RandomGuy22
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This is gonna be a long post, where i let everything out... thanks for bearing with me guys.
Ok... if you've been keeping up with me, you'll know my story, but if not here's a brief synopsis.
About 3 months ago, I met a senior girl (we'll call her "joan"). Now, up until this year i was a MAJOR AFC, i had bad oneitis for freshman and sophomore year, and neve thought i'd get over that girl, but this year iw as out going, flirted with girls, and met joan. She was awesome, and for some strange reason she liked me back. Well it all started when one day, me and all my friends went to see a movie. In math class i asked joan, JOKINGLY if she wanted to go, the movie was at such and such at X time. She said "haha maybe". Well i didn't expect her to show at all, in fact i had completely forgotten i invited her.. but come time for the movie, low and behold she was there? Afterwards i rode with her to this park place, because my friends and I were all going to play tennis, and i asked if she wanted to go. She did. We got there earlier than everyone else, and walked and talked and it felt great. For the first time, i thought i was gonna have a girlfriend. SO as the night passed, i got her number and said i'd call her over the weekend and we'd hang out. She said ok.
Next day, i call and we agree to go out that night. I'm hella excited and i was my car get it clean in and out, all day i spend getting ready. That night she didn't call me to tell her waht time to pick her up, and on AIM she tells me that her parents at the last minute were making her go to an engagement. So i was like ok, raincheck, but yeah i was kinda bummed. I thought she lost interest.
WEll.... next weekend we did in fact rain checka nd we went out, on what i am proud to say was my first official date with a girl, ever. I picked her up, we ate dinner, went to this haunted house thing and then a movie. It was one of the best nights of my life. I was realy falling for this girl, she was funny, cute (HB.. 7 or 8), smart, cool to hang out with. So we continued like that for like 4 weeks. Every weekend we'd hang out on at least one day... and we talked every night on aim (i think that's wherei miessed up)
Anyway, a few weeks after our first date, our school was having a dance. I was skeptical about asking, becaue during this time a mutual friend of ours had been telling me that she was seeing another guy too, she had lunchw/ him a couple times, but he was hella shy. So i grabbed my balls, called her up and asked her to the dance. She said yes, so that sat... off we went.
It was a great night, we met up with her friends (seniors who i didn't kno) at a restraunt, ate and talked, then went to the dance. She looked amazing... During the last slow dance of the night, i told her how i felt about her and that i wanted her to be my g/f. She replied.. "sure" That kind of got to me, but i shrugged it off.
Ok, that was bout 1 and a half months ago. We went out fo ra month, and at the beginning it was grea.t but i think i paid too much attention or something, bc towards the 3rd week i could tell her IL was dropping. THen... she hit me with it a day before thxgiving.
She gave me the old... "I wanna see other people too, because it's my last year in h/s... and i'm a senior and things wouldn't work out when i moved to college, but is till wanna see you because you're a great guy and i really erally like you" I was devistated... this was on her driveway, so i jus ttood there babbling about how i understood, and then i drove home. The next day she sends mea text msg wishing me a happy thxgiving, telling me she cares and didn't wana hurt me. Then she keeps IM'n me and saying she wants to talk.. so i finally agreed that she coudl call me later if she wanted to talk. She said ok.
No cal all day, at 9:45 i get online and she IM's me saying "hey.. if you still wanna talk i can call you in 15 minutes" i said "that's ok" and went to my room. 15 minutes later she called twice, once from her phone and once from her moms to see if i was ignoring her. I went back to my comp and talked, and she was getting frustrated b/c i had been blowing her off... and was almot to the point where she dind't care anymore. So stupidly i apologized and called HER back. (AFC mistake 1), and we talked and agreed to be friends and stuff...
That was about 3 weeks ago. That monday after we talkded, we went to a concert together and she acted exactly like we were stilla c ouple, holding my hand, hugging on me, then when we got home she pulled me back and kissed me before i left....? I was confused, but it went on like this for a few weeks at school, i stil hugged her goodbye, we sitll did lots of kino, and i asked her to hang out w/ me on one friday night. well the plans we originally had got cancelled, so ic alled her and said call me back so we can find somethign else to do.. she never called back.
I confronted her about this (on aim, but it was late) and she said she didn't call b/c she couldn't think of something for us to do, and dind't wanan interrupt me while i was doing something. I knew this was bs, so we kept talkinga bout it... and eventually she said "i didn't call also.. b/c i don't want to send you the message that i'm only interested in you, i stnad by my decision to see otehr guys too". SO taht's when i let loose, i asked about the concert, and everythign else, she said "that's what you do on DATES, we're not goign steady, but we can date". So i was just like ok that's fine, and we ended it on good terms.
