Refer to coochieman's first thread... From Chump To Champ.
My last oneitis (girl that hardened my heart, blood and soul) had this very close friend I used to bone on the side. She'd frequently tell me how much of a slore my girl was and how i was "putting way too much effort (money and time wise) on her". I would shrug her off and tell myself she was saying that out of jealousy because she just wanted me to herself alone. Ha!.
Let me tell you how pathetic I was....
I waited one and a half fucckin' years for sex!!!... She finally let me in b'cos she heard some other girl wanted to bone me. She only fuccked me in delight once!!!
Her parents heard stuff about she being a slore and I didn't see this as a red flag.
Her father caught us kissin' once and got mad saying "She was always with different guys"....
She made me believe he didn't know what he was sayin'... makin' me promise never to leave her.
My friend told me his friend had banged her numerous times (all three live close)... I didnt believe.
She went out overnight with some dude that was trying to bone her. They went to study. Although she never denied the fact that she knew the dude wanted to bang her... And I allowed.
She cheated on me thrice!... She'd do it, then break up immediately. So I'd be the one to do the "begging". At this point, she'd tell me sex didn't occur, but that she only gave nice-jobs to the givee... I forgave, since I was secretly gettin' mine from other sources too.
And the funniest of them all... I dis-virgined her. Or so I thought.
No single atom of blood. No gateway hindrance. No tightness. Nothing. She told me the blood started to flow when she went upstairs. I was so done with her lies I requested for the panties! She told me she disposed of it! :crackup: Pressurizing any futher would be too much trouble, so I stopped.
Finally came the D-Day when she came up to my crib and
*gbam*!!!!! She dropped her well aimed missile right on my Hiroshima-tic soul, telling me how she's been on a banging spree all along unapologetically... Still remember it like it was yesterday.
Oh, what a life changing experience.
Why did I fall victim for all all this?
Because asides the fact I was pure raw hardcore WBafc,
She really really really made me think she was a nice good misunderstood girl. She taught Sunday school kids, she was always in church (We had so many of our dates in church, even sex). She'd always take our matters to prayers and even preached to her own friends (all those ones didn't fall for it, tho'). Even when she committed a crime, she still played victim.
Here's wisdom at a glance:
In my experience the "nice girls" are the worst of them all. They really know how to lay on the guilt trip, play innocent, play the victim, play sweet and submissive, and they have a range of tactics in their arsenal of manipulation. Just watch out for them!
The whole point of being a player is to not be perceived as one. They all put on a good girl act. This is how they lower your defenses and get you to fall for their "sweetness". They're nice girls looking for relationships, and play the role very well.
Be happy you got her in the sack. Look at all the guys here who were never able to get their oneitis into bed, and only wished they could. You're one of the lucky ones.
That basically no matter how you've built her up in your head, she is almost certainly not what you think she is.
Tough but when you are a guy dating multiple women this kind of thing will happen from time to time.
Just wait till you find out two chicks you are banging know each other or are actually good friends. That gets ugly fast!!!
The thing is, women arent throwing away their marriage, unless of course THEY decide, they no longer want to be in the marriage, if there are benefits to staying married, they will simply go undercover and boy women are good at deception.
I have to take responsibility though as it's my own fault for letting my guard down and falling way too fast.
Last time I boned her friend, she was like "
Ha Ha Ha, You see ? I told ya, didn't I? She's a dog. I couldn't tell you more 'cos you always told her everything I told you."
We laughed and fuccked about it all night. Turns out this girl too told her own boyfriend that I was her "cousin" so he'd let us stay together in the same room while he slept happily elsewhere. Damn! Girls!!
How the **** am I 'sposed to believe them anymore?!