A man's Ultimate VALUE...

Distant Light

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This is a cross post that I made on another forum. I'm not sure how useful it will be on this forum due to the different outlooks but hey...

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...your personality

This is bigger than what she has to offer. When I think about all the chicks I attracted or even read FRs from some of you guys it makes me think "Wow these chicks have to be lucky for guys like us to talk to them" because it truly is a whole different experience.

It's only when I stopped responding to outside pressure and just stuck to being who I am and conveying my personality, its only then that I realize "****! All these chicks who I don't approach are missing out"

Your personality in itself is "Unlimited" value in itself. Some traits I've seen girls take on as a result of gaming.
- Sexually comfortable
- Positive
- Happier
- Suspense
- Memorable experiences
- Feels like a better person

Ever watched the documentary "Tale of an Osaka love theif" its sort of like that. She gets pulled into this shared reality that to her is fabolous, she feels like the best woman in the world because of the guys personality. In the documentary these chicks want to marry the guys, pay thousands of dollars just to spend time with him. When you see them it really does look like there having fun.

So when it comes down to who has more to offer. The start of the interaction all that she has is "Sex" which might be more to a person who has a crappy personality. But a guy who has a great personality and knows how to convey it properly, they can offer there personality to the world. Personality is so broad.

Your personality cause certain effects
- The emotions people feel
- The type of experiences you give them
- The good times the people have had with you
- The connections people build from you
- The persons perception of reality when around you

Now if you look at sex all it really gives you is a pleasure. (Were not even talking about the validation, or emotions, or even what connections could maybe be built) Basically you **** and explode, it's like a high. Meanwhile personality is so dynamic because to the girl it could be a great experience just for a guy to hold her on a day2 and making out. Him taking her on wild adventures.

To the girl she's loving the whole experience, meanwhile most of us guys are just focusing on getting our **** in one of those holes.

Ever vibing with a girl and then just sit there and actually soak up the experience. You see the girl and she's laughing and is actually loving the interaction for what it is. She wants you to love the interaction too, but no you can't because your doing it in hopes of getting sex later on. (Yea your ****ed up)

Its funny that I'm thinking like this now because when I was younger I was just a kid who was bitter to chicks and just wanted to run trains. But now when I interact with chicks and I see them lighting up and really having a great time with me because of "Who I am" it kind of makes me think "Damn I really was ****ed up when I was smaller".

But it's not to say she doesn't even like sex, because yes she do, and she might even be horny and want you, but the thing is she loves the OVERALL EXPERIENCE meanwhile you just going along to get "SEX".

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Example

Imagine having a blast with a chick, in a amusement park, joking around, pushing her down the slide, taking roller coasters and laughing at the pictures, challenging each other, joking about how each other was screaming on the ride, splashing water in each other face, kissing her each time you guys win a contest, etc.

Now imagine the whole time she was feeling like there was actually a guy who wasn't just here to **** her, he was actually having fun and just going with the flow. She was having a blast, she never had such a great experience with a guy, and when you got home you both had sex which to her was the best sex ever due to the sexual tension built up all day.

Now imagine the whole time the guy was just reading all this from his "to do" list, because he's done this 10 times to 10 different girls. All he was doing was trying to get his **** in a warm wet hole. He's been doing this so much he knows when to laugh. It's not really him laughing but his "Act" to get to sex.

Now imagine you magically took a "truth" pill and she asks you about that experience she had with you. Then you start talking about how you weren't really having for with the interaction for what it was. All you was doing was trying to get to sex. All those laughs and giggles was only to **** her. If you didn't want sex you really wouldn't have even done all that because you hate amusement parks.

In the end you realize the value of having a great personality. That **** is so important and this month I've really learned to respect that my personality is something that is extraordinary. It has unlimited value. One of the biggest thing is that your Personality is truly "Authentic" because that same girl will have 10 different experiences being with 10 different guys regardless how similar each guy is.

I'm kind of *****ing up in my house right now, but this is the first time I've actually really talked about this, because I used to hide my personality alot from majority of the girls. Especially when cold approaching.

This got longer than I expected but I'm going to roll with it...

...You don't know how many billions of girls want to find a guy like we are becoming. Some of us focus on just trying to get sex that we forget about the whole experience that lead to it. It's almost like a movie where you see the beginning and it just cuts the whole scene to the sex part. The whole interaction was a blur to you, but if you asked where is the rest of the scene the chick could tell you all the great experiences. (If not the actually things said, the emotions and feelings she felt at that moment) Most of these chicks are out there just waiting for that wild ride.

One thing that really hits me now is that dudes just got to step up. Focus on the interaction for what it is and just show the girl your personality and make her see your world.

Were here getting AA and stuff when the chicks want to be opened. I don't care if they have a BF, if there ipod is on, if 20 dudes are protecting her, she wants to have a fun interaction for what it's for, and not guys reacting and trying all these stuff just to try and get sex.

