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AJ84
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Ouch. That’s horrible.Understood. She will generally be trying on (sex) with the different prospects. I’m sure that’s not always true, but generally so.
Women are master plate spinners. Men as a rule are really gullible enough to think she’s only seeing him (only sex with him). I even know one guy who actually proposed to a young woman who proceeded to tell him that she had not agreed to exclusivity, nor had it ever come up during their times together. Quite the blow to him. Talk about a slap of reality. Lol
There’s a lot of talk here on not investing, not giving anything, getting her to earn it first and that makes sense.
But a lot of women have the same mindset. So two opposing forces trying not to invest and feeling each other out, but not communicating any of this, just copying each other.
Especially women who have been burned before. Just like guys here who have been burned and they develop insight and strategies to try to prevent a repeat of that. Of course when women do the same thing they are called damaged or alpha widowed because they refuse to blindly open their hearts and jump in with both feet again after being hurt by a guy, but that’s another topic on double standards.
I like how Amante is doing it, he’s being totally upfront and not afraid to lose them and it seems he is experiencing less bs because of it. Plus, he finds like minded women.
That actually takes guts, not lying and leading her on, which always comes from a place fear of losing her because if it didn’t, why lie and lead her on?
To me, I would think that it’s actually easier to spin those plates when you’re on the up and up, and the bonus is you can hold them accountable to their own drama if they get bent over the situation because they already knew, going in, where they stood.