Next night.. she blows me off online, it's like one of those things where you can tell someone is blowing you off, but you can't prove it? It went something like this
me : yo yo
no response for 20 or so minutes
me : well iwas just gonan ask if you wanted to play yahoo pool, but i guess you're gone.. so i'll see ya later
her 10 minutes later : umm i don't think i can
me : ok.. , howwas your shopping at the mall!
her : fun
me : somethin wrong?>
her : nope
me : oh ok
she doens't respond fo ra while so i say once again
me : seriously, what's the matter
her : nothing is the matter, seriously
me : then why are you blowing me off
her : i'm not blowing you off
SOooo we got into a huge fight about it, and she kept saying she wasn't blowing me off, even though i kno she was. So we ended it and didn't talk till monday at school. I walked up behind her in calc and tried to talk to her, and she gave me a hella cold shoulder. i apologized, but she wasn't relaly buying it. She pretended too, and we talked fora little but she seemed more interested in reading soem magazine, so i got up and walked back to my seat.
Later that night, i called her up, got the voicemail, i said something like.
"hey.. i don't blame you for not picking up, i'm just calling to say how sorry i really am, i don't argue much and i didn't nkow what to do so i asked soem freinds for advice, and instead of listening to me, i listened to them.. i know if someone did that to me i'd be really mad too.. sorry for acting like such a jerk.. if you don't wanna talk to me, or call me back i'll understand... bye"
3 minutse later she calls me back.. "hey i got your message". me "oh good" her "so.. what'd you wanan talk about"
me "just about how sorry i was and i took bad advice", she kept trying to get me to tell her what the advice was. and finally i just made something up.. anyway we kind of ended on good terms and i was like "so are you still mad at me" and she goes "a little, but i'll get over it in a couple days".
WEll taht was 5 days ago, since then she IM'd me twice, we talked like things were kind of normal, but when i IM"d her the day before yesterday i got the same behavior as before, the blowin off type. It's like this girl can be two different ways, she's really enthusiastic and stuff one day, the next she's just like "hi, nothing you, ok"
Ok... if you've been keeping up with me, you'll know my story, but if not here's a brief synopsis.
About 3 months ago, I met a senior girl (we'll call her "joan"). Now, up until this year i was a MAJOR AFC, i had bad oneitis for freshman and sophomore year, and neve thought i'd get over that girl, but this year iw as out going, flirted with girls, and met joan. She was awesome, and for some strange reason she liked me back. Well it all started when one day, me and all my friends went to see a movie. In math class i asked joan, JOKINGLY if she wanted to go, the movie was at such and such at X time. She said "haha maybe". Well i didn't expect her to show at all, in fact i had completely forgotten i invited her.. but come time for the movie, low and behold she was there? Afterwards i rode with her to this park place, because my friends and I were all going to play tennis, and i asked if she wanted to go. She did. We got there earlier than everyone else, and walked and talked and it felt great. For the first time, i thought i was gonna have a girlfriend. SO as the night passed, i got her number and said i'd call her over the weekend and we'd hang out. She said ok.
Next day, i call and we agree to go out that night. I'm hella excited and i was my car get it clean in and out, all day i spend getting ready. That night she didn't call me to tell her waht time to pick her up, and on AIM she tells me that her parents at the last minute were making her go to an engagement. So i was like ok, raincheck, but yeah i was kinda bummed. I thought she lost interest.
WEll.... next weekend we did in fact rain checka nd we went out, on what i am proud to say was my first official date with a girl, ever. I picked her up, we ate dinner, went to this haunted house thing and then a movie. It was one of the best nights of my life. I was realy falling for this girl, she was funny, cute (HB.. 7 or 8), smart, cool to hang out with. So we continued like that for like 4 weeks. Every weekend we'd hang out on at least one day... and we talked every night on aim (i think that's wherei miessed up)
Anyway, a few weeks after our first date, our school was having a dance. I was skeptical about asking, becaue during this time a mutual friend of ours had been telling me that she was seeing another guy too, she had lunchw/ him a couple times, but he was hella shy. So i grabbed my balls, called her up and asked her to the dance. She said yes, so that sat... off we went.
