woman. Comments have been made. In the case you must be swift to defend your honor and that of your date. Keep in mind though that fighting is a last resort. Most conflicts can be resolved without violence either by clarifying or through politics (mocking this guy to show how much of an idiot he sounds like). In the end, I only swing if swung on because at that point the other guy has already committed himself to physical violence against me or my loved ones and the threat must be handled accordingly.

-CyranoDeBergerac

 

[CyranoDeBergerac]

Maintain your dignity, but bar-fights with guys just looking to get their rocks off are pretty much just so much misplaced agression anyway and there is no dignity in engaging in them. If you don't rise to the bait then someone else will. I see no reason to pursue.

There are times when standing up is compulsory. I'm white and I have a son with a black woman. Comments have been made. In the case you must be swift to defend your honor and that of your date. Keep in mind though that fighting is a last resort. Most conflicts can be resolved without violence either by clarifying or through politics (mocking this guy to show how much of an idiot he sounds like). In the end, I only swing if swung on because at that point the other guy has already committed himself to physical violence against me or my loved ones and the threat must be handled accordingly.

-CyranoDeBergerac

 

[masteralios]

there are times where you have to defend urself
but don't do it just to impress ur girl

remember-fights back in the days was just a punch around after school

now-a-days theres this gang **** and when they come after you with other men and guns and knifes
maybe not in ur area but here they do

and by no means have a fight with some known men around the area you live, cos u will someday bump into them as hard as u try to avoid it

 

[ToP DoN]

FIGHT

DONT TAKE **** FROM ANYONE...IF HE KICKS YOUR ASS...SUE THE **** OUT OF HIM AND PRESS CHARGES OF BATTERY

 

[schaff]

Alright masteralios. No where near as rough as London but live in the Essex area. Mostly ex Londoners and their kids. Most of em moved here due to the large number of Ethenic Minority groups populating in the city (you don't wanna be black around here, seen some seriously unfortunate **** in that respect). Knifings are regular, been a few shootings but yeah your right its rarely one on one.

Seriously pisses me off with the inability to have a one on one fight anymore. I'd have no problems with that cause its all fair play. Nothing worse than seeing somebody having their head stamped into the ground. Trouble is you can't even have words with half the people around cause they will be on the phone to a few mate and group attack you on the way home.

 

[schaff]

Re: FIGHT

Originally posted by ToP DoN
DONT TAKE **** FROM ANYONE...IF HE KICKS YOUR ASS...SUE THE **** OUT OF HIM AND PRESS CHARGES OF BATTERY

Erm yeah and risk my entire family when they find where I live and try a slightly harsh method of changing my mind to sue or even press police charges.

 

[TheRock]

My question to you is why are you putting yourself in these situations when you go out with your girl .Try to upgrade yourself and go to better places and meet better people. Be a thinker There comes a time though that you might have to stand up for yourself.

 

[NewMan]

I agree - go to better bars, clubs or whatever.

But to answer your question...

If you don't already, take some self defense classes. Also hit the gym.

A lot of it is how you carry yourself. I don't mean you should go and puff your chest out like some rooster - but you walk tall - your confident, you've got a look about you that tells other people "I know what the fvck I'm doing - and I'm not an easy mark".

This alone will ensure you avoid encounters.

Finally getting involved in physical violence should be the last resort.

If there one thing I have learn't it's that you never know who the other guy is - or what he knows.

There are many guys out there who have been getting involved in bar fights their entire life. No matter how long you've trained - there's nothing like the experience you gain from getting invovled in a fight. These guys have experience - and that's something that just can't be replaced.

Finally - If your GF insists you get involved in bar fights over stupid sh#t - then NEXT her quickly.