(part 1)
hey, i came across this & found it to be very interesting, so i thought i would share it with you...
** HOW TO TURN YOUR GIRL "FRIEND" INTO YOUR GIRLFRIEND! **
by Allen Thompson
So you've met the girl of your dreams, the one that makes your heart
go apitter-patter, the one you intend to marry and churn out midgets
with, the one you've been waiting for your entire life.
The only problem is, you're not the man of her dreams. Oh she likes
you okay, doesn't mind spending a little time with you now and then,
but doesn't want to have a romantic relationship with you. She wants
to be "just friends." Arrggghh!
I feel your pain, brother.
One of the most common questions I get from Don Juaners is how to go
about turning a friendship into a love relationship. How to charm
this girl that you know, this girl that you fantasize about, the one
who wants to be "just friends." How to make her fall head over heels
for you and, perhaps even, start her thinking a few deliciously
lustful thoughts about your derriere (the tramp!).
Well, I'll tell you right up front, there is no ONE technique. No ONE
method or secret that will get her awantin' you bad. It's a
combination of hundreds of little things. Everything you do,
everything you say, everything you think, and everything you believe
make up your PERSONALITY. And it's your personality which will be the
impetus for her liking you, loving you, or even hating you.
Remember, your dream girl's no idiot. She wants the total package.
She's not going to fall for some dopey little trick you picked up some
place on the internet. However, she may fall for hundreds of dopey
little tricks that you've mastered and incorporated into your own
unique personality.
Now given that you understand the "total package" concept, there are
definitely a few things that you can do - focus on - which can help
you out in this area. Things which will greatly increase the
probability of her experiencing the desired emotional response toward
you (that being increased liking, increased attraction, and maybe even
love).
Today we're going to discuss a psychological phenomenon known as
Response Facilitation (RF). RF refers to the process of strengthening
the dominant response in a particular situation. For our purposes
here, we're going to use it to refer to the strengthening of emotional
responses. In other words, making that girl who sorta likes you,
REALLY like you. And making that girl who sees you as a "friend," see
you as, maybe, a little more than that.
However, keep in mind that RF can work in other, unwanted directions
as well. That is, you could take a girl who dislikes you, and make
her REALLY dislike you. Take a girl who is angry at you, and make her
REALLY angry at you. Or a girl who is afraid of you, and make her
REALLY afraid of you. In other words, an intensification of her
dominant emotional response toward you. So beware.
So how can we intensify emotional responses via RF?
Well, before we get into that, let's briefly delve into the nature of
emotions themselves.
Emotions basically consist of two parts: a cognitive component (what
you're thinking) and a physiological component (what you're feeling).
The cognitive, thinking component determines WHAT emotion you're
feeling... while the physiological, feeling component determines the
INTENSITY of that emotion.
For example, if you're angry with someone, you're thinking all kinds
of "angry" thoughts about that person (He's an idiot! This is not
fair! I'm going to kill him!). You're also experiencing certain
physiological sensations throughout your body that indicate to you
that you're a little more than just displeased (increased heart rate,
increased blood pressure, mild sweating, adrenaline surging throughout
your veins, etc.). And the more intense the physiological aspects
become, the angrier you FEEL.
Okay, so how about love? You meet the girl of your dreams, and you
begin thinking: "My God, she's beautiful. She's adorable, charming,
and witty. I think I'm in love!" Your body also begins a somewhat
automatic reaction to her presence... or maybe even just the thought
of her (increased heart rate, increased blood pressure, mild sweating,
adrenaline surging throughout your veins, etc.). And the more
intensely your body reacts, the more "in love" you feel. And what a
wonderful feeling it is.
So... notice anything interesting about the two emotions above? Yes,
the physiological components are pretty much the same. The difference
between being extremely angry, and being in a state of infatuation or
love, has more to do with the cognitive, thinking component, than with
the physiological, "feeling" component. You're thinking "angry"
thoughts in the first example, and "love" thoughts in the second.
Your body is reacting pretty much the same in both instances. And the
more intensely your body reacts, the more "angry" or "in love" you
feel. (Ever heard that saying that there's a fine line between love
and hate?)
Now we're not saying that the physiological response is EXACTLY the
same. It's not. But for our purposes here, they're similar enough
that we can treat them as if they're the same.
So the "secret" is that we can use states of physiological arousal to
intensify emotional responses. Remember, the arousal part of emotions
is pretty similar from one emotion to the next, and the amount of
arousal present determines the INTENSITY of the experienced emotion.
Thus, it would be to our benefit to set up situations where our "dream
girl" is highly likely to experience increased levels of arousal, and
to pair ourselves with that arousal.
So, in a nutshell, we should be able to take a girl who likes us (mild
physiological arousal when we're around) and make her REALLY like us,
by adding "extra" arousal to the situation. The extra arousal will
summate with that arousal which is already present so as to increase
the intensity of her emotional response toward us.
hey, i came across this & found it to be very interesting, so i thought i would share it with you...
