A Life Story that taught me the essence of what "Women Desire" stands for

[jhonny9546]

Hi there, guys!

I want to tell you a little story. Of course, I don't want to say the real names, but this really is just to make you understand what really is desire and what a woman will do for you. The scenario happened when all the characters were 18 years old. The story is real

Characters:
Sara is a very kind and social person with anyone. She always has a smile for anyone and helps others.
Danny is a very rude guy and really stupid in his ways of doing things.
Marco is a very nice guy, and he's also very intelligent.

Story:
Sara and Danny getting to know each other, becoming friends, then entering into a relationship, and eventually having sex.
After three months, Danny found out that Sara had cheated on him with Marco, just a one-night stand.
You can imagine Danny now sees Sara as a *****, and he really cannot stand her anymore.
Sara starts going crazy. This is where the story unfolds, and we need to understand what's happening.
So we know that Sara has cheated, but now she starts to stalk and seek out Danny. If Danny goes out with his friends, Sara is there to bother him to come back together in the relationship, but Danny doesn't want to hear.
She can't sleep, eat, or just live without Danny, and she is always in front of Danny's house. She would also try to climb over the fence to meet Danny. She would do crazy things just to see Danny. She says she will kill herself if Danny will not get back into the relationship.
Now, this couple is together again, and it's been five years since that episode.
Story Ends.

I really like to analyze real-life stories, but what I really like to analyze are the dynamics behind those stories, which drive a person mad for another one. So what are the takeaways of this story?

1. Some women have an unfulfilled childhood need: In this case, absent parents gave her a fear of abandonment.
2. Some women will do crazy things for the guy they want: She will make it so obvious she wants you that you won't need to read any book or try any course. It will be obvious.
3. Some men will forgive: Why is Danny taking her back if he knows she cheated on him? Would you ever do it if a women shows She wants you so hard?
4. Vulpes pilum mutat, non mores: Hypergamy teaches us this could happen again.


I'm sure there are many more lessons to learn; write your takeways!

 

[CaptFinnBad]

My takeaway.....

"Sara is a very kind and social person with anyone. She always has a smile for anyone and helps others."

Sara isn't kind, she's basically a scumbag wearing a social mask. She's also an abusive, manipulative mental case.

"Marco is a very nice guy, and he's also very intelligent"

Marco isn't a nice guy, since he put his D into crazy knowing crazy was in a relationship (im assuming he knew as you said he was intelligent. Not that hard to read women. )

"Danny is a very rude guy and really stupid in his ways of doing things."

Nothing in the story suggests Danny is rude (mabye he is mabye he isn't?. Not enough info) Danny is really stupid though, his girlfriend jumped on another guys D, started stalking him, went full on psycho mode and he wants onto a 5 year relationship with her.


Moral of the story Danny should have bought a Labrador retriever and replaced Sara with going on long walks with his loyal companion.

 

[parabellum]

I have seen the Sara character in men too. I’d say it’s on us to recognize the traits and if you can’t avoid it at least be a Marco.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

I think the word you want there is taught not teached. That word doesn't exist.

Fixed it for you.

 

[jhonny9546]

Nice povs

 

[jhonny9546]

There is a great article which explain desire dynamics https://psicofelicita.blogspot.com/2011/11/come-mantenere-il-desiderio-sempre-vivo.html

 

[Mike32ct]

I’m surprised Sara hooked up with Marco. When I first read that Marco was an intelligent nice guy, my first guess was he’d be a good friendzone guy for long talks instead.

But we know nothing about Marco’s looks. Maybe he is better looking than we thought.

 

[BaronOfHair]

Hi there, guys!

I want to tell you a little story. Of course, I don't want to say the real names, but this really is just to make you understand what really is desire and what a woman will do for you. The scenario happened when all the characters were 18 years old. The story is real

Characters:
Sara is a very kind and social person with anyone. She always has a smile for anyone and helps others.
Danny is a very rude guy and really stupid in his ways of doing things.
Marco is a very nice guy, and he's also very intelligent.

Story:
Sara and Danny getting to know each other, becoming friends, then entering into a relationship, and eventually having sex.
After three months, Danny found out that Sara had cheated on him with Marco, just a one-night stand.
You can imagine Danny now sees Sara as a *****, and he really cannot stand her anymore.
Sara starts going crazy. This is where the story unfolds, and we need to understand what's happening.
So we know that Sara has cheated, but now she starts to stalk and seek out Danny. If Danny goes out with his friends, Sara is there to bother him to come back together in the relationship, but Danny doesn't want to hear.
She can't sleep, eat, or just live without Danny, and she is always in front of Danny's house. She would also try to climb over the fence to meet Danny. She would do crazy things just to see Danny. She says she will kill herself if Danny will not get back into the relationship.
Now, this couple is together again, and it's been five years since that episode.
Story Ends.

I really like to analyze real-life stories, but what I really like to analyze are the dynamics behind those stories, which drive a person mad for another one. So what are the takeaways of this story?

1. Some women have an unfulfilled childhood need: In this case, absent parents gave her a fear of abandonment.
2. Some women will do crazy things for the guy they want: She will make it so obvious she wants you that you won't need to read any book or try any course. It will be obvious.
3. Some men will forgive: Why is Danny taking her back if he knows she cheated on him? Would you ever do it if a women shows She wants you so hard?
4. Vulpes pilum mutat, non mores: Hypergamy teaches us this could happen again.


I'm sure there are many more lessons to learn; write your takeways!

I presume you're Marco

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

I presume you're Marco

Or he gender swapped with Sara

 

[BillyPilgrim]

You have to account for the fact these are Italian characters in the story. The rest of the world isn't quite as dramatic.

 

[Serenity]

What Sara really wants is Marco, that's why the one night stand happened, but Sara is broken.

Sara is damaged, subconsciously she thinks she doesn't deserve Marco, the next best thing is Danny who she feels more comfortable with given whatever fvcked up trauma she has.

I have a female cousin about my age, we're pretty close and talk about fairly personal things. She's exactly like this. Her choice in men is fvcking stupid and knowing her trauma I also know that's the cause. Deep down she doesn't feel she's worthy of someone better. Trust me when I say that she has had ample opportunity with men who I know are good choices (because I know them), men who I would consider about the same value as myself. She'll get to know them, make out with them and then she does a 180 not because there's anything wrong with him, it's because there's something wrong with her. She just can't take it, he's to good for her, he's out of her league and so she disqualifies herself.

It's fvcking stupid, but broken women blow their chances just as much as broken men. The truth here is that Sara is broken, Marco is the better choice, but she doesn't value herself enough to go for it. Danny is a piece of sh!t, exactly what she deserves in her sadistic view of herself. He's like her, low value. More comfortable.

The relationship between Sara and Danny is going to end eventually, it's built on a rotten foundation from the start. The moment any of them figures out they want to grow is the beginning of the end for their relationship, it only works as long as they're both stuck in the immature state they're currently in. The chances of them growing together is astronomically small, because they're both used to just being stuck where they are.