It was a great night, we met up with her friends (seniors who i didn't kno) at a restraunt, ate and talked, then went to the dance. She looked amazing... During the last slow dance of the night, i told her how i felt about her and that i wanted her to be my g/f. She replied.. "sure" That kind of got to me, but i shrugged it off.
Ok, that was bout 1 and a half months ago. We went out fo ra month, and at the beginning it was grea.t but i think i paid too much attention or something, bc towards the 3rd week i could tell her IL was dropping. THen... she hit me with it a day before thxgiving.
She gave me the old... "I wanna see other people too, because it's my last year in h/s... and i'm a senior and things wouldn't work out when i moved to college, but is till wanna see you because you're a great guy and i really erally like you" I was devistated... this was on her driveway, so i jus ttood there babbling about how i understood, and then i drove home. The next day she sends mea text msg wishing me a happy thxgiving, telling me she cares and didn't wana hurt me. Then she keeps IM'n me and saying she wants to talk.. so i finally agreed that she coudl call me later if she wanted to talk. She said ok.
No cal all day, at 9:45 i get online and she IM's me saying "hey.. if you still wanna talk i can call you in 15 minutes" i said "that's ok" and went to my room. 15 minutes later she called twice, once from her phone and once from her moms to see if i was ignoring her. I went back to my comp and talked, and she was getting frustrated b/c i had been blowing her off... and was almot to the point where she dind't care anymore. So stupidly i apologized and called HER back. (AFC mistake 1), and we talked and agreed to be friends and stuff...
That was about 3 weeks ago. That monday after we talkded, we went to a concert together and she acted exactly like we were stilla c ouple, holding my hand, hugging on me, then when we got home she pulled me back and kissed me before i left....? I was confused, but it went on like this for a few weeks at school, i stil hugged her goodbye, we sitll did lots of kino, and i asked her to hang out w/ me on one friday night. well the plans we originally had got cancelled, so ic alled her and said call me back so we can find somethign else to do.. she never called back.
I confronted her about this (on aim, but it was late) and she said she didn't call b/c she couldn't think of something for us to do, and dind't wanan interrupt me while i was doing something. I knew this was bs, so we kept talkinga bout it... and eventually she said "i didn't call also.. b/c i don't want to send you the message that i'm only interested in you, i stnad by my decision to see otehr guys too". SO taht's when i let loose, i asked about the concert, and everythign else, she said "that's what you do on DATES, we're not goign steady, but we can date". So i was just like ok that's fine, and we ended it on good terms.
Next night.. she blows me off online, it's like one of those things where you can tell someone is blowing you off, but you can't prove it? It went something like this
me : yo yo
no response for 20 or so minutes
me : well iwas just gonan ask if you wanted to play yahoo pool, but i guess you're gone.. so i'll see ya later
her 10 minutes later : umm i don't think i can
me : ok.. , howwas your shopping at the mall!
her : fun
me : somethin wrong?>
her : nope
me : oh ok
she doens't respond fo ra while so i say once again
me : seriously, what's the matter
her : nothing is the matter, seriously
me : then why are you blowing me off
her : i'm not blowing you off
SOooo we got into a huge fight about it, and she kept saying she wasn't blowing me off, even though i kno she was. So we ended it and didn't talk till monday at school. I walked up behind her in calc and tried to talk to her, and she gave me a hella cold shoulder. i apologized, but she wasn't relaly buying it. She pretended too, and we talked fora little but she seemed more interested in reading soem magazine, so i got up and walked back to my seat.
Later that night, i called her up, got the voicemail, i said something like.
"hey.. i don't blame you for not picking up, i'm just calling to say how sorry i really am, i don't argue much and i didn't nkow what to do so i asked soem freinds for advice, and instead of listening to me, i listened to them.. i know if someone did that to me i'd be really mad too.. sorry for acting like such a jerk.. if you don't wanna talk to me, or call me back i'll understand... bye"
3 minutse later she calls me back.. "hey i got your message". me "oh good" her "so.. what'd you wanan talk about"
me "just about how sorry i was and i took bad advice", she kept trying to get me to tell her what the advice was. and finally i just made something up.. anyway we kind of ended on good terms and i was like "so are you still mad at me" and she goes "a little, but i'll get over it in a couple days".
WEll taht was 5 days ago, since then she IM'd me twice, we talked like things were kind of normal, but when i IM"d her the day before yesterday i got the same behavior as before, the blowin off type. It's like this girl can be two different ways, she's really enthusiastic and stuff one day, the next she's just like "hi, nothing you, ok"