** HOW TO TURN YOUR GIRL "FRIEND" INTO YOUR GIRLFRIEND! **
by Allen Thompson
So you've met the girl of your dreams, the one that makes your heart
go apitter-patter, the one you intend to marry and churn out midgets
with, the one you've been waiting for your entire life.
The only problem is, you're not the man of her dreams. Oh she likes
you okay, doesn't mind spending a little time with you now and then,
but doesn't want to have a romantic relationship with you. She wants
to be "just friends." Arrggghh!
I feel your pain, brother.
One of the most common questions I get from Don Juaners is how to go
about turning a friendship into a love relationship. How to charm
this girl that you know, this girl that you fantasize about, the one
who wants to be "just friends." How to make her fall head over heels
for you and, perhaps even, start her thinking a few deliciously
lustful thoughts about your derriere (the tramp!).
Well, I'll tell you right up front, there is no ONE technique. No ONE
method or secret that will get her awantin' you bad. It's a
combination of hundreds of little things. Everything you do,
everything you say, everything you think, and everything you believe
make up your PERSONALITY. And it's your personality which will be the
impetus for her liking you, loving you, or even hating you.
Remember, your dream girl's no idiot. She wants the total package.
She's not going to fall for some dopey little trick you picked up some
place on the internet. However, she may fall for hundreds of dopey
little tricks that you've mastered and incorporated into your own
unique personality.
Now given that you understand the "total package" concept, there are
definitely a few things that you can do - focus on - which can help
you out in this area. Things which will greatly increase the
probability of her experiencing the desired emotional response toward
you (that being increased liking, increased attraction, and maybe even
love).
Today we're going to discuss a psychological phenomenon known as
Response Facilitation (RF). RF refers to the process of strengthening
the dominant response in a particular situation. For our purposes
here, we're going to use it to refer to the strengthening of emotional
responses. In other words, making that girl who sorta likes you,
REALLY like you. And making that girl who sees you as a "friend," see
you as, maybe, a little more than that.
However, keep in mind that RF can work in other, unwanted directions
as well. That is, you could take a girl who dislikes you, and make
her REALLY dislike you. Take a girl who is angry at you, and make her
REALLY angry at you. Or a girl who is afraid of you, and make her
REALLY afraid of you. In other words, an intensification of her
dominant emotional response toward you. So beware.
So how can we intensify emotional responses via RF?
Well, before we get into that, let's briefly delve into the nature of
emotions themselves.
Emotions basically consist of two parts: a cognitive component (what
you're thinking) and a physiological component (what you're feeling).
The cognitive, thinking component determines WHAT emotion you're
feeling... while the physiological, feeling component determines the
INTENSITY of that emotion.
For example, if you're angry with someone, you're thinking all kinds
of "angry" thoughts about that person (He's an idiot! This is not
fair! I'm going to kill him!). You're also experiencing certain
physiological sensations throughout your body that indicate to you
that you're a little more than just displeased (increased heart rate,
increased blood pressure, mild sweating, adrenaline surging throughout
your veins, etc.). And the more intense the physiological aspects
become, the angrier you FEEL.
Okay, so how about love? You meet the girl of your dreams, and you
begin thinking: "My God, she's beautiful. She's adorable, charming,
and witty. I think I'm in love!" Your body also begins a somewhat
automatic reaction to her presence... or maybe even just the thought
of her (increased heart rate, increased blood pressure, mild sweating,
adrenaline surging throughout your veins, etc.). And the more
intensely your body reacts, the more "in love" you feel. And what a
wonderful feeling it is.
So... notice anything interesting about the two emotions above? Yes,
the physiological components are pretty much the same. The difference
between being extremely angry, and being in a state of infatuation or
love, has more to do with the cognitive, thinking component, than with
the physiological, "feeling" component. You're thinking "angry"
thoughts in the first example, and "love" thoughts in the second.
Your body is reacting pretty much the same in both instances. And the
more intensely your body reacts, the more "angry" or "in love" you
feel. (Ever heard that saying that there's a fine line between love
and hate?)
Now we're not saying that the physiological response is EXACTLY the
same. It's not. But for our purposes here, they're similar enough
that we can treat them as if they're the same.
So the "secret" is that we can use states of physiological arousal to
intensify emotional responses. Remember, the arousal part of emotions
is pretty similar from one emotion to the next, and the amount of
arousal present determines the INTENSITY of the experienced emotion.
Thus, it would be to our benefit to set up situations where our "dream
girl" is highly likely to experience increased levels of arousal, and
to pair ourselves with that arousal.
So, in a nutshell, we should be able to take a girl who likes us (mild
physiological arousal when we're around) and make her REALLY like us,
by adding "extra" arousal to the situation. The extra arousal will
summate with that arousal which is already present so as to increase
the intensity of her emotional response toward us.
