A Post on What Attracts Women

[ilikecharlene]

Be confident.

IMO, this is self-acceptance. If you're short, suck it up. Too tall, suck it up. Accept all strengths and weaknesses. Build on strengths and lessen weaknesses. Confidence too also is growth and self-improvement, showing that one only defines his limitations (and not others).

As for what women want, well what has traditionally defined a valuable man? Educated, handsome, strong, has power/money, etc. In essence, women want the Alpha male.

 

[bigneil]

It genuinely seems that today's women prefer 3 Beta's over one Alpha.

 

[Kattz]

Good looks always wins

 

[Ihateinitiatingalot7]

Good looks always wins

but even if a guy looks like Brad Pitt, David Beckham, Channing Tatum, etc. but he has no confidence, has low self-esteem, is insecure, has no life, is boring, he will get rejected instantly.

 

[DonGorgon]

Looks money and fame..

 

[Who Dares Win]

Enough with this bvll**** please.

Self-confidence comes ONLY from success, you cannot decide to be self confident, you become it when you win.

A guy with a good genetic whos good looking is proven to receive more attention from his teachers in early school so people is friendly toward him in general, therefore he find himself more likely to succeed in school marks and in relationships, there begin a snowball effect where a lucky fvcker gets confident and confident more and more simply due to a casual condition at birth and what comes from it.
A good looking individual receive also more attention from his parents, that is a base of self-confidence as much, most of the guys here have problem mostly because their parents first didnt believe in their success, they
mostly were told since kids to "be nice so people would have love them" as if being themselves was not good enough, subconsciously you interiorize those messages, do you think cool kids get told from parents or teachers
to do something to be loved?

If a guy is short,bald and skinny fat, how the fvck is possible he can be self-confident? even if he create a super invention that makes him rich, all the girls and people will look away if afraid of being approached from him.

Self-confidence is a collateral of being good in general, self-confidence is attractive to women because only winners are self-confident, its not different than the mercedes symbol on the top of a mercedes.

What attract women is look and success, self confidence is only the interiorized manifestation of those.

 

[DonGorgon]

Enough with this bvll**** please.

Self-confidence comes ONLY from success, you cannot decide to be self confident, you become it when you win.

A guy with a good genetic whos good looking is proven to receive more attention from his teacher in early school so people is friendly toward him in general, therefore he find himself more likely to succeed in school marks and in relationships, there begin a snowball effect where a lucky fvcker gets confident and confident more and more simply due to a casual condition.

If a guy is short,bald and skinny fat, how the fvck is possible he can be self-confident? even if he create a super invention that makes him rich, all the girls and people will look away if afraid of being approached from him.

Self-confidence is a collateral of being good in general, self-confidence is attractive to women because only winners are self-confident, its not different than the mercedes symbol on the top of a mercedes.

What attract women is look and success, self confidence is only the interiorized manifestation of those.

1000% true... well stated

 

[Naughty Ninja]

The most important tool that a man must have is self-confidence. You must be sure of yourself. Confidence is portrayed in your words and in your nonverbal actions. It is all about ho you carry yourself. When you have this assurance of yourself you can get away with saying a lot of things. A man must be decisive and being indecisive will make you look weak and make you look like you don't have confidence.

I'd like to add that I believe a lot of what attracts females is nonverbal. The way you carry yourself says more about you then any words that you can say!

Looks do matter but not as importantly as everyone thinks it is. Girls do not put as much emphasis on looks as guys do. Especially girls that aren't teenagers. and feature wise you guys shouldn't worry too much about it either. If you look like chubaka, unless you have millions of dollars to get surgery then why worry about it like a female would worry about herself?.... If you are so ugly and you still think that that is the reason your not getting girls then I suggest you to get off this website, make millions of dollars and get surgery.

What you change about your looks is the way you dress. You must take pride in how you dress and this will exude that you do have confidence. Confidence should not come through material items such as things, money, cars, job, etc. It should be in what you know: and this is GAME.

You got to be confident when your out their campaigning. You think Obama got elected because he was saying nonsense? No, he knew what he was talking about so he as confident when he said it. Same thing with any salesperson. The confident salesperson is someone who knows about the product.

What attracts women?

1) Of course looking and dressing your best.

2) Being immune to the nonsense. Keeping the fantasies in your mind of the 'hottie' and you becoming a couple in check. Deal with what is not what you want it to be. Don't ignore red flags and sacrifice your self respect just because you think she's 'hawt'. (Chicks usually expect a dude to be a horny guy who is a mental puppet that can easily be controlled by her precious pvssy.) Once you become immune to the nonsense and the game attempts they realize they can't fvck with you like the rest.