My Experience

I only really experienced a 100% Pure Interaction when I was talking to this one girl. I never really focused on ****ing her only time I'd think about it was when a friend would ask "Are you going to **** her" but when I was with her I was so just focused on the interaction that I could care less if I had sex, if it happened it happened. So the whole time I was just conveying my personality and escalating. I'd also qualify her and stuff. But the whole interaction was real. I wasn't faking no laughs or anything. If I really didn't like something I just gave her less attention. Then one day she wanted it bad but at this time a friend asked if he could try to **** her and I said "sure go ahead" because I really didn't care. So I stopped escalating because I never escalate on chicks who my friends are going for. But she already wanted it, she seen enough of my personality. For 3-4 hours we hung out and I could see she was getting pissed because I was no longer escalating and I wouldn't isolate her. (I purposely took the crowded routes) That day I seen her getting sad, not in the sad as if someone died but the sad like "You let me down, I liked all the interactions". She even hung out with my friends when she was with my friend and she would look "BORED" to the point I felt like "WTF why'd you stop! Can't you see she's BORED out her ass and wants to talk to you." From my point of view it looked like all she was doing was standing there talking. When he hung with me she would never come up to chat with him. He labeled her "A good girl" because he hasn't had much progress yet, but I knew the deal.

After seeing that first hand, the experiences, and interactions we had. It made me feel like I was the bad guy because I still liked her. This wasn't a case of oneitis, because I never was thinking ahead as if she was fuvkbuddy material, or long term material, and I was never really thinking about her. I had for the first time felt like "Wow I'm having a great time talking this girl". I was actually focused on the interaction for what it was and just conveying my personality. It was the best feeling ever. Other times I was doing things to get to a goal.

In Closing

What I think it comes down to is realizing that your "Personality" makes you high value in itself. Why? Because it's exclusive to you. It's a limited edition "Personality" only 1 was ever created out of the billions. Realize your "Personality" is Major. Your Personality is your mindset, beliefs, behaviors, frames, etc.

If you realize this there is no way to hold back from approaching because you know the girl is going to be Happy that you talked to her becuse she never met a guy like you. (If it's your real personality then she hasn't) Think about it most guys react and act a different way, a way that they think they should act in the situation, mainly based from social conditioning. So it's obvious many guys will act the same way in that situation if they are reacting, but if they didn't then they would all act differently.

So next time you see a girl don't be scared, don't think about sex, focus on the whole experience, the good, the bad, the ugly, and soak it all up like its your last day alive. Sex will happen regardless because she is going to want it, it's not like she doesn't like sex.

"I weep for everyone who I don't interact with, because they will never meet a guy like me."
 

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Actually this

theory resonates very well with my situation, as I always had great personality, what I lacked was the drive to approach, and my grooming which I improved dramatically and now that those two things are under control, I have girls hovering over me day after day...

Still Your post has given me a reason to continue being my true self that has so much to offer, and its unique in it self..
 

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dammit, post it in Tips, man...seriously. This is the Discussion Forum.

And that's a compliment, not just my being a stickler.

This good post will get pushed off the board within 24 hrs. Think before you post!
 

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Canadien said:
theory resonates very well with my situation, as I always had great personality, what I lacked was the drive to approach, and my grooming which I improved dramatically and now that those two things are under control, I have girls hovering over me day after day...

Still Your post has given me a reason to continue being my true self that has so much to offer, and its unique in it self..
Yep, that is what really sets the ok guys to the guys who are actually doing it up. I see many guys who are just going through the motions trying to pull some ass and there not really in the interaction.

It used to trip me how I'd see girls having a great time with me but right when I leave and see her talking to someone else she seems so bored and keeps looking my direction as if she was saying "Help me".

Guys just place too much on having sex and forget that there personality is more valuable then sex. There isn't anything superficial needed because everyone's personality is different.

The craziest thing that used to trip me up was how chicks I knew who had DDs and bigger used to always be comfortable showing massive cleavage around me, one chick was even digging all in her bra fix her breast and just to give a chode a sigt at them, I motioned him to move up and see. (It wasn't the first time a chick has done that in front of me)

I remember another chick laying down talking to me and her breast were basically ready to fall out...

Me - I'm just having fun and just hanging out with her and talking
Chode - He sees something he likes and is all over it so he feels the need to lick his finger and try to touch her breast

This got to me after awhile because you fully realize that if you don't give a fuk about sex then the girl will be happy and sex will happen, it has too because she is horny and your just a guy who is comfortable touching.

Another thing is the whole frame of the interaction...

Is it to try to meet her so you can get her to be your girlfriend or have sex?
Is it because you seen a girl who you wanted to talk, so your just having fun in the interaction and going through the motions of the interaction?

You can tell when a guy isn't going to get that good because he hates picking up. He dislikes going out and talking to women. He makes women walk by and he says nothing. He is worried about getting rejected, he needs techniques. He isn't confident that his personality is what will get a woman attracted.

Seriously think about your approach, when your going up to these chicks are you giving up your power?

Are you going in offering value or are you going in "Hey what's sup?" and just sit there hoping she'll carry the conversation? Are you doing all these "attraction" stuff for your own amusement? or ar you trying to get a response from her?

I nice little exercise I've been doing is going in and trying to do a bad approach, doing everything wrong and just staying in the set. It isn't actually that bad, and you can actually get away with more than you actually thought you could've gotten away with. (The "Face lick" opener comes to mind :crackup: )

My last words is that, I feel bad for the dudes who don't go out and practice and actually enjoy themselves and have fun going through the whole process. I am sure that if you instantly just become this pimp your going to hate it because it wasn't much hard work.

1-2 years from now your going to be thinking of all your crazy nights, good and bad and your going to laugh and be in awe at certain things you've said, done, and experienced. That is what this game is about. Not fuking the girl? why? Because you already know that is going to happen regardless so its no need to focus on it.

Don't rush the process guys, have fun!
 
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