3) Being truly confident in yourself. (not a ****y, loud mouthed a-hole who fakes confidence.) Keeping your ego and emotions in check at all times when possible.

4) Seeking to improve yourself to be the best person you can be in life, work, and relationships and not expecting to improve yourself to get something out of any chick. IE: (Like a nice guy expects all women to like, be nice, and want to date them simply because they themselves are such a 'nice' guy.)

5) Having a sense of humor though not being a constant clown to amuse people. Making people laugh is good. Being a clown says this isn't a guy who can be serious when need be.

6) Take 'rejection' as a learning experience and grow from it. Most people claim they are afraid of rejection but really aren't. They are really afraid of acceptance. Because with acceptance comes the actual work of a relationship and meeting each others friends and families and seeing the real person in the two of us and not the fantasy version of 'perfect' we've made based on looks or a daydream we live in our minds. (When you master that you become calmer and chicks sense it...and become curious as you then don't wind up blowing up at them nor mind if they rejected you and it shows them you aren't the type to get all 'emo' over no's or not getting your way all the time.)

7) Keeping yourself busy, having your own life, hobbies, interests and things going for you. No need to tell people about them like on Flakebook. You simply just DO them.

8) Never seek validation from women and or others. Trust if you are seen as seeking validation from a chick even if she is attracted to you by asking her what she likes about you..it will start to subconsciously turn her off as in her mind she'll see you as needing validation from her and possily others rather than a dude who just 'knows' he's a good catch.

 

[ilikecharlene]

Enough with this bvll**** please.

Self-confidence comes ONLY from success, you cannot decide to be self confident, you become it when you win.

A guy with a good genetic whos good looking is proven to receive more attention from his teachers in early school so people is friendly toward him in general, therefore he find himself more likely to succeed in school marks and in relationships, there begin a snowball effect where a lucky fvcker gets confident and confident more and more simply due to a casual condition at birth and what comes from it.
A good looking individual receive also more attention from his parents, that is a base of self-confidence as much, most of the guys here have problem mostly because their parents first didnt believe in their success, they
mostly were told since kids to "be nice so people would have love them" as if being themselves was not good enough, subconsciously you interiorize those messages, do you think cool kids get told from parents or teachers
to do something to be loved?

If a guy is short,bald and skinny fat, how the fvck is possible he can be self-confident? even if he create a super invention that makes him rich, all the girls and people will look away if afraid of being approached from him.

Self-confidence is a collateral of being good in general, self-confidence is attractive to women because only winners are self-confident, its not different than the mercedes symbol on the top of a mercedes.

What attract women is look and success, self confidence is only the interiorized manifestation of those.

I'd say that's unhealthy confidence. It should from within, not validation by others.

 

[PrettyBoyAJ]

A man in good physical shape and a good sense of fashion is attractive to females. So if you think your ugly as hell then get your butt in the weight room and get into good physical shape.

Good input Ninja. Good stuff playboy.

To Who Dares Win:

Confidence should come from within. It shouldn't come from your materials. Because what happens if you lose those materials? Real confidence starts from within and materiel things can help amplify that confidence from within.

True Confidence comes from internal validation not from the material things that you have achieved. When you are successful at something you internalize that your good at it. This is why you get confidence. Material items are usually a reflection of your success.

At my high school the good looking people were the dumbest. The ugly people were the ones that were in the book. The nerds never got girls but they did get their A's so I don't know where you got that stuff from.

A guy who is short and bald can get confidence by focusing on his strong suits. If he is a bum he probably will have low confidence. I bet you Danny DeVito was confident because he knew he was a good actor and put in work.

 

[MasterFuu]

Confidence.

I've experienced this myself on days I feel confident I can impress a girl and days when I feel under the weather it's complete dry season. I've had this discussion with women before and most of them agree a confident man is a sexy man. Just like you would find a confident woman attractive. She might not even be so pretty but it's all about her she carries herself. If you feel like million bucks you are worth a million bucks.

For example at my job there are quite few ladies and there is this one she is absolutely stunning 9.5. But every time she walks past the window she checks herself out. The way she walks her head down... it's not sexy. And there is this one 6.5 she just shines every day. Very attractive. If I had to chose which one to date I'd honestly go with the 6.5

 

[Who Dares Win]

A man in good physical shape and a good sense of fashion is attractive to females. So if you think your ugly as hell then get your butt in the weight room and get into good physical shape.

Good input Ninja. Good stuff playboy.

To Who Dares Win:

Confidence should come from within. It shouldn't come from your materials. Because what happens if you lose those materials? Real confidence starts from within and materiel things can help amplify that confidence from within.

True Confidence comes from internal validation not from the material things that you have achieved. When you are successful at something you internalize that your good at it. This is why you get confidence. Material items are usually a reflection of your success.

At my high school the good looking people were the dumbest. The ugly people were the ones that were in the book. The nerds never got girls but they did get their A's so I don't know where you got that stuff from.

A guy who is short and bald can get confidence by focusing on his strong suits. If he is a bum he probably will have low confidence. I bet you Danny DeVito was confident because he knew he was a good actor and put in work.

Danny devito is not fvcking a a different models everyweek nor he toke part as leading role in blockbuster movies, he was just the funny guy.

So he either is not confident or if he is confident, his confidence lead him nowhere special since he had nothing to back it up.

I fail to see your concepts of "interiorized confidence" , I say confidence comes from past success that confirms your own value and from feebacks from people, what do you guys actually say as opposed to my view?

I mean you and Ilikecharlene.

 

[PrettyBoyAJ]

I've met plenty of people who were successful at things but they had problems internalizing it. These cats weren't confident but they were successful. On the other hand I've seen people who weren't that good at things but they internalized that they were good at it. These people were confident as hell.

I'm saying that confidence comes from internalizing that you are good, actually believing and trusting in your self. Success will definitely help it but only if you internalize it.

 

[Ihateinitiatingalot7]

What attracts women?

1) Of course looking and dressing your best.

2) Being immune to the nonsense. Keeping the fantasies in your mind of the 'hottie' and you becoming a couple in check. Deal with what is not what you want it to be. Don't ignore red flags and sacrifice your self respect just because you think she's 'hawt'. (Chicks usually expect a dude to be a horny guy who is a mental puppet that can easily be controlled by her precious pvssy.) Once you become immune to the nonsense and the game attempts they realize they can't fvck with you like the rest.

3) Being truly confident in yourself. (not a ****y, loud mouthed a-hole who fakes confidence.) Keeping your ego and emotions in check at all times when possible.

4) Seeking to improve yourself to be the best person you can be in life, work, and relationships and not expecting to improve yourself to get something out of any chick. IE: (Like a nice guy expects all women to like, be nice, and want to date them simply because they themselves are such a 'nice' guy.)

5) Having a sense of humor though not being a constant clown to amuse people. Making people laugh is good. Being a clown says this isn't a guy who can be serious when need be.

6) Take 'rejection' as a learning experience and grow from it. Most people claim they are afraid of rejection but really aren't. They are really afraid of acceptance. Because with acceptance comes the actual work of a relationship and meeting each others friends and families and seeing the real person in the two of us and not the fantasy version of 'perfect' we've made based on looks or a daydream we live in our minds. (When you master that you become calmer and chicks sense it...and become curious as you then don't wind up blowing up at them nor mind if they rejected you and it shows them you aren't the type to get all 'emo' over no's or not getting your way all the time.)

7) Keeping yourself busy, having your own life, hobbies, interests and things going for you. No need to tell people about them like on Flakebook. You simply just DO them.

8) Never seek validation from women and or others. Trust if you are seen as seeking validation from a chick even if she is attracted to you by asking her what she likes about you..it will start to subconsciously turn her off as in her mind she'll see you as needing validation from her and possily others rather than a dude who just 'knows' he's a good catch.

why is it more important for guys to have those qualities than it is for girls? it's like a girl can be a loser and still get a guy, but guys can't be a loser and get a girl.

 

[Ihateinitiatingalot7]

why are women attracted to man's confidence, character, attitude, social-status, social-skills, conversation-skills way more than his looks?

 

[ilikecharlene]

Danny devito is not fvcking a a different models everyweek nor he toke part as leading role in blockbuster movies, he was just the funny guy.

So he either is not confident or if he is confident, his confidence lead him nowhere special since he had nothing to back it up.

I fail to see your concepts of "interiorized confidence" , I say confidence comes from past success that confirms your own value and from feebacks from people, what do you guys actually say as opposed to my view?

I mean you and Ilikecharlene.

From experience, and largely from basic psychology (,i.e. what psychologists teach).

Self-esteem is just thinking positively of one's self. it's not externally validated. Are good looking people more confident? maybe. However, there are some good looking people who have self-esteem issues.

 

[PrettyBoyAJ]

why are women attracted to man's confidence, character, attitude, social-status, social-skills, conversation-skills way more than his looks?

Girls want to be lead. That's why.

 

[Ihateinitiatingalot7]

Girls want to be lead. That's why.

and wouldn't they want a good-looking guy to lead?

 

[PrettyBoyAJ]

She would want a guy that has power to lead over a good-looking guy.

 

[Ihateinitiatingalot7]

She would want a guy that has power to lead over a good-looking guy.

and i take it that is a good thing?